How to face death?

I went to the hospital today, saw a lot of people, and thought of a lot of things.

Recently, I went to the hospital a lot, every three to five to go, because it was a weekend, some departments in the outpatient clinic did not work, I went to the inpatient department again, where I saw a lot of new faces, but also the patients I knew before.

Some newly diagnosed, family members at the door frowned bitterly, some suspected cases are still at the door, very firmly determined about their own condition, they can never get these diseases. Some patients, because they know their condition, always pull the brim of their hats very low, and do not want to communicate with people too much, because they feel that they are very ashamed of getting sick. The vast majority of patients I saw were lying in bed, mentally ill, with hollow eyes, pale faces, and all kinds of uncomfortable faces and postures. I think of the people here, and everyone has a problem, which is to think about death. Those who are less ill may look lighter, but we all know that even if they are more relaxed, they cannot escape this problem: how to face death.

No one can escape death, but no matter who it is, even if it is 80 years old, I believe that most people do not want to face this problem, and those who come here to treat their illness want to save their own lives, otherwise they will not come. So, for them, death is something they have to face.

Before facing it, they must think a lot, such as the cost of treatment, the pain caused by treatment, and the pain that may be experienced before death, will they go to heaven and hell after death? What will happen to the people you love and your loved ones and friends? And so on, all kinds of realistic problems and hypothetical problems. But I also believe that there are more people who will stop thinking about this problem, and be more obsessed with their own cure and will be fine. Death is something they don't want to face.

I met the 15-year-old girl again, her situation I probably know, she is acute leukemia m2, the cure rate of about 50%, found last year, after a round of 8 courses of treatment, this year relapsed, and the second course of treatment to do the fifth time, her type, if it is a recurrence then do bone marrow transplantation, unfortunately her situation alone rely on chemotherapy has no way, if you do not do bone marrow transplantation, the consequences are unimaginable. I sympathize with her, because I am also very close to her, and I can often meet her when I am in the hospital, so I will often talk to her bedmate family members and her mother, trying to comfort her mother, but you will find that the words of comfort will seem so pale and weak. Even so, I would still talk to them about how the chemotherapy felt? How is it going in the hospital? What about at home? This time the little girl's mother was not there, so it was the little girl who answered me. She was very simple, not as complicated as an adult, she directly told me, I have a recurrence... Although a few simple words, I can feel the helplessness of a simple little girl for death, her voice is very young, her face is very pure, I don't know how she views death, it is also possible that she is more transparent than us adults, she has become accustomed to facing, it is also possible that their families have protected her very well, she has always had a strong motivation to survive.

Like this department, most of them are elderly, there are also many children and teenagers, some middle-aged people, I think people who come here, must think about this problem! There was also a 68-year-old man that day, and before he was diagnosed, when the doctor called his wife to the office to talk about the situations that would occur, her wife cried at the door, and it could be seen that the dependence of his wife on the old man was deep and the feelings of the two were deep. Even in the age of the Flower Armor, their fear of death and parting has not weakened because of their age.

The fear of death, I think, is a subject that everyone needs to face, because of the fear of death, we will have a lot of worries, thinking about the future, thinking about the west, some people will be deep in the quagmire, for a long time can not extricate themselves, it will lead to depression. If a sick person has depression, it will be very serious. Therefore, in the face of death, it is especially necessary for those of us who are sick to see through. If he can face his life as he normally does when he is born with a serious illness, then I think he will see through it.

For me, I have also gone through a period of downturn, as if I have seen through, but I am also repeated, just like my own condition, up and down. Fortunately, my condition is not very bad, better than more than 90%.

Maybe we haven't really experienced death yet, and we've brushed shoulders with death a few times, but I think, like that simple little girl, death isn't as scary as we think, and we don't need to think about what happened before and after death, until the last moment of our lives, the moment before we're about to leave this world, we're just spending our time, and at that point of demarcation between life and death is as simple as we always are. I think for people, what causes suffering is whether we have lived ourselves in the days we have lived? Is there anything worthy of yourself? And you haven't done everything you want to do, you've done it? Have you ever had feelings that you really treated? Have you fulfilled your responsibilities and obligations? The life that should be enjoyed and not really enjoyed? If there are no regrets, then we have to cross this moment and also be able to achieve peace and quiet.

So no matter when, whether we are healthy or not, we must be serious about ourselves, do our best to do no regrets, and enjoy our lives to the fullest, which is the best solution for us to face the problem of death.