Hello everyone, I'm Half Court.
I have posted so many articles before, and many friends have sent me private messages to discuss love with me, and I thank you for your trust.
Today I finally decided to write a guide to love stories for both boys and girls
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There are always some friends who say that they can't praise people, they exaggerate very falsely, they can't boast on ideas, etc., especially when boys coax their girlfriends, I watch ten mobile phone conversations are the same:
"Baby you're the cutest!"
"Baby you're the prettiest!"
"You're my favorite baby!" ......
Repeat these few words back and forth.
The reasonable girls are all angry and funny, and the slightly colder girls add fuel to the fire: "How can you be so perfunctory?!" ”
Therefore, the following knowledge points should be stared:
It is better to call others baby than to treat others as treasures.
The meaning of this sentence is not to provide practical value to others, such as money and commitment, but from simple language support to attitude and thinking.
Here are some examples:
A date
Boy A: "Baby I love you so much, you are so cute, I want to be with you every day." (Smile sweet eyes spoiled, holding the girl's hand)
Boy B: "What are you thinking?" (The voice was extremely gentle and low, as if facing the most precious treasure in the world) "Well, is it? "(Quietly look at the girl, pay attention to her language and emotions), there is a need to provide immediately (such as cold and thirsty down the stairs to help)...
What is the difference between these two people?
A concern is the language itself, have I coaxed you? Have you ever complied with the routine of yue yue? Did you finish the sweet words on your back? It may still be the kind that Baidu copy pastes and recites in the mirror...
B cares about the other party's feelings, gives the other party full positive attention, and will analyze the emotions, purposes, and motivations behind the other party's words with thinking. So it's not sweet, chicken ribs, but just the right amount of warmth.
2. A chat
Girl: "My ex-boyfriend always said I had flat breasts, huh"
Boy A: "No, I think you're in pretty good shape." ”
Boy B: "I think every girl has her own unique beauty, your little bird is very cute according to the appearance of people, I like it." ”
A is the face of the language, you hate your own chest is small, then I will deny it, encourage you to...
B After thinking, understanding her emotions, dislike or lack of confidence in herself, if you directly tell her: "You are very good, your chest is not small", obviously the girl will not believe.
Just like the boy says he has no money, the girl says: "You are quite rich / You will have money in the future", in fact, it is still lying / disguised to dislike that you have no money.
The ideal girlfriend's answer is definitely: "I don't think money can measure feelings, what I appreciate is your talent and character." ”
So he said: "Every girl has a unique beauty", expressing acceptance and appreciation for girls.
And what girls feel is not "this man's good routine", but "this man's good gentleman, so understand me, simply confidant" (people are so narcissistic).
Why are scumbags so popular? A big part of the reason is that they know how to read and understand women's emotions, and the remaining 99% of boys are trying to castrate their emotions.
These men will feel that negative emotions are bad, weak, and unacceptable, so they would rather deal with them silently by themselves before talking to the other half. So when they want to mobilize emotions to praise and comfort people, they will be very powerless. For you cannot castrate your sorrows, but retain your warmth. Over time, such a man will also lose his anger, lose his masculinity, and become a good old man with yin and yang weirdness.
When the scumbag tells his love history emotionally, harvesting the virgin's heart and obsessing the sister, these men can only tell their own stories like jokes, making the girls hahahaha...
Including some girls, when they did shows or offline chats before, teach everyone how to tell themselves a story of hurt, learn to express their emotions, these girls will find themselves crying, or crying can not be stopped, a cry can not speak ...
Know that people and people are linked through emotions, you can't express yourself well, you deserve others to misunderstand you, don't like you.
Before I went to participate in the training emotional offline class, the first time I faced a group of people to say some things before, crying very sad, when the whole field was cold, everyone silently watched me, that feeling is very healing, very wonderful, there are boys who like me like this...
To sum up, the premise of sweet words and hearts is: you have to have a heart.
To respect and experience their own hearts, and then they can respect and appreciate the hearts of others;
With feelings, think again, why do I have this emotion? You know why others have this emotion, and then find the most suitable way to comfort them.
If you don't know how to feel and mobilize your emotions, when to expose your emotions, and don't know how to think about the meaning behind your emotions, you might as well listen to some emotion lessons, read emotional books, etc. You will slowly become the most charming spirit.
I am Banting, a "strange" friend who understands you.