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This point has been put forward:
The love of the Republic of China period, the fusion of East and West, tradition and freedom, romance and subtlety, more of the brand of the salvation of the times, less of the company of stable ideals.
Contemporary love, material first, money-oriented, appearance first, three views as a table, seemingly stable and sweet and beautiful, in fact, painful betrayal is always there.
The matter of feelings, which seems simple and romantic, is actually particularly complicated. Because behind the feelings is human nature, behind human nature is good and evil, behind good and evil is change. People, especially fickle. Hypocrisy is always there.
In this regard, many people will wonder, although the feelings are unpredictable and complicated, why is there such a big difference between love in the Republic of China period and contemporary love?
In fact, different times, different backgrounds, different environments, different ideas, different pursuits, different conditions, then love will have a great difference.
Some people envy past love and think that traditional feelings are particularly suitable for the living conditions of ordinary people. Some people are obsessed with contemporary feelings and think that the relationship of "instant noodles" is the best, both stimulating and satisfying.
Everyone has everyone's pursuits. However, in today's world, sex and love are just "masks" of love, and these three points are the truth of the essence of love.
02
Today's love, more betrayal, less loyalty.
Do you think today's love is reliable? It is a pity to say that today's love is like a bubble, a poke will burst, there is no "reliable" factor at all.
In love, you ask a man what he is most afraid of encountering, and the man will absolutely answer you, the most afraid of being hated, the most afraid of becoming a cheap father, and even the children are not their own.
In the relationship, you ask a woman what she is most afraid of encountering, the woman will absolutely answer you, the most afraid of meeting a man who has no money and is particularly careful, maybe after a night of feelings, the other party will disappear without a trace.
From the answers of men and women, we can find such a common point, modern people's emotional "trust" is particularly poor. Especially young people, although they long for love, they have always questioned love.
Why is this happening? Because the development of the information society has magnified the evil of human nature and let people understand the truth of human hearts, then they will naturally have the psychology of "fear".
In the past, we lamented the beauty of love "love over the mountains and seas, mountains and seas can be leveled". Nowadays, we are wary of the "fairy jump" situation in love.
It is not that love has changed, but that people's hearts have changed. When the human heart becomes no longer loyal, the existence of the honest man is a sin.
03
Today's love, money first, material dominance.
Some young people who have not experienced the grind of society, when they talk about love, the first thing they think of is the problem of "three views". This shows that they are still pure, which is a good thing. Because nowadays there are fewer and fewer pure people.
Some old jianghu who have experienced society, when they talk about love, the first thing that comes to mind is not the "three views", but the house and money.
In emotional counseling, many women have said their hearts: "My requirements are actually not high, as long as the man has a car and a house, an annual salary of two or three hundred thousand, no arrears, and treat me sincerely, it is enough." However, why is it that with such low requirements, I still can't find the man I like? ”
Generally speaking, for such a question, it is actually easy to answer, because the men who can meet this requirement are not ordinary men, but successful people who have achieved something.
Especially before the age of thirty, how many men can meet such conditions? There are many on the Internet, and there are many on the dating website, but in reality there are very few.
why? Because the successful people on the Internet basically belong to the rare type of people, others do not lack partners at all, and what love to pursue?
On the contrary, in real life, ordinary people account for the majority. Men look down on women who worship gold, and women look down on men who don't have much money. As a result, these two types of people are single to each other, and finally cause emotional indifference.
04
Today's love is polluted by the trend.
The ancients once believed that the barn was practical and knew the etiquette.
Theoretically, as long as people are full, warm, and asleep, their spirits will become rich.
However, this is not the case in all cases today. People have no worries about food and clothing, but their spirit is still becoming more and more vulgar, and there is even a situation where "money" is the mainstay and "unearned" is proud.
Especially in today's developed network, we all think that love is like a Korean drama, or the plot in the novel, the men who love us are heroes, and the women who love us are goddess fairies.
Everything, what is so beautiful?
There is a reason we must understand that everything in fairy tales is false. The so-called "prince falls in love with Cinderella" plot, after all, does not exist. The situation of "the goddess falls in love with mortals" is also virtual.
However, there are many people now, who are not princes, but who are suffering from princely disease. They did not have a princess life, but they suffered from princess disease. This is an inevitable result of being distorted by the tide.
Here, it is still necessary to say that if we want to love beautifully, then we must be "self-aware" for the first time, and what pot we are, we must match the lid. Just think, the dry grass is eager to match gold, the copper and iron are eager to be paired with diamonds, isn't this "whimsical"?
Wen/Shushan has deer