The emotional guru Guy said, "Men are born to lie, and women are born to believe lies." "In fact, not only men, but everyone in this life will lie, and no one dares to claim that they are absolutely innocent.
This article will dismantle the four types of lie masters, take you along with the psychologist, and find the person who loves to lie around you.
People with a strong sense of vanity
What do people who know that vanity is most important? face.
This type of person is particularly concerned about what others say about themselves, and especially likes to be noticed and praised by others.
When others look down on themselves, they act angry.
However, often they often look down on others to show their cleverness.
Sometimes, often because they pay too much attention to what is superficial, neglect the growth and improvement of the individual's inner and quality, driven by the vanity of the desire to be applauded by others, when they cannot get the purpose they want on their own, the lie will naturally arise.
You will see that such people often boast in front of unfamiliar people, saying how high their education is, how much wealth they have, showing off their family background, and even showing off their clothing and shoes.
In fact, their purpose is one: to satisfy their vanity.
There are many such examples in life, some even reaching an incomprehensible state, such as: the sister of a colleague who is unemployed for a long time and stays at home, is unwilling to go out to find a job, the reason is that he would rather be unemployed in a broken jar than be aggrieved to find a job that will be done; there are already beautiful women, who pursue more perfection, knowing that plastic surgery is risky and repeatedly commit risks, and finally lead to facial expression distortion and stiffness, but not as good as before; and some families, because the family is not well off, do not want to treat their children badly. Instead, the best for children to wear. Make the child very beautiful in front of his classmates from an early age, but when he grows up, he finds that his family is not as good as others, and the balance in his heart is completely inclined to vanity, resulting in the use of extreme means to obtain property, and eventually to the abyss of crime.
Treatment: In fact, if this kind of person lies and has not hurt others, just to satisfy their own vanity, you do not have to expose him, causing communication embarrassment is not good. However, the child must teach him the principle of being a man from an early age, so as not to let vanity delay life.
People with severe feelings of inferiority
People with severe inferiority are usually sensitive and fragile, can easily feel that they are inferior to others, and often tend to regard other people's attention to themselves, even if they are concerned and helped, as pity for themselves.
If such people want to establish a perfect image in front of others, they will choose to comfort themselves with lies or to escape their inner self-evaluation.
For example, if someone is not admitted to the ideal university, they always feel that they are inferior to others, and slowly begin to lie, saying that they have been admitted to the ideal university, what they have done, and so on.
Such people gain a sense of satisfaction and identity by immersing themselves in fantasies.
Suggestion: When you meet such people, don't rush to expose him, after all, the shadow in his heart needs to be digested through time. If you want to help him, encourage him to take responsibility in real life, resist responsibility, and set and complete small goals one by one. When he sees that he can handle difficulties, self-confidence will return, and this life path will become much easier.
People with extreme competitiveness
I'm not talking about people who have positive ideas and are very wise. Because for such people, it is a good thing to be competitive and will bring success and glory to themselves.
Here we are talking about a kind of people who are particularly willing to be strong and competitive, who must be strong in everything and want to be superior to others everywhere, but their own strength is not enough.
The so-called mountains outside the mountains, there are people outside the people, no one is born to be a king, setbacks will always meet people in a narrow way.
After encountering setbacks, this kind of person loves face and wants to maintain self-esteem, so he often fabricates successful scenes and deceives others and even themselves, so lying begins to evolve into their normal actions.
There are also many such examples around: I often hear that the children of so-and-so's family did not do well in the exams, go home and deceive adults that they have achieved good results, and finally get beaten by fat; they often hear that so-and-so men invite people to eat and squander outside to fill their faces, and go home to deceive their wives that they have no salary.
Suggestion: Hemingway said: "Being superior to others is not noble, and true nobility should be superior to one's past self." "So, when you find such a thing, don't be blindly angry, find out the root cause of the matter, it is a competitive lie, or it can be forgiven, which needs to be gradually guided."
People who are overly self-centered
In fact, human nature is to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages, and often give priority to protecting their own interests when dealing with problems, so here we are talking about the kind of people who are too self-centered.
When he conflicts with the interests of others, he often chooses to do things that are harmful to others and self-interest, so that lies will be born.
Here we have to mention the fourth episode of the fourth season of the American drama "Black Mirror": the heroine Mia's boyfriend killed a cyclist after taking drugs, when Mia helped him throw the body into the sea. A few years later, Mia's family happiness career is successful, and Mia's boyfriend has a particularly sloppy life. He finds Mia and tells her he feels guilty. Because the cyclist's wife had not remarried and was waiting at home for him to return. He wants to write an anonymous letter to tell her the truth, but Mia disagrees, the ex-boyfriend tells her that he won't say anything about her coming, Mia thinks it will still be exposed, she kills the ex-boyfriend and throws the body into the sewer. Then someone investigated Mia, who killed the case-handling staff and traced the location to kill the case-handling staff's husband. When Mia was about to leave, she heard the voice of the child who was learning to speak, and without hesitation, she killed the child. This story is to cover up one lie with another, to harm others and self-interest to the point of madness, all just to maintain the superficial harmony of the family. Can Mia really escape her inner condemnation?
Advice: Stay away from such a super self-centered person, because you don't know when you will be pit by him.
To sum up: This article breaks down four types of lie masters, namely: people with strong vanity, people with severe inferiority, people with extreme competitiveness, and people with excessive self-centered thinking. Through their behavioral characteristics, you can tell which people around you like to lie, hoping to help you polish your eyes. The article also puts forward some suggestions for dealing with these people, and can be analyzed and selected according to the actual situation.
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