On April 1, 18 years ago, zhang Guorong, his brother, who was extremely beautiful, was plagued by depression and jumped from the 24th floor terrace to say goodbye to the world. Just like cheng die-yi in "Farewell to the Overlord", which makes countless movie fans intoxicated, it leaves half a life for the world and a lifetime of sorrow.
On April 1, 18 years later, the memorial service of musician Zhao Yingjun was held, and Yao Chen, Dapeng, Xiao Yang, Yue Yunpeng and Wang Xun sang "Send You a Little Red Flower" on the spot.
At the same time, the internet also exposed a paragraph of Zhao Yingjun's last words to the world, which was recorded as early as 2018, and he was still humorous and optimistic in the picture, facing death, and more strong and calm.
In the video, Zhao Yingjun frankly said that he wanted to say goodbye to everyone, he said:
This world is truly wonderful!
I hope you don't forget me!
A simple word seems to contain all the grief, tenacity, reluctance and attachment...
We who thought that we had gradually come out of the haze of the epidemic, but in 2021, only one-third of the time has passed, we have experienced too many farewells with life, Li Xiangqin, Wu Mengda, Liao Qizhi, Zhang Shaohua...
The images of these people have left a deep mark on their own lives, losing them is like losing a part of their own lives...
In so many years of being busy "giving birth", do we have a moment to think: if life is when it is time to leave, how will I treat it?
The author has no experience of death, but because of the work relationship, I have also experienced many life and death processes and farewells.
Almost every few days I receive a message about life and death, during which there are heart-wrenching deaths of loved ones, there are close friends on the line of life and death, there are colleagues who are in danger and misfortune, and even when I am attending the funeral of my relatives, I receive news of the death of my friends.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="13" > face death, life can only be feared? </h1>
In the face of death, even in today's highly developed medical technology, we are often powerless. But death is the fundamental guarantee of the maintenance of this world order.
Our fear of death leads us to spontaneously develop religions that see death as a reminder of God;
Our fear of death also led the state to invent laws that made death the ultimate punishment for those who disrupted the order;
Our fear of death also urges the rapid development of science and technology, and people fantasize that the speed of technological development can surpass the footsteps of the god of death;
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Our lives have their own lengths, some people die early, some people die young, some people live a long life.
But when death comes, it all seems pointless, whether you're 5 or 105.
Do you remember your dream last night? Life is actually like a dream.
When you wake up in the morning, all the worlds in the dream are gone, whether the dream is long or short.
When the farewell of life was really in front of me, it turned out that it was so painful that I was completely dazed and did not know how to treat it and myself. Only by experiencing it can we know the meaning of the separate issue of life and death, and how many people in this world there will be as many experiences of life and death as there are.
In Zen Buddhism, there is a public case in which a mother who is seriously ill with a child in her arms asks for help from a high monk who is enlightened, hoping to ask for the child's life. The monk said seriously that this disease can only be cured by folk preference. Now go to the city and find the home of a family that has not yet died, and ask for a bean to bring back and fry it. Therefore, the mother carried the sick child from house to inquire, but until the sun set, she did not find it, and then saw that the sick child in her arms had already died quietly. Grief-stricken, her mother returned to the monastery to rebuke the monks for deceiving her, and there was no family that had never died. The monk said, This is the truth I want to tell you.
Yes, like "life", "death" is only an integral part of the two sides of life, and it is as common and frequent as "life", but human beings have gathered and injured since ancient times, corresponding to the joy of life and fear of death.
Death is the ultimate farewell to life, and we will fear, grieve, or give up, worry, and we think that the existence of death makes these emotions happen. No, death is merely the same existence of life as life, but people give it too many perceptions and attitudes about the separation of life.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="13" > how do you view life and how do you respond to the parting of death? </h1>
Death is a parting lesson that we need to learn all our lives, and it shows how we should treat the "reunion of life." So, what kind of attitude should we face the final farewell of life?
What else does death bring us?
Remember a master psychologist said:
The dead never pestered the living, but the living cling to them.
However, the author believes that death is a reminder of life.
Life belongs to the individual, but it belongs to the group.
When we are born, we have a life of our own, which is unique.
But he overlaps with other lives, such as our parents, our partners, and our children.
If you think of life as space, your life occupies their space, and at the same time, their life occupies your space.
When your loved one dies, a certain part of your life goes with it, and this part cannot be replaced.
So, faced with this part of the loss, we begin to fear, to cry, or to regret.
But fear, sorrow, or regret, these emotions blind us, so that we can no longer see the nature of death and forget the truth of life.
We forget that life is unique, it is independent.
When we look directly at death with emotionless eyes, we see something different.
Your mother is dead – yes, it's true, it has nothing to do with your emotions, but it has to do with your life.
If there is no emotion, then let go of fear, put aside sadness, and put aside regret. You will see your death through the death of your mother, and you will see the death of your children and the death of your children and grandchildren.
Looking back, you can see your grandmother's death, your grandmother's grandmother...
You will find that each life is like a string of rosary beads twisting in the hands of monks, one after another, repeating the cycle, beginningless and endless...
If the moment when the rosary leaves the hand is regarded as a new life, the closer the rosary is to the hand, the closer death is, and no one can be spared.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="13" > life carries death from the beginning. </h1>
No matter what your life has done, death takes away its meaning, like a dream.
Many times, however, death comes suddenly and rapidly, and we cannot allow ourselves to deal with it calmly. In fact, what makes it difficult for us to deal with is not death itself, but the many unfinished regrets of parting.
The Chinese way of farewell and commemoration is complex and exquisite. People try to communicate with the deceased and express their condolences in the means they believe, and no one can comment on the merits of a method or a certain sacrifice, but in any case, people seem to have returned comfort and peace to themselves.
Death cannot be changed, so try to leave something that death cannot take away.
Don't make this "Sumire moment" too boring and too rigid;
If we cannot treat death with the attitude of accepting parting, then the entanglement of life must follow.
We need to understand the "life" thing through "death": living in the moment is always the most respectful practice of death.
Flowers blossom and fall, it is a season of blossoming, we will bury a long letter under the tree, to all the relatives and friends who have not been able to send goodbye, and the deceased relatives and friends who have not been able to send goodbye, in the letter I want to say, thank you for being together and accompanying in this life, until he is reunited on the day, we will help each other without tears, okay?
Everything is born with our birth. In the same way, everything disappears as we die. Therefore, we do not need to go insane and worry about what will happen when we are no longer alive a hundred years from now, just as we do not have to weep about what happened a hundred years ago when we were not yet born. Death is the beginning of another life.
In a hurry, writing this stream of consciousness text is barely a tribute to the deceased, and I hope to bring about the rethinking and interpretation of death by the living. The author has always believed that the memory and perception of death will eventually become a part of the process of life that will not be forgotten, and it will also become the most open-minded part of our lives.