In the history of cinema, there have been countless family movies. And these movies are basically the story of father's love and mother's love. However, very few movies are about children looking for their mothers. And today, "Jack" is such a movie.
Jack lives a life of dependence with his brother and his mother, Jack's mother is a very irresponsible woman, after the day's work, she disguises herself and goes out to have fun, and the whole responsibility for taking care of her brother falls on Jack alone. Jack has a strong hostility towards his mother's frequently changing boyfriends, and the relationship between mother and son is very fragile.
One day, Jack's brother was burned, and the social welfare agency ordered the mother to send one of her two children to the welfare home, and the mother chose Jack. In the welfare home, Jack worries about his mother and brother day and night, and finally, after escaping successfully, he returns home, only to find that his mother has left his brother missing. With his brother in mind, Jack embarks on a journey full of dangers and unknowns to find his mother. However, until the end, Jack finally chose to send his brother and himself to the orphanage.
Just because this is a story of finding a mother, Japan also has similar movies, such as "Kikujiro's Summer", "No one knows", etc., so what makes this movie popular with everyone? Today, I will tell the storyline and the mother's approach to the reasons why this movie was so well received. At the end of the article, I will compare the similarities and differences between this film and "No one knows" and how to take responsibility as a woman.
The film, in general, is actually the story of a little boy who takes his younger brother to find his mother. However, until the end of the story, Jack meets his mother, but still sends himself and his brother to the orphanage. And this process also makes us cry:
1, Jack grew up living with his mother, but was sent to an orphanage by his mother
Jack had no father, or rather, he didn't know who his father was. He and his brother grew up with their mother. However, her mother was an irresponsible mother, and she often asked Jack to take care of her brother, but she forgot that Jack herself was a child.
Not only that, jack always thought that it was enough to have a mother and two of their brothers in the family. However, his mother had been bringing his boyfriend home, which made him feel as if the home had been invaded by strangers, which made Jack unhappy, so he had been lukewarm and even disgusted with his mother's boyfriend.
Until, of course, his brother was burned, and Jack's mother filled out an orphanage form without Jack's knowledge. When asked who his mother was going to send to the orphanage, Jack was sent out by his mother. As a young man, he didn't know what was going on, thinking that his mother would come back to pick him up in a few days.
I think in the first half, Jack's experience is already pitiful. He didn't do anything wrong, it was just that his mother's irresponsibility left him homeless. He's only 8 years old and he just wants a good life with his mother, and that's not wrong.
2, Jack because of the miss of his mother, secretly ran out of the orphanage, and embarked on the road to find his mother
Jack spent some time in the orphanage and gradually realized that something was wrong. His mother had never come to see him, and her mother's phone could not be answered. All the people told Jack that you were already an orphan and that you had been abandoned. But Jack knew that he had a mother, and he was going to find her.
So Jack quietly ran out of the orphanage, he originally wanted to find his mother, but he knew that his brother was put by his mother in a friend's house, so he took him out. The two of them embarked on a long road of finding their mother.
Jack and his brother were chased along the way, and they met the help of well-wishers. But every time Jack came home and desperately knocked on the door that no one answered, Jack's heart felt desperate. He didn't know why his mother was gone, or why she didn't want him anymore.
I remember reading a report that when parents asked how many points their children gave, most parents scored 5-7 points, and when asked how many points their children gave their parents, all children scored 10 points. For children, parents are the most important people in the world. It's not hard to understand why Jack has been obsessed with finding his mother. Because the orphanage was not his home, the place where he had his mother was his home.
3) Jack finally finds his mother, but he understands that his mother no longer likes them, and finally he and his brother enter the orphanage
Later in the film, Jack finally knocks on the door of the house, and he finally finds his mother. Mom was surprised to see him, so the brothers happily had dinner with mom. After dinner, Jack tried to find the key to the house, which was originally left at the door, but this time, there was no key there.
Jack understood that his mother didn't really want them. Her love is conditional. When she is in a good mood, she will give the children maternal love, and if she is in a bad mood, she will take it back. Jack finally understood that Mom was no longer Mom. He also finally understood that he and his brother were a burden to his mother.
