Words such as home, friend, hospitality, etc. are strung together as a kind of family affection. Have friends from afar, are you happy? "Slaughtering pigs and slaughtering sheep for pleasure", it is an honor and a blessing to have friends come.
Man has humanity, God has Shinto, and ghosts have ghostly ways. Governing the family is called the family way, filial piety has filial piety, women have women's way, making friends is the way, teaching is the way of the teacher, doing business is the way of jia, drinking tea has a tea ceremony, flower arrangement has a flower way, flattery has a flattering way, and even thieves have a way. What about hospitality? Nature pays attention to hospitality.
The master occupies the main position, his own environment, local scenery, humanistic past, etiquette and customs, words and actions are natural. Guests live in the guest seat, avoid the ground and change shape, leave the home, change the common foreign objects, do not distinguish between sincerity and falsity, and their deeds must be cautious and careful to observe words and deeds. But when the host and the guest meet, the key to whether they can get along with each other lies in the host.
Generally speaking, the four words of sincerity, respect, acceptance and joy should be the basic attitude of the host's hospitality.
Sincerity is the premise, no matter which side of the guest, must be treated with sincerity. Respect is the manifestation of sincerity, but respect can not exceed the number of courtesies, so that guests do not feel sluggish. The Book of Rites cloud: "The host pays homage to the guest, then first worships the guest." That's what it means. Acceptance is acceptance and acceptance, the opposite of rejection. Finally, it is to see the guests and rejoice, the so-called "friends from afar, not happy."
Bin Li pays attention to making guests comfortable, without feeling strange, as if they were in their own home. So we have the idiom of "being at home".
The ancients recorded many poems of "guest sorrow", "guest tears" and "guest huai", such as Meng Haoran's poem: "Moving the boat to the smoke, the sun is sad and the guest is new." Kong Shangren's "Peach Blossom Fan": "Hurt the past, write new words, and the chaos in the hometown is like silk." The Southern Dynasty Shen Yue also has a sentence: "Smell the geese flying south at night, and the guests wet their clothes at night with tears." Song Zhangyong's "Rainy Night" is even more poignant: "The curtain is deep in the bamboo courtyard, and the guest is lonely and lonely with the lamp chanting." For no reason, the night sky steps rained, dripping homesickness. In such cases, it is urgent to need the care and consideration of careful masters. Therefore, Mencius A saint admonished us: "Respect the old and the young, and never forget the guests." "
Since the host hospitality is like this, does the party who occupies the guest position also need to pay attention to the "guest way"? Of course it is needed, and it is also very elaborate. Simply put, it is the host who talks about courtesy and the guests who are polite. The host tries to be thoughtful for the guests, and the guests also try not to cause trouble to the host. The two idioms of "going into the countryside and following the customs" and "following the guest and the master" can best reflect the true meaning of "guest way". If these two are done, the master will change from "color difficulty" to "color joy". Another idiom, "It is better to be respectful than to obey", says the same thing. The most taboo thing about "guest road" is "anti-guest-oriented". The reciprocity of the host and the guest, according to traditional etiquette, is regarded as a great disrespect to the host.
How do you host guests? The core meaning is "treat each other with sincerity and courtesy"!
Dress neatly when welcoming guests. You can't get dressed badly. If guests come to visit during dinner, they should put down the dishes and take the initiative to stand up to greet them. If you are lying down to rest, get up immediately and apologize. Open the door with a smile.
After entering the house, guests are invited to take a seat, pour a cup of warm boiling water, or serve some fruit to show the enthusiasm of a host.
Don't snub the guests, it is best to be alone with nagging, a person busy preparing things to entertain the guests, and preparing some fruits, cigarettes, peanuts and melon seeds and other things.
Sincerity is paramount. Sit, please sit, please sit; tea, tea, good tea.
Generally speaking, there should be a division of labor in the reception of guests' homes, who cares who cares, who manages to eat, who manages to accompany guests, who manages who leads guests to play and play, and so on.
Distance is measured. In general, there are four kinds of interpersonal distance, and the distance is different because of different relationships.
One is intimate distance. In fact, it is called private distance, which is less than half a meter or even infinitely close, and it is the distance between family, husband and wife, and lovers.
The second is communication distance. Also called conventional distance, how far is it actually? Between half a meter and a half, it is a step, you get along with any stranger in public, this is the best distance, too far away sometimes there is no need, but too close to infringe on other people's space, will have that sense of obstruction and repression to others, this is impolite, this point you have to pay attention to.
The third is the distance of etiquette. Also known as the distance of respect, such as the distance between the podium and the audience, it is the distance of etiquette, a distance that shows respect.
Fourth, there is a distance of distance. Also known as public distance, it is three meters away. It is very important to go to public places, especially abroad.
The seating arrangement of the reception guests is exquisite.
