Before talking about "licking dogs", let's talk about Japan's "idiot culture". Many people wonder why the Western media collectively lost their voice when the Japanese discharged hundreds of tons of nuclear wastewater into the Pacific Ocean. The reason is that the Japanese Ministry of Foreign Affairs has first-class public relations capabilities, and there are countless public relations expenses every year, so that "idiots" have become a culture.
In Japan, girls who go out alone are prone to encounter strange men's "hook-ups" and even strange requests, such as exchanging money for underwear and other thought-provoking behaviors; and "licking dogs" is at most stalking, compared with "idiots", it is simply a gentleman among gentlemen.
In distant Africa, the local tribes have a strange custom, it is not too much to call it a "large dog licking scene", but this "dog licking" custom is quite scientific, can make people reborn, and even has the taste of Buddhist Zen Buddhism, which coincides with Shakyamuni's ideas.
There is a tribe in southern Africa called Babem, which has a unique custom: when a certain tribe behaves inappropriately, the patriarch will make the wrongdoer stand in the middle of the square and publicly "execute", and the entire tribe will put down their work and come from all directions.
Curiously, it was not the criticism of the wrongdoers, but the elders who spoke first, telling their merits, their contributions to the tribe, and their merits. Each of the tribesmen also spoke in turn, speaking in sincere terms about their merits. When the "praises" are over, a grand celebration is held, with the patriarch himself as the host, and the clan members, men and women, young and old, all sing and dance.
What's going on here? It turns out that this African tribe is the above way to celebrate the reform and re-being of the wrongdoers, which has the meaning of rebirth and represents the beginning of a new life.
The above-mentioned African tribal custom of "licking dogs" is exactly the role of praise. The Buddhists say, "One flower is one world, one leaf is one bodhi." Praise can open up a new world, when Buddha Shakyamuni was at the Lingshan Assembly, the Great Brahma King presented golden pineapple flowers to the Buddha and asked the Buddha for advice.
The Buddha did not speak, picking flowers and showing them to the public, only His Holiness Gaya smiled. Shakyamuni said, "I have the Right Eye Dharma Treasure... For the Buddha to pick flowers, Gaya smiled, here is not to explain the Buddhist meaning, but this is not a compliment? A compliment is as impressive as opening a new world.
There is a psychologist named James at Harvard University in the United States, and at a party, the female students in the class presented James with a rhododendron and praised James's knowledge. So impressed, James exaggerated the writing of a thank-you note and wrote in his book Psychology that the deepest principle of human nature is the desire to be appreciated.
Praise is an affirmation of a person, and the person who receives the praise will use a potentially happy mood to meet the benign expectations of others. So was James, and so was Buddha Shakyamuni. In our lives, please don't skimp on praise.
Please do not skimp on praise, couples, couples say more praise words, can protect the emotions of both sides, for education, praise is essential. There was a little story that a young mother used to blame her child, but one night, the child cried. It is sad that the child did not make any mistakes that day, but did not get a word of encouragement and praise.
Of course, praise others must be measured and sincere, otherwise it will really become a "licking dog"! What are your thoughts on this?