#情感点评大赏 #
Text/Fly Bar Black Crow
It is said that love is very beautiful and beautiful, making people crazy, making people obsessed, we who have just opened our love sinuses always look forward to the beauty of love, from love we experience its sweetness, its excitement, its temptation, but hand in hand for a lifetime, what is the old with the white head?
Many couples, after walking through the sweetness and beauty of love, still choose to break up, and men and women after the breakup have to choose their partners in life again.
In fact, for boys, re-choosing a partner is just a new girlfriend, but girls are different, she is not only facing her own love, partner, and whether she can get the happiness and happiness of marriage once she gets married in the future, all of which is an unknown, why should I say this? Because most boys always want to find a "virgin". Some people have lost their bodies because of love, given their first time to others, and feel that all this is their willingness, as a girl, in fact, this is a kind of "irresponsibility" for themselves, a kind of "contempt".
Once I had a party with my classmate Ah Yan, she told me that her marriage was very unhappy, she felt that she was very mean in the eyes of others, I said how can it be, you have your own job and career, have children, and the family conditions are also very good, how can you not be happy? Ah Yan said that it was all the trouble of love, blame her for not being a virgin, in the eyes of her husband she is a "broken goods", talking about this matter, she is sad to shed tears.
Ah Yan is my high school classmate, introverted, also very gentle and beautiful, when she was in high school, she was the object of pursuit of many boys, she just ignored it. After graduating from high school, she was admitted to college, and she talked about a boyfriend on the college campus, and after a month of love, he moved out of the dormitory, and then lived with her boyfriend, which was four years.
Ah Yan said that she originally planned to marry her boyfriend, but in the year of graduation, her parents were unwilling, saying that her boyfriend's home was too far away, and her parents said various reasons in their hearts, Ah Yan felt that her parents were for their own good, and they broke up with their boyfriends.
After returning home, she became a teacher in the local area, occasionally talked about marriage with her friends, and always heard her female colleagues talk about women's premarital status, which made Ah Yan feel particularly uncomfortable when choosing her spouse, worried about whether she would be disliked, so when she talked about the object, she completely wrapped herself up, and she would not live with boys until the day of marriage.
Love is different from marriage, love is only a love between men and women, and failed to reach the end of life, and marriage is different, the union of two people in marriage, a lover for a lifetime.
In marriage, most boys require a girl's pure and clean body, the most basic is to hope that their girlfriend must be a virgin, and will not be in the married life, men will always be entangled in the heart.
Just like Ah Yan, although she married a man who loved her, it was only premarital love, and after Ah Yan got married, she found that Ah Yan was not a virgin, which greatly discounted the couple's feelings. Their love and wonderful dating before marriage become colorless and tasteless after marriage. Many times, her husband would inexplicably scold her and even hurt himself with the most vicious words. Scolding her is a lowly woman, a woman who is unclean and self-righteous, and saying what to wear before marriage and so on. This made her feel very sad, although she did not do anything sorry for her husband in marriage, but in the eyes of her husband, Ah Yan was always inferior, although they lived together as a husband, but she deeply felt that her husband was lukewarm to herself, and she felt that her marriage was very unhappy.
For female friends, cohabitation before marriage is indeed a loss for female friends, an emotional loss, a spiritual loss, and it is unfair to their own feelings and marriage.
Nowadays, many male friends are very straightforward before marriage, and they can ask their girlfriends directly without reservation whether they are virgins, how can such a question be answered by girls? What's more, before marriage, it is necessary to do a marriage examination to check whether women have had sex before marriage, these very absurd questions, in fact, are an insult to female friends and emotional distrust These harsh requirements are easy to make female friends unhappy in their future marriages.
Those girls who have a history of cohabitation before marriage, but the negative problems that arise after marriage still affect the feelings between husband and wife. The first is men's distrust, dissatisfaction, and even some disgust for women. Men in life do not have particularly good feelings for women, always lukewarm, saying that men love their women, women do not necessarily know how good men are to themselves, saying that men do not love their own women, they live together again. Therefore, girls who lived together before marriage are regrettable for boys.
Marriage, like love, symbolizes purity, and female friends should pay attention to the fact that if love does not end, it is best not to choose to live together before marriage, because you cannot predict your future life.
For some male friends, the first time for a girl is particularly important, which is not just valued, but cherished.
Therefore, female friends want to be loved by their husbands after marriage, don't live together before marriage, although it is beautiful to fall in love, that is our emotional needs, but we can't live together because of love, because no one can be sure that the other party is their life.