A visionary thinker
The incumbent cannot be thoughtful and lacks foresight, which is what the counselors need to advise. Because the teeth of social life are intertwined, the auspicious and evil blessings and misfortunes complement each other. Sophisticated people would rather consider the problems more complicated than superficial. Therefore, there is a series of "Visionary Think Tanks".
1. "Knocking on the side" means taking some directly spoken words and direct things, taking a roundabout way, euphemistically expressing them or implementing them flexibly, so as to take better results. Song Taizu's cup of wine to release military power is like this. He voiced his concerns in a veiled manner, cleverly addressing the destabilizing factors in the political situation. It not only avoids the contradictions and conflicts between the monarchs and subjects, but also strengthens the centralization of power, which can really be described as a lot of work. Many things in life, especially related to interpersonal relationships, do not have to explain the specific crux of the problem, just need to make a little hint, point to the end, you can be cleverly solved. On the contrary, it is easy to be self-defeating and lose his original meaning. So sometimes, glasses and smiles are more problem-solving than fists.
2. People who can achieve great things are valuable in the choice of goals and behaviors. If there is no great faith in everything, and everything must be done, it is bound to fall into the confusion and become a person who does nothing. Therefore, we must give up some things and not do them, and then we can achieve great things and make a difference. The difficulty of entering into words is manifested in the same thing, different people to say, or the same person to say to different people, will have different effects. For example, when the ancient sages saw the king, they generally had to find someone who was favored by the king to introduce him, and if the person who recommended it was not a person who was favored, although the person recommended was virtuous, he often could not see it. Today's people understand the truth of "what people say" and do not say anything in the position, but say that they should only say things in the position, and cause more trouble.
3. Lü Duan's idea of putting his heart first broke the fighting spirit of the judges, and the history books said: "Lü Duan is not confused about major matters. In fact, it is not only that big things are not confused, but he also has a broad mind, which is a necessary quality for people who do big things. The so-called "water to the clear, there is no fish, people to see the no vain." The water was too clear, as clear as the water in the pool, and no fish could survive in it; man was too discerning, too harsh, too harsh to rub his eyes into the sand, and no one would want to follow you at that time. As the saying goes: "No one is perfect without gold." In fact, this is also the truth. In Chinese history, there are many famous allusions and stories of "wide is won by the many", such as the king of Chuzhuang who was absolutely happy, Meng Yujun did not kill the disciples who committed adultery with his wife, Han Gaozu reused Chen Ping, Tang Taizong did not pursue Guo Ziyi's son to offend himself, and Song Taizu tolerated and accepted bribes. On the contrary, there are also many examples of self-inflicted wounds because of "not wide on top". Therefore, not being at the top is the fatal wound of the leader, and the tolerance of the belly is the minimum requirement of the leader. Being open-minded is beneficial to oneself and to others. In an open nature and society, the advantages are locked in a small circle, and their advantages must not exist for a long time. It can be seen that being narrow-minded is really the biggest taboo in doing big things.
4. When we have not collected sufficient evidence or materials, do not make judgments or conclusions, although sometimes risking is also an investment, you can receive unexpected results, but in most cases, it is better to be humble and cautious. Do everything with think twice.
5. Lao Tzu said: "The five colors are blinding, the five tones are deaf, and the five tastes are refreshing." Excessive comfort makes people lose their vitality, and excessive doting makes children lazy, which many people understand, but it is not easy to do well when encountering practical problems. Li Xunju was modest and cautious, thought deeply and far-sightedly, was clear in government, did not harm the public with selfishness, and was always worried about the future fate of the imperial court, and his loyalty and righteousness could be revealed. He is well aware of the principle of "born in distress and died in comfort", and always does not forget to think of danger in times of peace and prevent microaggressions. However, in the end, the good words were against the ears, and the young Zhenzong was content with the status quo, so happy that he could not listen to the advice about the people's suffering and the safety of the society.
6. This truth is suitable for everyone, especially in today's increasingly fierce competition, a person can only be full of vitality at all times. How do you do that? That is constant stimulation, constant stimulation. Looking at a person's life, there are two main things to do: one is to be a person, and the other is to deal with the world. Therefore, when people are young, they must be educated, learn how to behave, and learn various skills in the world. Only in this way can we realize our good wishes and enjoy a happy life. In interpersonal communication, understanding empathy is the embodiment of noble personality. You know, in life, the power of personality is priceless, it will bring endless joy and happiness to a person's life. Ordinary people with noble personalities, think about problems, do things, and know how to be reasonable, so popularity must not be wrong.