The next day, Jack packed his bags and took his brother with him to knock on the door of the orphanage. Compared with the last time, Jack passively entered the orphanage, and this time, they took the initiative to find the orphanage. For Jack, his fate with his mother should also end here.
When I saw Jack take the initiative to knock on the door of the orphanage with his brother, the mood was really uncomfortable. No child is willing to accept that they are abandoned by their surviving parents. And the young Jack finally understood what "giving up" was. This is his misfortune, and I only hope that he will have a better future in the orphanage.
But was Jack's mother wrong?
After watching this movie, many people will wonder why this mother is so irresponsible. You can get your children into welfare homes. Why she can pursue her own life and not pay attention to her children. So, is this irresponsible mother wrong? In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with that.
First of all, this mother is a single mom and she needs a job
Jack's mother was a single mother who couldn't bring her children home herself, she needed a job. Although Jack's brother's burn was an accident, she also understood that taking small children through the older children was not the way to go, even if this accident could be avoided, there would be other things next time, so it was a wise choice for her to send Jack to the youth counseling center.
As a single mother, she has to find a way to earn money to support her family. But she didn't have enough money to ask a nanny to take care of her two brothers, and the younger brother was too young to take care of her brother. Therefore, she had no choice but to send Jack to an orphanage.
Second, mothers respect and love their children
When her new boyfriend's clothes and shoes were thrown downstairs by the hostile Jack, the boyfriend was very angry, pushing Jack to ask him to go downstairs to retrieve the clothes, with great intentions, at this time she immediately protected Jack and reprimanded her boyfriend: "You calm down, things are not so bad!" When the boyfriend saw this posture, he immediately understood and chose to "get out". I think that the "posture" of her calf protection is "love".
In this conflict between Jack and her lover, she did not scold Jack loudly from beginning to end, but whispered to Jack as the egg gets out of the door, "Is it necessary?" There seemed to be dissatisfaction, but when Jack wanted to admit his mistake, she said that it was not his fault. I think she upheld Jack's dignity and wanted to let her son know that she "loved" him more than her lover.
Although, his boyfriend was kicked out of the house by his son. But the mother did not reprimand Jack, but with a sentence of "Let's have a good day today, how about it?" "Easily resolve all unhappiness, do not let the "outsiders" and destroy the harmony between their mother and son, in my opinion, at this point, her ability to control her negative emotions will make many mothers ashamed of themselves!
In the end, everyone has the right to pursue their own happiness
Many people will think that as a mother, after losing her other half, she should be strong and hard to take care of several children. But no one thinks that a mother has the right to pursue her own happiness. No one paid attention to the happiness of the mother for the second half of her life. It was as if, in the days to come, three people were going to live together.
But is that really the case? Can't a single mother have her own happiness? In my opinion, it is not. Everyone has the right to pursue their own happiness. In Western society, most parents do not make that kind of "sacrificial" contribution to their children, and they value their own happiness more. And that's their power.
Both the films "Jack" and "Nobody Knows" tell the story of a child being abandoned by his mother, so what are the similarities between the two stories? In my opinion, there are the following points:
1. Mothers choose to abandon their children
In "Nobody Knows", Keiko takes four children, but on weekdays, in addition to going to work, she is also busy in love. Gradually, she did not want to go home, so one day, after she and her children said that they were going to go out to work, they never came back.
In Jack, mom is also a single mother, raising two children on her own. But she also needs to fall in love, so when she can't take care of the children, she chooses to send Jack to the orphanage and let herself take her brother.
I think both mothers have similarities. They also flaunt their own happiness, but for them, children are a burden to them, which will disturb their happiness, and in the end they all choose to abandon their children.
2. Children have met well-meaning people in their mother's absence
In "Nobody Knows", when the mother has not returned for a long time, the children meet a kind girl. The girl regarded them as friends and gave them appropriate help. And it is precisely because of this girl's help that the lives of the four children are temporarily better.
In Jack, Jack wanders with his brother and sleeps in a car at night. The owner of the car saw that they were pitiful and invited them to eat a hamburger. They were spared from hunger and let them sleep in their own cars at night. This act of the well-meaning people will not make them miserable during the few days of wandering.
