The Qing Dynasty literary scholar Zhu Bailu's "Zhu Zi Family Training" once said: "Marry a daughter to choose a good son-in-law, and do not ask for re-employment. Marry a daughter-in-law and ask for a lady, without counting the thick. "This means that when marrying a daughter, you should choose a son-in-law with good character, and do not ask for a valuable dowry; when marrying a daughter-in-law, you should pursue a kind and virtuous woman, and do not worry about the amount of dowry.
But everyone understands that from ancient times to the present, there are many families who marry their daughters, and if the man does not give the ideal gift in his heart, it will be difficult for his children to succeed in their affairs. Therefore, the wind of bride price has been repeatedly prohibited. Some people even devote their lives to high gifts, just to marry a good daughter-in-law. Therefore, when it comes to getting married, the bride price makes people happy and worried.
Marriage is sacred, and the most memorable is the vow of love in the wedding celebration, both men and women, will have a commitment to the other half.
Liu Zhu, a young man from Yongyong Village in Suihua City, also entered the marriage with his wife Li Wendan after the oath of the wedding celebration, and his wife promised in public at the wedding site: "From today onwards, I will love him with all my love, tolerate him, and care for him, so that he can become the happiest and happiest man in the world."
However, the eternal vows of the two of them still echoed in their ears, and his wife, who had been married to him for only 23 days, ran away from home.
The high dowry of 210,000 yuan prepared for the bride is the savings saved by the parents' hard work and half a life, and it is also the whole family's belongings, but now it is only exchanged for such a lightning marriage and short-term love, Liu Zhu's mother thinks more and more, she does not understand why the daughter-in-law took all the money for no reason. Liu Zhu's parents are already in their 60s, and when they talk about the departure of their daughter-in-law, they are devastated.
The wedding invitation has been staying in Liu Zhu's circle of friends, telling the happiness and sweetness of the good couple Tiancheng and the husband singing the woman, but it is ironic that the blessings in the comments are still updated from time to time, but the bride has disappeared without a trace. So if Wendan Li is really intent on fraud, how did she go step by step, elaborately set up and complete her perfect deception?
Liu Zhu said that he and Li Wendan met through the introduction of a matchmaker, in order to promote a good marriage between the two, Li Wendan's family had been introduced through three matchmakers, one was her own aunt, one was an uncle, and there was an uncle and aunt.
Liu Zhu had previously been working in a restaurant in Dalian, and in December last year, he was very happy to learn that his family was looking for a 22-year-old girl for him, when because of the epidemic, two people in different places could only talk to each other through WeChat chat, until March this year, a pair of lovers met in reality.
The two children fell in love, the parents of both sides began to prepare for the wedding, on July 7, the two families met with their relatives, after the bride price, a week later they registered, august 4th, and held a grand and lively wedding, each established procedure is going very smoothly. This also seems to indicate that their future married life will be smooth and harmonious, but the weather is unpredictable, and on the fourth day after marriage, they suffered a car accident.
That day, Li Wendan said to go home to get stomach medicine, Liu Zhu rode a motorcycle with his wife on the road and collided with a vehicle, both of their feet and necks were damaged, but did not cause a fracture, Liu Zhu's mother as a mother-in-law not only washed her daughter-in-law's hair, but also asked her daughter-in-law what to eat when she cooked, I heard that the daughter-in-law wanted to eat Coke chicken wings, the father-in-law rode a motorcycle to buy it for the daughter-in-law, and the old two were more concerned about this daughter-in-law than the daughter-in-law.
Under the careful care of Liu Zhu's mother, after half a month of recuperation, the couple basically recovered, on August 26, Liu Zhu's relatives did a happy event, and their family was invited to drink happy wine, and the result was an accident.
On the evening of the 26th, Li Wendan said that he still had wine in his KTV membership card, otherwise it would expire, that night Li Wendan and her uncle, aunt, and Liu Zhu went to drink, and at eleven or twelve o'clock the two went home, but his wife wanted to go out to dinner with his relatives, Liu Zhu advised her that the time was too late, if she wanted to eat, she would go another day, just because of this sentence, the wife ignored him.
