father:
Okay lately? Yesterday was the Dragon Boat Festival, today is Father's Day, accumulated two holiday emotions, I write this letter to you this morning. I hope you recover, have a good mood, and have a happy Father's Day!
Twenty days have passed since the beginning of the month to see you return. After the second wave came home, tell me all about your situation, knowing that you were arranged to live in a nursing home, one-on-one care, professional meals, not far from the city, and now the swallowing function has been greatly improved, the body mobility has gradually recovered, and so on... My hanging heart is also slowly flattening, cheering for you!
Shanghai to Weifang is getting closer and closer. Now it's easy to fly or high-speed rail. Transportation and the Internet have greatly reduced time and space, and distance is no longer a problem. Now the world is flat. The distance between man and man is actually the distance of the heart, the mind thinks, the mind goes, the mind goes, the thought goes with the thought, just a thought, you see the face. It is also true of the saying "see the letter as you see". You think of us, we miss you, you can see us in minutes, so you don't have to feel lonely.
Living in a nursing home may make you feel sad and sad that you are "gradually getting old and getting thin", which is the common sentiment of people. Not only you, but also our age also has a "aging" feeling. The development of society has made people's life expectancy continue to increase, the average life expectancy is twenty years higher than thirty years ago, and now people can generally live to eighty or ninety years old. As a result, in many Chinese cities, the elderly population over the age of 60 exceeds 15%. Some large cities like Shanghai have an aging population of more than 20%. Therefore, it is now an era of "old people everywhere" and "longevity is not unusual".
In the face of such an era, how should we spend a long period of aging, this is a topic worth studying, on the one hand, after the extension of life expectancy, "fifty years old to recognize the old, sixty years old to serve the old, seventy years old to rely on the old to sell the old" the old ideas can be put to rest! Sixty or seventy is not old, in the ranks of the elderly can only be regarded as a middle-aged youth, if at this time, they will be regarded as "old men", living a life of not asking anything, thinking all day and only asking enough, that is actually "waiting for death", is "not dying to die" negative mode, psychological negativity and unhealth, will inevitably be reflected in the body, "old from the heart" is this truth.
From another point of view, is it happiness when you live a long life? Now people's life expectancy is longer than twenty years ago, but happiness has not been correspondingly improved, the key factor is not in material conditions, nor in transportation or communication is not developed, not in the size of power, status, the key is still in the human heart. In the heart of the ordinary, in the heart of goodness, in the filial piety of children, in the sense of fairness and righteousness in society. Therefore, the current health problems of the elderly are mainly concentrated in the gap between the increase in life expectancy and the lack of happiness caused by the mismatch with the rate of psychological aging.
Tianxingjian, a gentleman who strives for self-improvement. It is recommended that dads can't be old, they should take themselves as the vanguard of the elderly team, give full play to your erudition and experience, and create a new culture and create a new world in the elderly group, so that you can live more dignified and valuable! We want you to be comfortable in your new environment, to be moist and steady, and to feel meaningful every day.
No one can stop blushing. Laughter floats and disturbs dreams. The flat land is, rushing the road, and what labor, a thousand days of hard work.
Floating under the lotus peak, the clouds are deep and the twilight bell is blown down. Visit the old hidden, still there, but the crane nest, sometimes there are fallen pines.
This is a song of the Song Dynasty Lu You. No party can stop the face red, that is to say, the mentality is good, the appearance is good. Shakyamuni said, "Be at peace, all the world is flat. ”
Freezing three feet is not a cold day. Your current cerebral thrombosis and diabetes are caused by accumulating over time and not controlling your eating and drinking habits over the years. Illness comes like a mountain, and illness goes like a thread. As the obscure master said: "Long-term ruin cannot be quickly achieved, accumulated shortcomings cannot be eliminated, excellent travel cannot be loved for a long time, human feelings cannot be just right, and disasters cannot be avoided." Husbands are good for knowledge, and when they reach these five things, there is no boredom involved in the world. ”
For the management of chronic diseases, diet is the key. Medication is not as good as diet, which is the main reason why children arrange for you to stay in a nursing home. Not only can you provide professional medical escorts, but you can also be assured that you can provide specially designed meals for your condition. Don't neglect eating. For your encephalopathy plus diabetes taboo food is particularly much, and the absorption capacity is not very good for patients, what to eat three meals a day, how to eat, is the top priority. Although the family is convenient to live in, the family can also take care of it, but the only thing about cooking cannot be compared with the meals in the nursing home. We may not be able to grasp the balance of nutrients so accurately, so you have to carefully follow the recipes of the nursing home every day, and I believe that these days of diet have made you feel good.
In addition to eating well, it is recommended that you use your brain more. The way to deal with brain atrophy is to use more brains. Playing games, rubbing mahjong will be the brain, reading, thinking, writing, but also the brain. Especially writing, which is the process of dialogue between oneself and oneself, is the collation and output of thoughts, and is the highest level of brain health. So I suggest you write something every day, poetry or memoirs, or write me back letters, hoping you can stick with it.
This year is your life year. It is said that the year of this life is a hurdle, or that sentence, the heart is flat, everything is flat, there is no obstacle. The year of this life is also a new beginning, a new environment, which means that you must also take the initiative to change some old habits and cultivate new interests. Unconsciously, I wrote this letter for two hours, first talking about it, and finally ending with a song from Lu You, "Self-Laughter".
Laughing at the drunken madness of ping, Qianzhong made the angry teenager stunned.
That knowing that the sick leaf fell first, he envied the cold turtle and shrunk it.
The drug was timely xi laojian, and the mountain family was busy with the day.
The fierce year sat waiting for the new spring wheat, and Mo was tired of the long night of the snow.
Good luck cheyenne!
2015.6.21
That year's Dragon Boat Festival coincided with Father's Day
For the first time, I expressed my views on the age of old-age care to my elders
I posted all the posts that I could show off to the old man
At that time, I was reading Lu You's Jiannan poetry collection, so Lu Shi would pop up from time to time.
Note: This is the only letter I wrote to my father-in-law, when his elderly family was sick and difficult to operate, and he was sent to a professional nursing home for nursing care according to the doctor's instructions. In order to persuade them to recuperate with peace of mind, use their brains to increase their memory. Close-up handwritten long letter, hoping that he will regain his pen and ink, restore his literary thoughts, or get better! alack! The Scythians are gone, but the letter remains in thought. Collect the old letters now, and sigh for a long time. A document was sent to commemorate it.