"Get the Father-in-Law" mainly tells the story of a national second-level consultant teacher with no house, no car and no deposits, who runs an ordinary psychological clinic and earns a salary of 4,000 a month, but has a sexy and beautiful flight attendant girlfriend Susie, and the Mid-Autumn Festival is the day he and his girlfriend agreed to meet their father-in-law and mother-in-law. As soon as he arrived at Susie's house, Fan Jianqiang was stunned by the size of the villa in front of him, and what surprised him even more was that Susie's father was actually his own patient.
Su Bohu is a very famous economics professor, who values fame and does not believe in Fan Qiangqiang's professional ethics, fearing that his unknown secrets will be leaked by Fan Jianqiang, making himself discredited, and bent on driving Fan Jianqiang away.
Fan Jianqiang used his sincerity and actions to get rid of his father-in-law, eliminate the worries of his father-in-law and mother-in-law, and let them understand that they did not lose a good daughter, but had a good son-in-law.
Fan Jianqiang had no house, no car and no deposit, and finally hugged the beauty. Tell us: conditions will not become an obstacle to love, whether in the relationship, or in marriage, a man who truly loves you will never isolate you from the family.
As soon as Fan Jianqiang arrived at Susie's house, he was opposed by Susie's father, Su Bohu.
On the one hand, there is a doctor-patient relationship, and he is worried that his secret will be leaked by Fan Qiangqiang, who is a time bomb around him, and he is determined to rule it out.
On the other hand, Fan Jianqiang has no house, no car, no savings, and out of his father's love and concern for his daughter, "parents have far-reaching plans for it", and he is afraid that his daughter will suffer.
Su Bohu became the biggest obstacle to Fan Qiangqiang's feelings.
Fan Jianqiang grew up in a single-parent family, he once watched his parents argue endlessly, and finally chose to divorce himself but could not do anything, he understood the pain and helplessness of losing his loved ones.
When he saw Susie arguing and turning against her father for her own sake, and when Susie cried and ran away from home, he in turn advised Susie, saying:
The uncle is afraid that he will lose such a good daughter as you, and we must let him know that he will never lose a good daughter, only a good son-in-law.
When his girlfriends all chose themselves and turned against her parents, he did not have a heart, but worried, he loved Susie, did not want to make her lack a warm home because of himself, did not want the people he loved, because of himself and isolated from her original family.
There is such a transparent and open-minded heart in the feelings, only those who truly give love can be considered.
A girl for a man, and their parents against each other, and boyfriend elopement, the girl for love to give up decades of childbearing to raise their parents, the boy although got love, but his love is selfish, the price of his love is to isolate the girl from his original family.
Such love is immoral, unequal, and selfish.
Good love is based on reciprocity and mutual respect.
In psychology, sacrificing one's own affection to fulfill one's feelings is an act that reduces one's marital market value.
If you can't do reciprocity, how can you get respect?
People who truly love you, will think differently, will stand in the woman's shoes to think about problems, solve problems, hope to turn themselves into your family, and will never try to isolate you from your family.
And people who don't love enough, or retreat from difficulties, or elope with women, and eventually forget each other.
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been a difficult scripture since ancient times, constantly cutting and straightening out chaos.
There was also a saying that "it is difficult for a clean official to judge family affairs", which shows the profound foundation of this sutra in marriage and family.
Zhang Xiaoxian once said:
The hurt a man does to a woman is not necessarily that he is in love with someone else, but that he disappoints her when she has expectations and does not support her when she is vulnerable.
Women are most afraid of the trusted non-person, afraid of being isolated in the contradictions of marriage.
Leaving one's parents to integrate into a new original family, everything needs to start over, the run-in of the husband and wife's feelings and the run-in of the family relationship all need a time process, to give the woman time, to let the woman and you become a family time.
Dale Carnegie said in Carnegie's Advice to a Woman's Happiness in Life:
After investigation, it was found that it takes at least five years for husband and wife to truly understand each other, that is to say, in these five years, husband and wife are constantly groping.
Whether a marriage or family is happy or not depends in large part on whether in the process of exploration, contradictions and difficulties can be resolved well, of which the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the biggest problem.
Can the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law be resolved? Happy marriage? A lot depends on the man.
In marriage, men should have a correct self-orientation, and men are first a husband and then a son.
When your parents and your wife clash, you must stand on the side with your wife, not be neutral, let alone stand against your wife.
Only in the relationship of support and help from her husband will women not feel that they are outsiders and will not feel isolated.
Therefore, what makes a woman cold in marriage is not poverty, but isolation.
A man who truly loves you, in the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, he will be a "sandwich cookie", so that it will taste sweet.
In "Get the Father-in-Law", Fan Qiang has no house, no car, no deposit, and finally hugs the beauty, telling us: the road of feelings is not smooth, there will be obstacles, but there is no shortcut, only by loving with heart, to pay, the road of feelings will be unimpeded.
A man who truly loves you will never leave you alone!