"I understand love, but what is it forever?" ~ Luo Dayou, "Love Song 1980"
Some people say that love is most beautiful when the relationship is unclear, and that subtle emotion that seems to be nothing stirs the heart that longs for love.
But a vague intimate relationship is sometimes a source of suffering, and once one party wants to break through the dangerous balance of the ambiguous relationship, tries to move from darkness to light, but does not get the same response from the other party, the balance of the relationship tilts.
Those signs of love that used to make your heart beat, but now they have become the embarrassment of self-inflicted sentimentality, the blow of true heart for despair, as if to swallow the self alive.
To borrow a lyric written by Luo Dayou in "Love Song 1980": "Today's joy will be tomorrow's painful memories", the romance of yesterday's lovers is only a painful memory in today's personnel.
The movie "500 Days with Summer" starring Hollywood's new generation of talented women Zoe Danschell and Joseph Gordon-Levitt describes the story of his 500-day encounter with the heroine Summer (Zoe Danschel) through the vision of the male protagonist Tom (Joseph Golden-Levitt), but is this a romantic and sweet fairy tale love story with a happy ending?
The film opens with the narrator's mouth and says, this is not a love story, this is just a story about love, with sweetness and cruelty.
For Tom, the sweet thing is that the two have a deep and unforgettable memory of getting along, and Summer satisfies all his imaginations of love.
They love the same rock band, play role-playing together at IKEA, they chat, they kiss, they love, they do all the things that the average couple does.
This is the love That Tom wants, and Shamo is his true destiny. But the cruel thing is that this relationship that he is fully committed to is not the case in Shamo's heart, not even a couple.
Tom's pain is probably the most feared thing for all people who fall into the whirlpool of love, it turns out that the thing about "we" is just his own wishful thinking, but "we" in the other person's heart is not the same thing, so when Tom sees the "I love us" card, it seems particularly heartbreaking.
Tom desperately tries to find out why the relationship changes, is it different to the beatles to love the beatles? Or do you have a different feeling about the ending of the movie "The Graduate" and Shamo? Every subtle look and movement that used to be now a clue to a rift in the relationship.
A well-defined love relationship is what Tom wants, and his love beliefs tell him that as long as he meets the true destiny, life will be happy.
He believes in the redemption of love, believes in the guidance of the god of destiny, but falls in love with Shamo, who does not trust love, does not believe in the myth of chance and coincidence, and Tom needs to commit to each other to confirm the relationship.
Summer only acts on feelings, and being happy together is her highest guiding principle for love, and she can't give a commitment. Two people with completely different love DNA seem to be destined for a future without tomorrow.
Ironically, although Summer shattered Tom's original ideal image of love and destroyed the blueprint for romantic relationships in his heart, Summer herself eventually believed in love, met her true destiny, and promised to marry. And facing the frustration that he is not the ideal object of the other party is another serious blow to Tom.
The contemporary psychology giant Sternberg divides love into three elements: passion, intimacy, and commitment, providing us with a vision of love that can be used to examine our own needs for love and to understand each other's attitudes toward love.
We can't decide what kind of love the other person wants, but what we can do is get to know her and then ask ourselves if this is what you want.
Tom once said that pop music, movies, cards and other things hurt him, let him have beautiful fantasies about love, these are the material to build his love beliefs, and after the relationship with Summer ended, he left the card company that expressed affection for others, and re-faced the building he loved, and he could no longer rely on secondary information this time. He had to re-engage and personally to find and build his lost faith.
The wonderful performances of the two actors make this film more fresh and vivid, and the narrative technique of the film's timing jump also allows the audience to transform into a relationship detective and find the path of relationship evolution from the scattered fragments.
Interestingly, this kind of chaotic, mixed-up storytelling is like really listening to a person who has lost love, and perhaps, the story of lost love, it is always difficult to say clearly, there are always too many questions, and more unknowable answers.
But as long as we talk and talk, tell the story well, and talk about the spring, summer, autumn and winter in the relationship, maybe we can also be like Tom, after 500 days, he finally has the opportunity to get out of this summer storm and go to the next season of his life.