Netizens asked:
The second year of high school, has not been able to learn how to do, the foundation of high school is not very good, anyway to high school on the decadence, now is it too late to work hard?
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"After going to high school, I was decadent, the foundation of high school was not good, and I couldn't continue to study in my second year of high school."
Your question is, is it too late to work hard?
What if I told you it was too late?
What if I told you that it was too late?
We have encountered such a problem many times in GuanXinying, which seems to be asking questions about academic development, but in fact, it is because the inner goal is not firm enough.
The essence is that you're not sure if you want to do it, or you want to get an answer that tells you, "You don't need to do it." ”
If you eat and don't eat at 5 o'clock, you won't ask at 7 o'clock, "Now that it's 7 o'clock, is it too late for me to eat?" ”
If you go to sleep and don't fall asleep at 11 o'clock, you won't ask at 12 o'clock, "Now that it's 12 o'clock, is it too late for me to sleep?" ”
When you look at these things, you don't even think about the problem of being too late, right?
What do you ask if it's too late?
It's actually something that's uncertain and takes time and effort.
For example, when a farmer sows seeds, he will think about how long it will be before winter, and it may be too late to sow seeds.
For example, when the takeaway brother was delivering takeaway, he saw this red light, and if he timed out, he would be deducted.
What's the point? Clever you may have found that there is a subtext behind too late.
If I don't complete this task on time, will the time and energy I spend be wasted?
The fear of failure causes the problem of boredom, and it is your real problem that you cannot learn.
The following management camp will answer your questions from three aspects, college entrance examination, procrastination, and wisdom.
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Gaokao: The essence is the inner volume
Success and failure are relative and require reference to a specific goal.
For example, college entrance examination is a goal, university examination is a goal, and entrance examination to a famous school is also a goal.
For those who target to enter a famous university, it is a failure to enter an ordinary university; for those who target a college entrance examination, to enter an ordinary university is a great success.
Although you didn't say specific goals, according to your description, you may not be able to get into the school you want.
In my experience, this goal is often not your own goal, but the goal given to you by the outside world.
Because if a person is eager to get into a good university, then without any persuasion, he will work hard.
And a person has no inner goal, just listen to the words of the parents to learn, the volume wins well, the volume does not win, even the positive encouragement of the parents is also a kind of pressure - after all, the expectations and requirements behind the encouragement are what they want the child to do.
The cruelty of high school learning is not the absolute number of grades, but the comparison between each other.
High school study, when it comes to the essence, is to compete, to compare, is to roll in.
In the case of high competitive pressure, the heart must be anxious and competitive.
It's not so much that students hate school as it is that students hate competition.
The hard work of today's students is not in the learning itself, but in the competitive pressure of learning.
The college entrance examination itself is a kind of internal volume, and the number of enrollment places every year is almost the same, and the university only recruits 10 people this year.
The quality of students in this class, even if the quality of students is increased by 700 points from 600 points, there will be no more places in a university, or a fixed 10.
Everybody wants to go to college, just like everybody wants to win the lottery, which is of course unrealistic, everybody wins the lottery, the lottery is not worth it.
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Procrastination: Tasks do not need to be executed when they expire
When you are afraid of failure, then you are also a slave to expectations.
The fear of all failure hides expectation and dissatisfaction.
When expectations are too high, you are bound to be dissatisfied with the status quo and there are problems everywhere.
When it is too late to complain, the action is actually a procrastination behavior.
Especially when the task is relatively difficult and the individual is too anxious about his failure, procrastination is perfectly normal.
The college entrance examination itself is a hugely difficult task.
As mentioned earlier, the competitive pressure of students is not small, and it can even be said that the college entrance examination is the largest competition that most people have experienced in their lives.
Both conditions are met, so the fear of failure is inevitable.
Here you may have a question, since you are so afraid of failure, why do you still procrastinate instead of learning?
Quite simply, learning is a task that requires a lot of physical and mental resources.
People who are in anxiety are often inefficient, and the feeling is that they "can't learn".
Guess what happens when a person is inefficient and has to perform a task that requires a lot of resource mobilization?
It will be exhausting, but the subconscious mind will not let us die, it initiates "procrastination".
For example, if you want to participate in an important competition next week, what if you need 100 to achieve achievements, the efficiency is 10 per day, and the operation cannot complete the task?
If it were a computer, it would crash.
But people are not the same as computers, people are much smarter, people will not die, people will be smart standby - procrastination.
After all, as long as it is delayed until after the game, this task does not have to run.
I am afraid of mission failure, but what is more terrifying than mission failure is death, and exhaustion is even more frightening.
Similarly, as long as you drag the study tasks of the college entrance examination to the end of the college entrance examination, then you do not have to perform the study tasks.
In this mood, chicken soup is often useless, after all, everyone has tried the frustration of failure.
The subtext of "too late" is that since I will fail, why should I still try? It's better to delay it until the end, and I don't have to deal with this problem.
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Wisdom: The more you learn, the more efficient you are
Finally, let's talk about a little chicken soup, computers can be upgraded, and people can "upgrade" wisdom through learning.
Camp Guanxin is very fond of using exercise as a metaphor for learning.
If this point can help you, I hope you can like and pay attention to us and help us.
Learning and exercising is really like that.
Every time you learn a little more, you gain a little more knowledge; every time you work hard to exercise a little more, you get a little more health.
The more you learn, the stronger your ability to learn will be.
It's like exercising, the more you exercise, the stronger your body gets.
I don't know if you have ever had the experience of running, if you have ever insisted on running, you may have experienced this feeling.
In the beginning, you feel breathless after running a kilometer, and ten kilometers are out of reach for you.
But after you stick with it for a week or two, you'll find it easy to run a kilometer, two kilometers is acceptable, and three kilometers is barely a try.
This is because getting a kilometer stronger by running is no longer a problem.
After running for a long time, five kilometers and six kilometers are not a problem, and when you can insist on running eight kilometers, the goal of ten kilometers looks very simple.
Human potential is great, and the more it accumulates, the more powerful it becomes.
The same is true of learning, the more you learn, the more wisdom grows, and the more complex the problems that can be solved.
In the first grade, we would only add and subtract within ten, and when we grew up, we would add, subtract, multiply, and divide, and then we would grow up complex operations, geometry, and so on.
The more you learn, the more your wisdom grows, and the growth of wisdom, like exercise, is never too late.
You can study at 13, you can learn at 30, and you can learn at 61; and exercise is also, you exercise well at 13, you exercise well at 30, and you exercise well at 61.
Even if someone else wins you, his growing wisdom is his, not yours; so is exercise, even if someone else runs farther than you and is in better shape than you, it's his, not yours.
But in the same way, the wisdom you learn, the health you exercise, is also yours, not someone else's.
When you study for a long time, you are naturally efficient, and your efficient learning allows you to learn more knowledge.
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