I don't know when it started, and now free love has gradually changed its taste, and the love among the world's population has gradually become cheaper.
What is within reach of the side is never cherished, what is not obtained is always the most fragrant, and after getting it, it begins to cycle.
Two or three days to change the object and shout that the other party does not love themselves enough, in fact, the total time of acquaintance is only a week. Treat affection as licking dogs, slag as a trend...
Your friends around you must have had such an experience, seeing friends in pairs, sweet love envying others, they are still single, the originally unintended heart is instantly moved.
"I'm single."
"I'm going to talk about sweet love too!"
......
And so, with this psychology,
They begin to "look" for love.
Looking for "I think I should talk about love"
I have a roommate who is very grinning, who loves to be coddled, but also a good girl. She has had several relationships, most of them online.
Not long ago, I talked about a boyfriend who is two years younger than myself, I met him by playing games, and I just started to be sticky, and every day when I had time, I cooked porridge on the phone, even wheat games, and even slept, I thought this must be the look of the hot love period.
But before long, she always got angry with her boyfriend, listened to her complaining in the bedroom, things were generally listened to, the boy didn't seem to have done anything wrong, we persuaded her not to make unreasonable trouble, ruined this marriage.
Because whether it is friendship or love, there are always misunderstandings that will become estrangement if they are not solved, and it is difficult to solve the estrangement.
After all, the good times did not last long, and she took the initiative to raise the topic of breaking up.
When we were told, we were also shocked, obviously it looks sticky and greasy on weekdays, how to say that the points are divided?
And it's a relaxed look.
We're worried if she's hurt?
Pretending not to care on the surface, but still caring in the heart, will you cry secretly in the middle of the night.
Later, when chatting, I determined that she was really relaxed, and the other party did not have any waves, but she still wanted to keep it, and since she couldn't keep it, she let it go.
I asked her, "Why did you break up?" ”
She said, "I just want to divide." ”
I asked, "Then why were you with him at that time?" What do you like about him? ”
She struggled for half a day and held out a sentence: "I just want to fall in love, I want to find someone to accompany." ”
I want to find someone to accompany me.
At that moment, I deeply understood the roommate's relationship, and when it was not clear before, I thought that their sticky and greasy appearance was the hot love period in love.
Now I understand that it is not a period of love, but a sense of freshness.
It was when she was empty and lonely that the man suddenly appeared.
It was when her heart was being disturbed that the man just happened to drill into her heart and provoke the fawn to run amok.
It was when she wanted to fall in love that the person just met the minimum expected conditions.
Let her feel that this person I can try, so there is no deep understanding, no real heartbeat, a moment of emotion on the head said "let's be together."
It seems that the other party is more or less with such a mentality.
Therefore, without the freshness, the relationship has come to an end.
But looking at her last chat with the boy, I vaguely felt that the boy seemed to have moved his heart at the end.
He left her a message on another social app:
"If you want me, you can come to me, I'll come back, and if I don't reply to you, it means that I put you down at that time."
I also called her once, and the careful condolences on the phone
"Are you doing well?"
"Have you eaten?"
"What are you doing?"
The first reaction to these roommates is why is he still calling me?
There was not a single bit of emotion in my heart.
We jokingly said at the time: "Are you cheating on people's feelings, it is not painful, it is not like falling in love and breaking up." ”
Not long after the breakup, her mouth was clamoring to fall in love, which was like a vicious circle.
He even teased that he shouldn't have broken up with the boy and started missing the boy's goodness.
"In fact, I don't want to fall in love, it's because I am lonely."
So I want someone who can accompany my bored self,
Want someone who can tell interesting things that happened today,
I want to be alone to play with and make trouble.
Examples like this, which abound in life, grab a handful.
If you don't meet someone you like, stay sane and don't fall in love because you want to fall in love.
Such a relationship cannot last long, is meaningless, and wastes energy.
In case the other person is serious, and you just want to play, when you have played enough to bring up the topic of breaking up, how much pain should the other person's heart be.
He treats a person wholeheartedly, pours out all his feelings, and is eager to give you everything he feels good about, and you turn a blind eye to all this.
From another point of view, if you are the person who uses affection, what kind of five tastes will be in your heart.
Don't covet such feelings, this is habit, is dependence, is freshness,
But this is definitely not love.
I'm a maternal solo, probably because I haven't met a single person who moves me.
When I have a full life, I occasionally have a flash of thought that I want to fall in love, but I just think about it.
I would never fall in love for the sake of falling in love, or even resist opposing this idea.
There are many ways to enjoy life, not only love can alleviate loneliness, it depends on how you arrange your life, so that your life has quality and quality.
Loneliness is not alleviated by someone around, in the winter afternoon, go to the café to find a window position, the sun just fell on the face, order a cup of coffee, pick up a good book, sit quietly for an afternoon.
The earth is round, and the right people will always meet.
It is not said that you are very bad, but you want a quality boyfriend who loves you very much, the probability is too small and too small, and it is easier for talents at one level to come together, so that there is a common topic, talking about the world, dreaming of the future.
While you are working hard, he is also working hard in the future, don't worry, take your time.
It is a very happy thing to meet the right person at the right time, there are too many people at the foot of the mountain and halfway up the mountain, it is better to meet at the top of the mountain, and you can clearly see the faces of both sides.
I hope you,
"Don't talk about low-quality relationships,
If you want to fall in love, you have to work in years. ”
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