So, in "Jack" and "Nobody Knows", although the background is similar, is there anything different? In my opinion, there is. And this is reflected in the following three points:
First, Jack was sent to an orphanage by his mother, and the four children were directly abandoned by their mother
In "Nobody Knows", it is clear that their four children, because their mother did not return, have been waiting for their mother at home. This also triggered the story that followed. In this film, the mother simply abandons her four children and decides not to want them anymore. This is sending them into a desperate situation.
In Jack, although the mother has no way to raise two children. But his mother sent Jack to an orphanage. Although it wasn't a great place, Jack had at least one bite of food to eat in the orphanage and wouldn't starve to death. Therefore, although his mother did not want Jack, she still left him a way to live.
I think that the two mothers are equally irresponsible. But Jack's mother was kinder in comparison. And she loves more than Ming's mother. Jack's mother knew she couldn't do anything about it, so she found a more suitable place for her child. But Ming's mother chose to leave them alone.
Secondly, "Nobody Knows" is based on real people and real events, while "Jack" is only fictional
The film "Nobody Knows" is based on the 1988 "West Sugamo Abandoned Baby Incident". It is said that in a house in Nishi-Sugamo, Tokyo, a rotting child body and three children who had been hungry for many days were found, and it was Kore-eda who saw the news and adapted it into a script, which is the prototype of "Nobody Knows".
The film "Jack" is based on certain phenomena in society and is fantasized through fiction. There are no children who really run away from the orphanage to find their mothers, and there are no children who choose to go to the orphanage on their own initiative. This has to be said to be a blessing.
In the end, the film ends with Xiaoxue dying, and Jack takes his brother to the orphanage
In "Nobody Knows", because the youngest child, Xiaoxue, did not pay attention to falling off the roof and there was no cure, so Xiaoxue died. The three of them put the snow in a box and buried it in the garden. And the red box that Xiaoxue hid when he came was also the box when Xiaoxue left.
As for Jack, after he understood that his mother did not want him, he did not take his brother to wander for a while, but packed his bags and lived with his brother in an orphanage. It has to be said that Jack is very clever. He knew that the orphanage was the only place where they could be accommodated.
This movie has an irresponsible mom. And most of the movies about this type of film are also an irresponsible mother. So, as women, how can we be responsible for ourselves and others?
1. Take care of yourself first
I remember reading a saying: "If you want to learn to love others, then you must first learn to love yourself." Similarly, as a girl, no matter whether you will encounter love in the future, you must first learn to cherish yourself and cherish yourself. This is a basic quality of girls.
Only by learning self-love, then others will respect you and cherish you. And only self-loving women will not be immersed in feelings, have the most terrible "love brain", or put their own position extremely low, thinking that they will always be enemies.
2, marriage is not a child's play, and do and cherish
Sometimes, it is not possible to understand the Western view of marriage and love. For example, if it is combined, it will be scattered if it is not together. It seems that it is normal to divide and merge. However, in my opinion, marriage is actually more of a responsibility. And this responsibility needs to be borne by two people together.
Therefore, if it is said that the marriage of division and integration is not only not conducive to the development of oneself and the other half, if a child is born, then it is not conducive to the development of the child. Just like Jack, he has no father, and his home seems to be missing a piece.
3. Always maintain economic independence
I remember that Zhou Xingchi once said to Liu Piaopiao in the movie: "If you don't go to work, I will raise you." This sentence touched many people. With the continuous development of the economy, many people have children but no one has children, so there are many "full-time mothers".
However, a girl always has the ability to be financially independent. Asking your partner for money means you're putting your future in someone else's hands. And this is extremely unfavorable. We read a lot in newspapers and news, and if a woman loses her financial independence, her future may not be particularly good.
The film "Jack" is not only about a child's long journey home, but also worth reflecting on how we should be parents. And this is a difficult problem, not only a group of people's problems, but also the world's problems. For the sake of our next generation, please shoulder your responsibilities. Cherish the angel who loves us.