"Son preference" is a cliché.
Even now, whether it is the media or young people, they are promoting "equality between men and women", there is still no shortage of old people who are obsessed, maybe they may not have bad intentions, they simply want to hold their grandchildren.
The feudal ideas of the elderly have not been completely eliminated, and they believe that boys are the continuation of incense, and they also believe that only boys can inherit the family business.
We often joke about patriarchal families: "Do you have a throne to inherit?" ”
In fact, for the elderly who like to hold their grandchildren, it does not matter whether the throne is there or not, but a boy can make the whole family gain a foothold in the neighborhood, especially in front of families without boys.
In this case, while lamenting what kind of inferior people will use the gender of their children to attach gold to themselves, but it cannot be denied that there are really some elderly people who value sons to the extreme, which is helpless.
Reader Xu Hui came to submit an article, saying that if you meet a mother-in-law who prefers sons to daughters, you can use one trick to get it done, and it is absolutely not happy.
Xu Hui lived with her in-laws after marriage, at first, Xu Hui did not find her in-laws difficult to get along with, but as she came into contact, she felt more and more that her mother-in-law had no sense of boundaries.
Mainly manifested in the following two aspects, first of all, the mother-in-law is very concerned about Xu Hui's body, including her physiological period, the mother-in-law takes the book to record the date, if she appears to be delayed or advanced, the mother-in-law will come to ask her.
Secondly, she has many requirements for Xu Hui's diet, usually Xu Hui eats the company canteen, occasionally eats takeaway, cold and spicy are not taboo, but since marriage, the mother-in-law has been instructed to not let her eat cold and not let her eat spicy, and even eat a little fried, just a few drops.
At the beginning, Xu Hui also complained to her husband, and her husband turned to her and said to her mother-in-law in front of her: "Mom, how do you manage so much, Hui Hui has her own habits, you don't always care." ”
The mother-in-law explicitly agreed, but when her son was away, she took care of it again.
Xu Hui is the only daughter in the family, and the family conditions are good, not to mention that she has never been wronged in eating and drinking, and even her parents may not know her privacy.
One day, when her mother-in-law did not let her eat fried rice, she finally couldn't bear to say it: "Mom, can you not always take care of me, let me eat and drink, I am not a child, my biological parents have not managed this, what are you doing?" ”
The mother-in-law put the chopsticks down and said with a high spirit: "You say I care about you, how long have you been married, you haven't even moved, eat a bunch of junk food every day, can you give birth to a son?" ”
Xu Huiyan didn't eat either, stood up and pulled the stool: "Giving birth to a child is a matter for our husband and wife, whether you are born or not has nothing to do with you, I am not your family's fertility tool." ”
After the conversation, Xu Hui packed up her bags and went back to her mother's house, where she lived for half a month, waiting for her husband to return from a business trip before taking her back.
After half a year of lukewarm family, Xu Hui finally became pregnant.
As soon as the news of the pregnancy came out, the mother-in-law could not gamble, but focused all her energy on the speculation of "giving birth to a man or a daughter".
For example, if Xu Hui eats two more bites of spicy food, the mother-in-law will say: "Sour and spicy girl, you still eat less spicy, it is better to eat more sour." ”
For example, if she is mentally ill one day, her mother-in-law will say, "If a girl is not spiritual, a boy is spiritual." ”
For example, as the belly grows up, the mother-in-law looks at it from time to time: "The tip of the belly is the girl, and the round is the boy." ”
Day and day, night and night, even if Xu Hui only has a little wind and grass, the mother-in-law can speculate on men and women.
Xu Hui didn't want to be angry when she was pregnant, and she also wanted to communicate with her mother-in-law calmly: "Mom, can you not always guess boys and girls, is gender so important?" ”
The mother-in-law said: "Of course it is important, how good it is to have a grandchild, I like boys." ”
Xu Hui said bitterly: "You like your grandson, but we think boys and girls are the same, besides, now that male or female has been decided, you can guess no more." ”
"How useless, my grandson will definitely come when he hears my nagging..." the mother-in-law said confidently.
Xu Hui really had nothing to say about her mother-in-law's ignorance.
In the blink of an eye, when it came time to give birth, the process was very smooth, and the girl was born smoothly, 6 pounds and 4 pairs.
Xu Hui and her husband were very happy, looking at their daughter's soft and tender appearance, and they couldn't let go.
Of course, since the mother-in-law learned the gender of the child, she had a decadent face.
She once asked the nurse outside the delivery room, "Girl? Are you sure it's a girl? Could it be that you got it wrong? ”
When a sentence was asked, the people around them who heard this shook their heads one after another, and even the father-in-law said, "Are you a demon, what is wrong with your granddaughter?" ”
The mother-in-law glared at him in disappointment and did not speak again.
The next day, the mother-in-law came to serve the confinement, and said something like this: "Daughter-in-law, don't you mind, our family really has no experience in taking care of the female baby, you see we are all growing up with boys, the female baby is delicate, afraid of not taking it well, why don't you go back to your mother's house to sit in the confinement?" ”
Xu Hui smiled as soon as he heard it, and simply and neatly responded: "Well, I was thinking that you were inexperienced, let my mother take care of me." ”
Presumably, the mother-in-law did not expect Xu Hui to easily agree, and she did not know how to answer the call for a while.
Next, Xu Hui's operation was really powerful.
She picked up the mobile phone to call her mother: "Mom, tomorrow you come to pick me up and go home Ha, my mother-in-law said that they have no experience in taking care of girls, let me go back to our house to confinement." ”
The mother on the other end of the phone smiled happily: "Well, I think the same way, our family has prepared all the food and drink for you, and ordered chickens for you from the farm, and sent one to your home for two days." ”
Xu Hui said: "Okay, by the way, you talk to my father by the way, see what name to give the child, she follows my surname, a sunny and nice sounder, don't be the same as my name, very tacky." ”
The mother-in-law who was snuggling to the side heard this sentence, and immediately sat up, not caring that the daughter-in-law's phone had not yet hung up, and shouted: "What? With your last name, who said that? ”
Xu Hui glanced at her mother-in-law, hung up the phone and said, "First of all, you don't like girls. Secondly, when the child is born, you don't look at it, you don't hug it, and it's obvious that you have to draw a line with her. So, why can't I let her follow my last name, my husband has no opinion, what is your opinion? ”
The mother-in-law said, "Whoever takes the female surname!" No, no, I'm not allowed. ”
"Who are you with your child?" To be a grandmother, you must have the appearance of a grandmother, just move your mouth, do not contribute, what qualifications do you have to manage me? Everyone rest, it is not you who gives birth to a child, it is not you who raises a child, since you are happy and idle, don't stretch your hands so long", after saying Xu Hui, he turned to sleep, leaving his mother-in-law alone to call.
As for the result, it is naturally Xu Huisheng, the mother-in-law did not let the mother-in-law's family take her away, and also paid three thousand yuan to buy supplements for her, the meaning is very clear: as long as you don't let your granddaughter follow her mother's surname, anything else can be done.
Speaking of it, Xu Hui also sighed, the mother-in-law is not bad, that is, the old thinking cannot be changed, she does not like her granddaughter, it is the old tradition of "son preference", but compared to the fantasy of the grandson becoming a granddaughter, she is more unable to accept the child with the mother's surname.
So, this war was won by her. It's just that there is such an unreasonable mother-in-law in the family, and there will be troubles in the future, just look at the future battles, who loses and who wins.
Today's topic: What do you think of the patriarchal elderly?
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