At that time, Liu Zhu, who was slightly drunk, realized that his wife was angry, but the couple did not have an overnight vendetta, and he felt that the matter was not too big, so he did not take too much care of his wife's emotions, and Liu Zhu would not think that a careless word might lead to Li Wendan's departure.
The next day, he could not contact anyone, he quickly called the old man's family, saying that the daughter-in-law could not be found, and immediately Li Wendan's parents came, they could not get through the phone, and WeChat was also blocked.
Monitoring from the community shows that Li Wendan hurriedly left at more than 1 a.m., took a taxi, returned at 2:58 in a big red dress, and then changed his clothes and left. So where did she go for more than an hour in between, and who did she see? They have no way of knowing this, but from the clues they currently have, Li Wendan's communication with his in-laws before leaving is normal. The mother-in-law asked her to walk and pay attention to her legs, and Li Wendan also replied , "Well, it's okay mom", and they didn't have any unpleasantness.
After Li Wendan left at 3:00 on the 27th, she blocked everyone.
210,000 bride price, 22-year-old girl, 23 days of marriage, listening to people can't believe it, but this is a real event that really happened, and they also believe in matchmakers, everyone is a tunzi, usually get along very well.
After Liu Zhu was sent home that night, there was still a chat record with his wife on his mobile phone. Judging from the chat content, Li Wendan did not have a fierce quarrel with Liu Zhu, and they guessed that the woman's departure had been planned for a long time, and that day was just a good time.
In order to force his younger sister to appear, Liu Zhu's sister once sent a "threatening message" to the other party, but unexpectedly, Li Wendan, who had been missing for many days, actually replied.
Liu Zhu's sister said that in order to find Li Wendan, the police station also reported the case, but did not file a case, because the two were registered and belonged to a legal couple. In the case of no way, she tried to attack her sister-in-law on WeChat to see if she could give a reply, so she sent a message: Now that you have committed a crime, we have reported the case, you will receive legal sanctions, you wait.
It was this threatening message that Li Wendan received, and Liu Zhu's sister quickly said that you don't have to block me, we will find you. Perhaps the sister-in-law was afraid, Li Wendan replied to his aunt with a text message, to the effect that he was too stressed and wanted to go out for two days. If his family wants to report the crime, I wait, don't blame me for doing something stupid.
After sending this WeChat, Li Wendan once again pulled his aunt into the blacklist, leaving only a string of questions and puzzles. So what exactly does the stress in her message refer to? Why should we use passive escape to alleviate, the Liu family can not find the crux of the problem, which makes them more and more suspicious that Wen Dan has another purpose for marriage.
Blindly dodging and avoiding, handling contradictions by your own nature, without the slightest regard for your identity as a wife, a daughter, and a daughter-in-law, is not only a kind of indifference and selfishness, but also a disregard and disrespect for your lover.
The matchmaker also said that he was looking at the two media who were real talent protection, who thought that the woman was like this.
Liu Zhu's mother said that in the past, Li Wendan also had an object before marrying Liu Zhu, because his mother did not agree, they analyzed, they were afraid that the daughter-in-law would break the connection with her ex-boyfriend before she ran away.
It is not easy for the vast sea of people to find Li Wendan like finding a needle in a haystack, and they pin their only hope on Li Wendan's mother and stepfather. And Li Wendan's mother is also anxious to shed tears at home because her daughter ran away from home.
Li Wendan's stepfather said that his daughter had blocked him at 7:33 a.m. on the 27th and had not spoken back. They have also been trying to find and persuade their daughter to come forward and give an account to the Liu family. He also took the initiative to mention the return of the dowry, so it seems that Li Wendan ran away from home to hide from everyone.
Speaking of Li Wendan's pressure, her mother said that the two had just married, and Liu Zhu's family urged her to have a child, because she had just finished getting the vaccine for a long time, and she said that she would want it again next year, and she didn't know why her daughter left.