The concrete manifestation of reasonableness is benevolence, righteousness, courtesy, wisdom, and faith. Although reasonableness is not material wealth, and may not be able to resist the sword on the real battlefield, as a powerful spiritual wealth, using them as armor and shields can indeed resist the temptation of material and various desires, and hold on to the pure land of one's soul in a complex world.
7. For those who have bad intentions and deliberately try to trap others, we must not be afraid, but first of all, we must have a pride, we must have the courage to overwhelm the other side; in addition, we must also pay attention to a little strategy of struggle, and there are two points, which can be invincible. Jiang Bin was such a ghost realm disciple, thinking that he had a plan, but in the end he ended up with a despicable end that was insulted against him and revealed his original form. What Yang Yin Gong shows here is an unrepentant awe-inspiring righteousness and a reasonable and disciplined "diplomatic ability." In the face of the majestic image, the adulterous and evil people are so obscene and despicable!
8. Crying is a way for people to express or vent a certain emotion, there are sadness and joy, the "function" of crying is very rich, especially some politicians with ulterior motives, the role of crying has been played to the extreme, so that on the chinese historical stage, there are many allusions about "crying", such as Liu De's willingness to cry to seek officials during the Southern Dynasty Song Xiaowu Emperor; Zhou Qu in the Three Kingdoms period to cry to deceive; Tang Yao Chong's crying to avoid disasters.
When encountering ups and downs, disasters, and disasters, you can often avoid them in the way of crying. Just like Yao Chong in the story. Yao Chong's cleverness is not only to avoid disasters by crying, but more importantly, he has foresight, anticipating that he may cause trouble in the future by forcing Wu to retreat, so he "cries" to Wu Hou to see, in order to show his heart.
At the critical moment, using crying to impress the other party, making the other party's attitude ease or change the original intention is also a kind of wisdom that modern people can adopt. It's just that you have to use it just right, and you must not use this trick everywhere, so that "crying" will not work.
9. Bi Zhongyou said the best in his letter to Sima Guang, that is, "If you don't have the conditions to do things and want to do it, then although the 'Green Shoots Law' has been abolished, it will be implemented again, let alone abolished." "To reform, we must first replace the old with the new, and if the old is not removed, how can the new be implemented?" Only by cleaning up the old ones can the new ones be implemented. Otherwise, when the old and the new are together, there will inevitably be conflicts.
Similarly, when we do things, we must first consider what conditions are needed to do this thing, only when the conditions are met, can it be carried out smoothly, otherwise the conditions are not available, and you will not be able to complete it in any case.
10. People are often overwhelmed by the flattery and flattery of others, and as a result they lose themselves. Be exploited without knowing it. Why can't you stay sane, calmly analyze yourself, and understand yourself? Only by recognizing yourself can you move forward happily and cheerfully on the road of life, and let yourself walk more steadily and more steadily.
Material gifts and beautiful words do not represent a person's sincerity. When interacting with friends, you must have the ability to distinguish between right and wrong, judge right and wrong, and don't lose yourself because of precious gifts and clever words.
True friends are precious in the heart, Confucius once said: "Friendship, friendship, friendship and hearing." "A friend who can point out your shortcomings at any time, can care for you, and tolerates you is a friend who is really worth interacting with." If your friend has a wealth of knowledge, it is a great blessing in life to guide you to the journey of tireless learning.
There are many types of friends, and how to judge a friend who is worth making deep and shallow will have a great impact on your future. As for some lack of sincere interest exchanges, it is even more appropriate to stop.
11. Sima Guang once said: "Those who are officials should think more about the big picture and give up trivial things." "In ancient and modern China and abroad, those who want to do great things cannot think about small things; those who achieve great things cannot consider trivialities. Big people don't stick to small sections, and then they can achieve big things. Liu Yan's exposition shows that it is precisely because of the miserliness of small money that hinders major events. This also fully demonstrates his extraordinary foresight.
As the saying goes, eating small losses takes advantage of big profits, and this story illustrates this truth. Because of the temporary loss, in exchange for long-term benefits, many shrewd entrepreneurs today have realized this truth and thus embarked on the road of healthy development.
12. The sun, moon, and stars originally changed constantly, and the ancients said: "Heaven is constant, not for Yao inches, not for Shun' death." "Therefore, the way of heaven is science, and there is a certain law of change, not superstition. As for the boring words that link the changes of nature with bad luck and bad luck, they are superstitions. Li Sheng's criticism and behavior of superstition in discourse show that he is not swayed by idealistic thoughts, and his insight is indeed higher than that of ordinary people.
