If you ask the current boys, why are they still single and not in love. Most of the answers are that because I am poor, I don't want to be in love because I don't have money.
We miss the love of the former people, the car and horse are very slow, and there is only enough to love one person in a lifetime. So simple, so beautiful.
And now, if you want to fall in love, you have to have a certain economic strength. The human heart becomes impetuous, and love becomes realistic.
Even if you don't want to be so realistic, life and the environment will force you to become realistic. Love is a delicate flower that needs bread to take care of.
Some people say: feelings are not suitable to see three views, feelings are stable and unstable to see three meals. Because of love, the two come together, but to go far, bread is the guarantee of feelings.
I often hear many friends around me say that it is not that they do not want to fall in love, but that their own conditions do not allow it. In real life, there are not a few boys with such ideas.
Combined with my own experience and the observations of friends around me, to analyze the real thoughts and psychological changes of such boys.
First, the feeling of inferiority brought about by lack of money
For ordinary people, money is the backbone of the poor, and money can bring you confidence and confidence. The mental state of having money and not having money is completely different.
Some people may not be able to feel that those boys with bad family conditions have the inferiority that goes deep into the bone marrow.
From an early age, he was ravaged by life because of his family's poverty. Even if others don't look down on him because they don't have money. But he never got over the inferiority in his heart, and always felt inferior.
Many boys who have no money, most of them will be very inferior, do not want to dare to fall in love, and even feel that they are not worthy of love.
They will always be far away and escape from the world, eager to find a quiet corner, alone and quiet, not wanting to disturb anyone or be disturbed by others. Sometimes I even feel inferior to myself that I am a superfluous being in this world.
Second, fear can not give happiness to others
Don't say that it costs money to get married, buying a house to give a bride price is not a small expense. Let's say that the process of falling in love, eating, watching movies, and giving gifts, is also inseparable from money. It's not that a lot of people don't want to fall in love, it's that they can't afford to talk about it at all.
For people with good economic conditions, eating, drinking and giving gifts is nothing, but for boys who have no money, saving money for a month may not be able to send a gift to their girlfriend.
Many people say self-deprecatingly, I can't even take care of myself, where I have the ability to take care of others, can't give my girlfriend happiness, then don't start, a person is also very good, the key is to save money.
Maybe the girlfriend doesn't care about these and is willing to work hard and struggle with you, but the man still can't get through the level in his heart, feels that he can't give happiness to others, will feel guilty, will blame himself, and endure mental torture every day.
In a short video clip, a woman says, "Maybe I'm willing to suffer with you," but the man hysterically says, "But I don't want to."
Men always hope that they have a house and a car, and then consider marriage when the conditions are good, hoping to give each other happiness. When there is no money, more thinking about being able to work well and work hard to make money, there is no time and energy to accompany the girlfriend at this time.
The biggest sadness is that when you have the ability to marry her, she is already married to someone else.
Third, I am afraid that there will be no results in the end
Some people ask why most of the boys now don't want to chase girls anymore. One of the most important reasons is the fear of investing feelings and money into it, and finally failing.
The more boys who have no money, the more serious they are about their feelings, and once they start falling in love, they hold the purpose of marriage. Would put a lot of affection and money into it.
Once you fail, that kind of blow is beyond the scope of bearing, and once you hit, you may be discouraged, and even begin to doubt yourself and doubt life.
In addition, now people are also very realistic to get married, houses, cars, bride price, the same can not be less. For boys who have no money, when they think of the cost of marriage, they instantly have no enthusiasm for love.
Since there is no result in the beginning, instead of being sad, it is better not to start. So, many people start to choose to escape and choose to be single. Ask them why they don't fall in love, and answer that they don't dare to fall in love without money.
Fourth, it has been hit before
Once bitten by a snake, ten years afraid of well rope. Once paid a relationship, and finally lost to reality, the shadow of this failure, has become a man's heart demon, always unable to overcome themselves and come out.
Don't underestimate the emotional blow, especially touching the most sensitive and vulnerable places in the heart.
A friend once said that when he was in college, he liked a girl and had the courage to confess. But the girl's answer is, I only treat you as a brother, we are impossible. While enjoying the efforts of others, he rejects others. The reason is that you are too poor to afford the life you want, that marriage requires a material foundation, and that if not, don't fall in love.
Originally because of the poor family conditions on the inferiority complex, coupled with the blow of the girl, after encountering the girl, they began to escape, did not dare to boldly pursue, the reason is that they can not get rid of the single before they get rid of poverty.
So, it's not that you don't want to fall in love, it's that you're afraid. I worry that the past will be played out again.
At last:
In fact, there is no money and do not be too inferior, after all, there are still many ordinary people in this world, and the family conditions are particularly good, and it is only a minority.
Man can be poor, but the heart cannot be poor. Even if you live at the bottom, you must be positive, optimistic, and self-motivated. When you meet the right person, you must also seize the opportunity, no one will always be waiting for you in the same place, happiness is won by yourself. At all times, we must believe in love, because if you believe in love, you will meet true love.