"Every adult has two sides. On the one hand, there are living tigers with their backs to the mirror, if nothing happens, each of them is decent, clenching their teeth and desperately fighting; on the other side is the fragile and sensitive face of the mirror, with a heavy heart, uncontrollable emotions, and a silent collapse. ”
(i)
Some time ago, I went to Beijing on a business trip to participate in a large-scale exhibition in the industry. Remembering his old classmate Bobo, whom he had not seen for a long time, he invited him to sit down and get together.
When we met, I almost didn't recognize him. His face was full of exhaustion, he had not seen him for several years, exuding maturity beyond his age, accompanied by his hairline, and there was nothing left. If he hadn't greeted me in advance, I wouldn't have recognized him.
We sat down in a slightly quieter corner of the restaurant and chatted about some of the situations that had been going on with everyone over the years. I just learned about the pressure of life he had experienced in the past few years, and in the process of talking, he remembered that life was not easy, and he choked up several times.
After graduation, unlike most of his classmates who stayed in the capital city of his alma mater, he chose to go to the capital Beijing, where he said that he now wakes up every day feeling stressed and breathing difficult! Don't dare resign.
After graduating from a 985/211 university in Hunan for 5 years, he is now working in a private enterprise with an annual salary of 300,000 yuan.
The boy with the eldest child, three years old, kindergarten class, spends 3,000 yuan per month; he did not intend to have a second child, but he was unexpectedly pregnant, and he had to stay due to his wife's physical reasons; his wife took care of the child at home full-time and had no income.
The family lives in the suburbs, the mortgage is 6K per month, and the private enterprise provident fund is small. Commute 100 kilometers back and forth every day, subway round trip for 3 hours a day, and change trains four times a day! Really tired. Eight hours a day, two hours at noon, three hours of sleep, less than three hours of your own time! He said he couldn't go any further at work, didn't have time to go to the gym, and was getting worse and worse. There is no hobby, it feels easy to die suddenly, or a major psychological illness. Life overwhelmed him.
He said that he really missed the meeting when he first graduated, and he changed jobs when he wanted to change jobs.
Without the dependence of parents, without the help of the family, since college, he has relied on the state student loan to complete his studies, paid off the student loan after graduation, barely made up the down payment to buy a house, got married and had children, and his parents could not help him take care of the children. How all this happened to Bobo, this may be the reason why Bobo has become so mature over the years!
(ii)
Some time ago, the video of a father crying at a parent-teacher conference made countless netizens cry.
Shortly after the start of the school year, the father went to the child's parent-teacher meeting, but was named and criticized by the homeroom teacher:
"So-and-so parents often do not return to the class group information, make many phone calls and do not answer, the child needs the family and the school to work together to educate, I hope you care more about him."
After Dad listened, he suddenly had an emotional breakdown, and he lay on his desk and cried:
"How could I not care about my children? Every day overtime until the early hours of the morning, I can't stare at the class all the time, you call me, I don't want to pick up, where is the time to pick up during the meeting! ”
This father's words have made countless netizens see themselves in the predicament:
"The collapse of adults is often instantaneous."
"It's really adult life without the word easy."
(iii)
Recently, a man in Haining, Jiaxing, cried at the door of the Yancang police station due to an emotional breakdown.
Recently, at about 1 a.m., a man sat on the doorstep of the Haining Yancang police station in Jiaxing, looking lonely, and a bicycle was parked next to him. Lu Nuyuan, a police officer who returned from the police, sensed something strange and took the initiative to chat with the man.
The man said, "I'm so tired!" The bike can't be moved..." Lu Nuyuan beckoned him to sit in the office and warm his body, but the man refused, saying that he wanted to rest his feet at the door and wait for dawn before he left...
Seeing that the man was depressed, Lu Numayuan sat down side by side with him, "You will treat me as your friend, let's chat!" ”
It was getting cold in the middle of the night, and the staff at the police station brought hot water and bread to the man. Seeing that everyone cared so much about him, the man burst into tears and told him that his life was not easy. The man's surname is Liu, 48 years old this year, lost a lot of money in early years because of stock speculation, and divorced again, only his son and he depended on each other. For several years, he has been working odd jobs to make ends meet. Recently, a friend's family member who lent him money was seriously ill and desperately needed money. He could only mortgage the car he used to drive a ride-hailing car to make money, and then return the money to a friend.
In order to redeem the car as soon as possible, he thought of Haining's relatives to borrow some money to turn around, so he rode his bicycle from Hangzhou Qiaosi to Haining in the morning, but no one found it, and the money was not borrowed.
"I can borrow you a little money, don't worry about paying it back, you go back first, the son of the family also needs your care, the road will always be there!"
"I can't ask for your money, I can't owe you money..." In the face of Lu Nuyuan's kindness, the man repeatedly resigned.
Seeing that the man refused to accept the money, Lu Nuyuan said: "No matter how unsatisfactory life is, you still have a son, we don't want you to encounter difficulties and think about it!" We also believe that you will be fine! ”
Everyone is cheering up the man with every word you say to me. Under everyone's comfort, the man calmed down.
"There are always more ways than difficulties in life, you come out for a day, we will send you back first!" In this way, the man got into the car of the police station and returned home at two o'clock in the morning.
(iv)
Until the time of separation, I did not think of how to open the wave wave classmate, once spirited, angular and sharp, he is now polished by the years of sparkling.
The adult world is not as quiet as the years!
People who really see through this world are practicing with suffering.
Behind all the, it's hard work. Behind all the life you envy, you force yourself to take the initiative to suffer again and again.
In the silent night, when you brush your mobile phone to chase the drama, someone has a strong spirit and knocks down the first line of code;
Lively dinner, when you put the wine to talk, someone refused the invitation of a friend, the case work;
In this world, there are always people who are better than you and work harder than you.
If you don't like the current state, then force yourself to jump out of your comfort zone, boldly try, to break through...
I have to say that in the adult world, the road is not easy, and no one's life is easy.
Who is not saying "I'm sorry I'm useless", while gritting their teeth and struggling, wanting to become the pride and dependence of their families;
Who is not crying and shouting "I really can't bear it", while straightening up and resisting, even if the strength is small, still choose to fight against life.
Hemingway once said: "Superior to others, not noble, the real nobility is superior to the past self." ”
Facing the sea, spring blossoms