Hoping for a child to become a dragon and a daughter to become a phoenix is the wish of every parent, but in the actual growth process of children, the ways and methods of education are not easy to control. If the care is too loose, it is easy to let the child go astray, the care is too severe, and it is easy to make the child have a rebellious psychology, and the effect is counterproductive. The tightness of education has always been a headache for many parents.
There is such an outstanding violinist: Chen Mei, who at the age of 10 has already appeared in the world's most famous Royal Festival Hall in London, and the reason why she can become famous as a teenager is inseparable from her mother's strict requirements. However, when Chen Mei was 20 years old, she publicly announced that she had "severed" the brokerage relationship with her mother Pamela, which caught Pamela off guard.
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Pamela is of Singaporean Chinese descent and her ex-husband is Thai, and in 1978 the two of them ushered in the crystallization of love: Chen Mei, a family of three who were originally harmonious and rich. But when Chen Mei was a few years old, Pamela's relationship with her husband deteriorated sharply, and her husband began not to go home for several days in a row, and his attitude towards mother and daughter was also very cold.
Pamela could not bear the snub from her husband, chose to divorce, and took Chen Mei to England alone. After arriving in England, Pamela met her destined lover, a polite English gentleman.
The British gentleman is tolerant and loving of Pamela and his daughter Chen Mei, who is not his own, and he hopes to use his strength to shield the wandering mother and daughter from the wind and rain. Daughter Chen Mei is very satisfied with this "new father" and quickly adapts to the life of the new family.
But the young Chen Mei slowly found that her mother's attitude towards her had changed compared to that of Thailand. In the old home, she was a carefree little princess, and her parents bought her a lot of beautiful clothes and toys. But now the toy has become a sheet music, and the only thing that accompanies me day and night is a violin.
Pamela was a pianist and a practicing lawyer before marriage, and among Singaporean women, Pamela is one of the best in her achievements. Her career glory lasted until she married a woman, and after meeting Chen Mei's father, Pamela put more energy into the family, and her career gradually faded.
The failure of the marriage made Pamela wonder if her efforts were worth it, and after settling in England with her daughter, she devoted all her energy to the cultivation of her daughter. She hopes that her daughter will inherit her talents and achieve excellent results in violin playing.
Pamela's way of educating her daughter is to adopt the old Chinese saying "strict teacher makes high disciple". Although her daughter Chen Mei was less than 8 years old, and the immaturity of her age and the weakness of her body often exhausted Chen Mei, the intensity with which Pamela instructed her to learn the violin did not decrease in the slightest.
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Pamela's prescribed practice time for Chen Mei was 4 hours a day, and students who had learned violin must have an idea of the load brought by this time. Chen Mei, who is only 8 years old, holds the violin every day, sits in the piano room for more than 4 hours, and the students who study together walk in batches and batches, only Chen Mei's lonely figure has been sitting in the same place.
If she behaves well, her mother agrees that Xiao Chen Mei will rest on time, and if she pulls more wrong notes, she will train overtime, and if she is heavy, she will usher in her mother's stormy scolding. What impressed Chen Mei the most was that her small body held the piano, and the tears were in her eyes and did not dare to let it fall.
Pamela's almost strict requirements have enabled her daughter to achieve her desired results. When Chen Mei was 10 years old, she had the honor of performing with the famous Philharmonic Orchestra at the Royal Festival Hall in London. Pamela in the audience looked at her daughter who was playing intently on the stage, listened to the applause from the stage, and had a momentary trance, as if returning to her own highlight moment on the stage.
In Pamela's heart, her daughter's success is an extension of her own dream, and she will do everything she can to help her daughter achieve greater success. A year after a successful performance at the Royal Festival Hall, Chen Mei was admitted to the Royal Academy. This is a great encouragement to Pamela, who feels that her strict requirements are an important reason why her daughter can be recognized.
Students at the same level are generally more than 7 years older than Chen Mei, and the teacher can't bear to be too harsh on this girl. But Pamela came to the school to tell the teacher that she did not have to consider Chen Mei's age, that her education at home was more strict, and that if she wanted to succeed, she would have to make more efforts than ordinary people.
After studying at the Royal Academy for two years, the 13-year-old Chen Mei released three of her own classical music albums. International violin masters have described her as "this girl, a bridge between pop and classical music".
To Pamela's great relief, 15-year-old Chen Mei has gone viral around the world with a photo of Lolita playing the violin. As the mother of the youngest soloist in history, Pamela felt that her years of efforts had paid off, and that her time and efforts in her daughter had not been in vain.
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What Pamela did not expect was that at Chen Mei's 21st birthday party, she would usher in the darkest day of her life. A few days before her daughter's birthday, Pamela began to prepare for the day. She invited many well-known musicians in the world of performance, ready to let her daughter play a song in the concert and get more guidance from the masters.
Chen Meiyi ended the song, stood up to thank the audience, and the next speech made Pamela, who was originally full of joy, fall into the ice cave. She couldn't believe her ears and would hear her daughter say to the crowd, "I declare that from today onwards, I will unilaterally dissolve my brokerage relationship with my agent, my mother Pamela. ”
Pamela had a momentary trance, knowing that her daughter's public announcement of the termination of her relationship with her manager was tantamount to declaring that she no longer had the right to participate in her musical career. This was a fatal blow to Pamela, even completely destroying a mother's love for her daughter.
After Chen Mei's birthday party, Pamela left the scene in disgrace, and her dream was completely shattered under the relentless "blow" of her daughter. This once proud, fulfilling mother can no longer look up in front of everyone.
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The success of violinist Chen Mei is indeed inseparable from the cultivation of her mother Pamela, under the strict requirements of Pamela, Chen Mei has been shaped into a work of art, exquisite but without soul. Artistic success is worth cheering, but how much sweat and tears little Chen Mei shed on the road to success is not known to outsiders.
There is nothing wrong with hoping for Jackie Chan, but how can you be willing to let a young child embark on the road of success covered with thorns under the persecution of parents? Everyone has a parenting day, and I believe that most people want their children to be healthy and happy and thrive.