Marrying a daughter-in-law spent 210,000 dowry, the two also spent 300,000 small when they got married, and only got along for 23 days before they left, which is a loss to the Liu family and a shameful thing. But Li Wendan's mother said: "You are more than 200,000 you are in a hurry, my girl is going to be gone, these more than 200,000 he is not enough, I tell you."
She thought that her daughter had been wronged in their house before leaving, and if it was normal, on the day her daughter left, she suspected that Liu Zhu knew that he would not have an accident with her daughter.
Liu Zhu once again told his mother-in-law that when Li Wentan left, the two did not quarrel or talk, but he drank too much. Li Wendan's mother also said that she heard her son-in-law say that her daughter could not find her, she called to find that she had been blocked by her daughter, which showed that Li Wendan was ready to leave, and also took away the marriage certificate and bank card when she left.
If the quarrel between the little couple is only a matter between the two people, there is no need to blacklist everyone, including her parents, Li Wendan's behavior before the incident fully shows that she is premeditated.
When looking for someone hopeless, Liu Zhu's sister has new news, she said that Li Wentan is likely to be in the Tieling area of Liaoning, because she updated the status in the circle of friends, the content displayed in the text is very large, and the most critical point is that the other party has transferred the money.
Liu Zhu's sister said that after she sent a search notice in the circle of friends, an enthusiastic friend provided the dynamics of Li Wendan's daily circle of friends, because Li Wendan had a crescent tattoo on her hand, which was determined to be sent by herself. Judging by the content, it was determined that she was now living with a man and felt like she was pregnant. And she sent it, the other party's surname is Di, but also ordered a ring for her, and bought her flowers and gifts, the flowers also wrote: Daughter-in-law, I owe you too much, but I will slowly pay you back. Let my son come and make up for you two.
So the sister suspected that the sister-in-law was pregnant before marrying her brother, pregnant with someone else's child, and then returned to her hometown to marry another man, and then set up a puzzle to seize the opportunity to take money and run away, and then go to find the old love to keep a lifetime. Can a woman really be so calculating and unscrupulous? Regardless of whether all this is true or not, the Liu family can no longer care about the faces of the two families, and filed a lawsuit with the local court, demanding that Li Wendan return the dowry.
On the topic of flash marriage and divorce, there have been many such cases in the society, we see that Liu Zhu and Li Wendan did not know each other before, but after the matchmaker said that they were together, they only used WeChat to chat for a few months, and when they met each other, they identified each other and got married, which is indeed a bit sloppy. To know that network chat, is a virtual world, can not see the groping can not be seen, only by language and words to convey feelings, will make a man who has not talked about love obsessed with this.
The parents of the Liu family are honest people, and they are also a familiar person insurance medium in the tunzi, so they psychologically relaxed the investigation of the family, and blindly gave the bride price and held a wedding for their son without understanding Li Wendan.
Li Wendan, only 22 years old, has a KTV membership card, but also has wine, what kind of work she has done before, what kind of people Liu Zhu did not know, so he married a person he did not understand, especially when he had to spend a high dowry, it was a risky thing, but the family did not take it seriously.
The family was toyed with by a 22-year-old girl, not only designed to leave, but also transferred money, only 23 days after marriage, people played missing, really thoughtful. And who she saw in the middle of leaving for more than an hour, it was confusing. The means are beyond everyone's imagination, and it is difficult to believe that no one has a plan behind it.
And the fact that she had talked about an object before was only hearsay, and she did not inquire about the reason for the breakup, which showed that the Liu family blindly believed the one-sided words of the matchmaker and ignored the person itself. After the incident, Liu Zhu's sister boldly used threatening methods to send text messages to test each other, and then sent a notice to expand the scope of search, so it is not terrible to be deceived, and the most important thing is to dare to find a way to lure the snake out of the hole.
Nowadays, there are too many people in society who rely on the bride price to cheat marriage, they use marriage to ask for a high dowry under the banner of marrying their daughters, and when they have their hands, they will disappear. So don't rush into marriage, especially when the woman asks you for a high dowry, you must think twice before you are deceived.