1. The face door is on the top. When using the "relative" seat, the seat facing the door should usually be used as the upper seat, which should be given to the guest; the seat with the back to the door should be the lower seat, and the host himself should be seated here.
2. Take the right as the top. The standard practice of "side-by-side" ranking is for both guests and hosts to sit side by side facing the main entrance. At this time, the guest should be invited to sit on the right side, and the host himself should be seated on the left side.
3. Centered above. If there are fewer guests, and the host party participates in the meeting more, often the personnel of the host party can sit around the sides or sides of the guests in a certain way, and invite the guests to live in the center, showing a state of "stars holding the moon".
4, to the far as the top. The reason is very simple: those who are close to the door are easily disturbed, and those who are farther away from the door are less disturbed.
5, the best seat is on the top. Couches are better than single sofas, sofas are better than chairs, chairs are better than stools, higher seats are better than lower seats, and large and comfortable seats are better than narrow and uncomfortable seats.
6. Freedom is supreme. Sometimes, before the host gives way, the guest chooses his own seat and is already seated, and the host should go with the flow. When guests visit, the host must make sure that all his performance on the spot is decent.
Special waiting: In order to prevent guests from "eating behind closed doors" when they visit, the relevant personnel responsible for entertaining each other must arrive at the agreed place by both parties at least 10 minutes in advance. If necessary, guests should also be greeted outside the main entrance of the agreed place.
Get up and greet each other; hospitality: First, give up your seat to people. The second is to store clothes and hats on behalf of others. The third is to pour tea and pour water. When serving drinks to guests, it is also necessary to pay attention to cleanliness and hygiene to ensure that the supply is guaranteed. The fourth is to be attentive to each other and pay attention to it conscientiously. When talking to guests, it is important to listen carefully and attentively, and must not be used with one mind and one mind, and the answers are not what is asked. If you do that, you will definitely offend people. Don't get busy with other things while entertaining guests. For example, make a phone call, send a fax, approve a document, look for materials, or talk to another colleague, and so on. If you have to leave halfway through or pick up the phone, don't forget to apologize to your guests beforehand. It is best not to host people from different places at the same time. If this situation is encountered, it can be received in the order of "first come, first come", and other personnel can be arranged to receive them separately.
Enthusiastic retention: Under normal circumstances, regardless of the specific length of the meeting between the guest and the host, the guest's farewell must be first proposed by the other party. It is extremely impolite for the host to first propose to send the guest, or to hint at the disgust with his own actions and expressions. When a guest bids farewell, the host should usually hold him warmly. Tell the other person that he is "not busy", or ask the other party to "sit for a while". If the guest insists on leaving, the host can get up and send it off after the other party gets up first.
How do I entertain guests at home?
1． If the guest visits for the first time, while introducing the guest to the family, the family members are also briefly introduced to the guest one by one. If it is a regular customer, speak naturally, and excessive politeness will make people uncomfortable.
2． Guests visiting parents should affectionately call "uncle" or "aunt", and take the initiative to give up their seats, hand over cigarettes and pour tea, and be humble when talking.
3． Warm reception of junior guests.
4． Talk to your guests, preferably on a light-hearted topic, and apologize immediately and give appropriate comfort in case you accidentally touch your sadness.
5． Pay attention to the smoke. The smoke should be viewed and done in a proper manner. Before paying homage to the smoke, it is best to forward the question gently, not to force it. Many people squeeze cigarettes in their hands and push them back and forth, which is unhygienic.
6． Tea is also a traditional way of hospitality in our country. From the perspective of hygiene, it is best to pay attention to the tea set. To make tea, use a pot, the teacup should have a handle, do not use a sessile teacup, to avoid the hand and the cup body, the cup mouth touch.
7． It seems normal to leave guests to eat and pick up dishes for guests, but in fact, this is very unhygienic. If the host wants to show hospitality, he should use public chopsticks and spoons to scoop the soup, and never use his own chopsticks to clip.
8． If you are watching TV with your guests in the living room, please ask your own table.
9． If you stay at home with out-of-town guests, do not let guests sleep on the sofa, and should take the initiative to take care of guests' washing.
Guests should send gifts when they bid farewell. Some hosts will have obvious differences because of the different identities of visitors, in fact, this is very incorrect, no matter what kind of guests, they should be treated politely, so as to reflect your cultivation. Say goodbye to be sincere, natural, not hasty or coping, every guest should be taken care of, but can be properly mastered, so that guests have a sense of superiority that is worthy of nostalgia and friendship precious or respected.
The language can be said to be ordinary "goodbye", "slow walking", "welcome to the next time", "please continue to advise later". If someone who is close to the other party does not come, you can also say "next time you can bring so-and-so to Oh," when leaving, for first-time guests, be thoughtful and meticulous, such as introducing nearby transportation, accommodation, or calling regular customers to pick up and drop off.
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