13. Since ancient times, marriage in China has paid attention to the right door, but Pei Kuan's status is underground and his appearance is ugly, wei Shishi still decided to choose him as a son-in-law; Li You did not rely on Gaomen to win a false name, and chose a young general as a son-in-law. This is because they dare to confront feudal consciousness. They know very well that noble men are prone to clumsiness, and on the contrary, people of low status or in adversity can inspire the determination to work upwards. Sima Guang once said: "If you marry a daughter-in-law, you must marry a woman whose family is not as well as mine." The daughter-in-law's family is not as good as mine, and when she marries, she knows that she is diligent and simple; her daughter's family is not as good as others, and when she marries, she knows that she is afraid and cautious. "It's also a challenge to the customs of the door-to-door.
These two stories also show that Wei Yi and Li You are good at recognizing people, and they do not take people from the outside, but judge people with their integrity and kindness at heart. This should be the case for the selection of sons-in-law by assassins, and the same should be true for leaders in choosing subordinates. In real life, leaders should learn to identify talents and put their character first.
14. Care for and love the younger generations, and those who are elders should have a far-sighted vision, should have a long-term perspective, and should see their great future. Therefore, it is necessary to strictly demand the juniors from all aspects, and put them into adversity to be tempered, rather than short-sighted, overly indulgent and doting. If this is done, it will only harm the future of the younger generations, making them only covet the comfort and pleasure in front of them, and then lose their lofty ambitions, and those who are in high positions of officials and eunuchs should strictly do this, remembering that "details determine success or failure", and everything must start from small things. In real life, the reason why some lawbreakers took the first step in the first place was mostly because of the indulgence and doting of their elders, which made them look at no one, boldly cover the sky, despise everything, take themselves as the center, and do whatever they wanted. Therefore, we modern people, especially some parents, should learn from Wang Dan in the education of their children, consider the long term, support their children to study and serve in remote areas and grass-roots areas, and go to a difficult environment to exercise and become mature.
15. Because society is complex, many things tend to be beyond its own scope, so we can measure a thing, and we cannot simply use money as a scalar. Qian Weng spent money to buy peace, sacrificed a small profit for a while, and obtained long-term peace, which is his cleverness.
16. The abbot of the Lower Rock Temple is wise, although the cornucopia is good, it makes people greedy, corrodes people's souls, and poisons people's minds, so the ancients put forward the idea of "thinking of danger in peace". There is a story in Aesop's fables: a wild boar grinds its fangs against a tree trunk, and a fox sees it and asks it why it doesn't lie down and rest for pleasure, and it hasn't seen the hunter yet! The boar replied, "It will be too late to grind your teeth when the hunters and hounds appear!" This wild boar is because it has a sense of crisis.
This parable tells us: in times of success, do not forget that there is a crisis lurking behind us, in times of success, we must be vigilant against difficulties and setbacks, and when making plans, we must leave sufficient room. Only by maintaining a "sense of crisis" at all times can you calmly face any difficulties and crises that arise, and can you always have a clear mind.
17. There is a difference between gifts and heavy gifts, and there is a difference between elegance and customs in bribery. In the process of bribery, the impression of sending money to things is always a common word, and using items that "Yashi" likes as bribes has "elegant fun" and will surprise the bribe-taker. Therefore, those who "bribe" are bribed by their own choice of "love".
These hobbyists are not ordinary people, but those "gentlemen" who hold a certain amount of authority. As the Qing Dynasty thinker Zhao Yi said: "Wherever the power is, profit follows." "It is known that bribery follows the power set ... This right to bribe the past also". This is his unique insightful conclusion from the incident of the Ming Dynasty's confiscation of the property of the powerful.
Bribery follows the concentration of power, indeed, as long as the power is located, bribery seems to be pervasive, which is why anti-corruption and honesty have been a major focus of the rule of officials since ancient times. There is also a famous saying, "Where the good lies, although the mountain of a thousand servants is omnipresent; under the abyss, there is everything." "When people see profits and money, their courage expands infinitely, so many officials risk being dismissed and killed, knowingly committing crimes.
18. Unity is strength. As the saying goes: "When the hearts of the people are united, Tarzan moves." "As long as we are united, any difficulty in the world can be overcome, and any miracle can be created." There are many examples of unity between the upper and lower levels, and the victory of the weak over the strong are numerous in the history of Chinese and foreign wars, such as the Battle of Shuishui in the Eastern Jin Dynasty and the prelude, and the near ones such as the War of Resistance Against Japanese Aggression in China. The Tuguhun Emperor Ah Jackal folded arrows to symbolize unity, vividly and profoundly educated his children, it is indeed admirable, he can be called a shrewd and wise man among the ethnic minorities.