Life is not only a college entrance examination, the college entrance examination is only an opportunity for our life, not the end.
When you really enter the society, you will find that for the sake of the house, for the sake of the family, the marriage, in order to live a happy life, you have to work hard to fight.
Whether you have experienced the college entrance examination or not, whether you have gone to college or not, in the long life, there are still many big exams waiting for us to face.
1. The college entrance examination is not the only criterion for judging value
Zhuang Zhuang (Liang Qichao's second daughter) this year's exam, even if he fails, it doesn't matter, don't worry, because he was barely able to enter the university. You brothers and sisters can all study diligently, and I will never blame you for your homework, but it is because you are too busy with the class and get sick, which makes me uneasy.
——Liang Qichao
As a parent, the greatest wish for their children is not to let them go to the best university and achieve great achievements, but to hope that they will live happily and in good health.
Liang Qichao with Si Shun, Si Cheng, Si Yong
2, to seek knowledge, not to seek a diploma
As for not being able to enter the university, what is the point of this, "seeking learning is not seeking a diploma", always building the thicker the foundation of the wall, the better.
When her daughter Liang Sizhuang had just gone abroad to study, she could not adapt for a while, and she could not keep up with her studies, she felt very depressed and painful. Liang Qichao comforted her that examinations are a way to test academic achievements, and in case of setbacks, you only need to continue to work hard, without the need to completely deny your own value.
In 1910, Liang Qichao held 2-year-old Si Zhuang and 3-year-old Si Zhong
3. Respect the child's choice and let the child become what he wants to be
What you will learn in the future, I will not take care of your ideas, it is up to you to choose.
—— Qian Xuantong
Qian Xuantong was a prominent figure in the May Fourth Movement, advocating a new culture, advocating democracy and science, and he was also very democratic about the choice of children's further education and school.
Qian Xuan and his son Qian Sanqiang are about to graduate from middle school, which direction should they develop after graduation? Someone suggested to Qian Xuantong: "You are an expert in language arts, and you are famous and famous, so you should ask the three strong to take over your class." ”
"It depends on the child's attitude and interest!" Qian Xuantong said with a smile.
Qian Xuantong said to his son, "What you will learn in the future, I will not take care of your ideas, it is up to you to choose." ”
After Thinking seriously, Qian Sanqiang said, "Daddy, I want to learn to work!" Qian Xuantong readily agreed.
Life is so short, parents do not have to force their children to live what kind of life, respect the child's choice, let the child become what they want to be, in order to live up to life.
4, the child's safety and health, is the greatest wish of parents
They don't have to go to college, and I want my children to earn food with their blood and sweat.
--Lao She
Grades aren't the only evaluation criteria, kids, no matter how many points you get on the test, your parents' love for you will never change.
When Lao She's youngest daughter Shu Li was in middle school, she suddenly cried when she came home one day. Lao She asked softly, "Hey, what's wrong with you?" ”
"Dad, I only got a 60 in math," my daughter said, sobbing.
"60 points? 60 points is also very high! You're better than Daddy, I didn't pass math when I was a kid! ”
"Really? I can't believe it! Besides, if I score 60 points in the old test, what if I can't get into college in the future? ”
"If you can't go to college, you'll stay at home and I'll teach you English." Lao She said happily.
Lao She's group photo with his wife and daughter
Lao She had already talked about his expectations for his children in a letter to his wife: "I think that they do not have to enter the university, and I hope that my children can earn food with blood and sweat." An honest coachman or worker must be better than a corrupt official, you say? ”
As a parent, the greatest wish for children is not to go to a good university and achieve much success, but to hope that children can support themselves and live a peaceful and joyful life.
5) Reading is not about being forced to make a living
Child, I ask you to study hard, not because I want you to compare grades with others, but because I hope that you will have the right to choose in the future, choose meaningful, time-consuming work, rather than being forced to make a living. When your work has meaning in your heart, you have a sense of accomplishment. When your work gives you time and doesn't deprive you of your life, you have dignity. A sense of accomplishment and dignity that gives you joy.
- Long Yingtai
The real meaning of studying hard is to fight for yourself more than the right to choose life. The score itself does not represent anything, but the sweat paid to make progress is the foundation for building the future.
There is a saying: "After giving, there will be a reward, but maybe the harvest will come in a way you did not expect." "Studying hard doesn't necessarily lead to good grades, but it gives you the ability, the insight, and the rest of your life to be qualified to choose, rather than being chosen."
The college entrance examination is the taste of life, the cold window is bitter, and in the end there will always be a sweetness that belongs to you. But life is not only the college entrance examination, more importantly, do what you like, live happily and happily for a lifetime, is to give your parents and give yourself the most perfect answer sheet.
(Source: 京博国学 id:jingboguoxue)