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After falling in love with a person, it is as if you have the whole world, and everything in the world will be much more cute. I can't help but fantasize about the distant future, hoping to hold his hand and walk to the end of the years.
But who can say for sure what will happen in the future? Today still love, tomorrow may not love, even if we can control our feelings, but there is no way to influence each other's thoughts, it is very likely that you are still immersed in the beautiful fantasy of the future, the other party has already moved the plan to break up, just waiting for you to explain at a certain node.
Breaking up is always the saddest, once such a sweet scene has long been engraved into the mind, lingering, the corners of life have the shadow of the other party, he no longer loves, it can be said that he can go away, but the person who still loves, but there is no way to be calm.
Even the most rational people will still be trapped in the whirlpool of breaking up and will be difficult to extricate themselves.
The pain of a breakup can only be felt by those who are in it, as if a hard-earned house has been burned to the ground by a fire, and you know it's your home, but you can't go back.
He has an iron heart to go, you desperately try to keep it to no avail, the person who really wants to leave you can't stay, of course you know this truth, the last thing you can do is to torture yourself, because there are many examples of self-harm for a person who does not love himself, your self-torture can not make the other party change his mind, in the end can only trap himself and aggravate the degree of sadness.
If one day, your loved one changes his heart, please stop torturing yourself, don't be humble, remember these 3 sentences, you will not be so sad.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="11" > the first sentence: Everything is fate, fate is exhausted, it is useless to force it, it is better to let go</h1>
The Buddha said: Only by looking back five hundred times in a past life can we exchange it for a passing shoulder in this life.
All the fates between people are already doomed in the dark, what kind of people you will meet, what kind of stories will happen, the people who come to you, how long they will accompany you, and which stop to get off, are already doomed.
When the fate comes, it can't be stopped, it may just be a quick glance on the street, it may be an unexpected passing by, you look at each other and smile, you are already doomed to a fate, even if you are in a hurry, you will definitely see each other again in the future.
So-called: there is a chance to meet thousands of miles, there is no reason not to meet on the other side. It is your fate that is destined, going around will eventually meet, if there is no fate, even if you see each other every day, you still can't keep each other.
If the two of you can come together, it is fate, and if you are separated one day, it is also because the fate between you has been exhausted, and it is time to leave.
Some people are destined to be able to accompany you only one journey, forcing useless, even if they are struggling to stay, they are only delaying the time to leave, and one day they will still be separated again.
Long pain is not as good as short pain, since it will eventually part, it is better to obey Providence and let go of it, than to be bitterly entangled.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="19" > the second sentence: He doesn't love you, it's not your fault, leaving you is his loss</h1>
We all like to attribute the unhappiness in our feelings to ourselves.
When you can't meet true love, you will feel that you are not good enough, your feelings are not happy, you will feel that you are not capable enough, you can't manage love well, and even some people face betrayal in their feelings, they will also feel that it is their own fault, it is not what they do in place, so that the other party wants to escape.
Even if one day the other party likes someone else and abandons himself, he will reflect on the bad things he has done, and will not feel that he is not loving enough and not qualitative enough.
Always good at self-examination, in a way, is an advantage, but in the relationship, it is difficult for people who are too introspective to please a love, it is difficult to achieve self-consistency, and it is difficult to get out of the pain after the loss of love.
In fact, the reason why many times it is difficult to heal is that we do not know how to let go of ourselves, you always feel that it is your own fault, so you can't help but fantasize, if you can do what you can do, is the other party will not go, if you correct yourself, will he still turn back? With such a thought, how can we get out of the pain of lost love?
As long as we change the angle, the change of thinking will be much calmer. Don't look for reasons from yourself, think more about the other person's bad points, think more about his cruelty to you, you will be easier to come out.
Know that he doesn't love you, it's not your fault, the loss of the relationship, it's not your loss, it's his. You have simply lost someone who does not love you enough, and he has lost someone who loves him with all his heart.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="27" > the third sentence: Without the wrong person, you can hug the right person, and all misses are lucky</h1>
People, ah, will always live in the memories of the past, but do not know how to grasp the present.
I can't help but reminisce about the past, my eyes are always fixed on what I have lost, and I often ignore what I am holding in my hands. Such people often have a hard time having true happiness.
The other party has already completely left you out of his world, and you are still worried about a love that is not worth it at all, a person who does not love you at all. Why bother?
Don't think about the sweetness of two people who have been together, since there is no way to be together in the end, then even if he used to be really good and he has a lot of shining points, it has nothing to do with you. From the day they separated, he was nothing more than a passerby and had nothing to do with you.
The person who will leave is the wrong person, no matter how good you were before, no matter how good he was to you before, it has become the past, the wrong person, even if you try your best, you can't become the right person.
Only by leaving him, emptying his heart, and freeing up the position around him, can he embrace the right person. All the misses are actually a kind of luck, calmly accept the fact that the other party does not love, as soon as possible out of the pain of the breakup, in order to be able to hug the new life faster and get the love that truly belongs to you.
Sincerity is something that is easy to change, and those sea oaths and mountain alliances should listen to it, don't take it too seriously.
Everyone comes to us with a mission, someone teaches you love, someone is here to teach you a long lesson, and someone will tell you with practical actions that the world is worth it, and you are worthy of love.
When the fate comes, you have no way to refuse, even if you have another chance, you will still make the same choice, those hurts are inevitable, so there is no need to regret loving the wrong person, it is a precious experience in life, and only by loving and missing can you truly have the final happiness.
When the person you like changes his heart, don't keep it and don't please, remind yourself with the above 3 sentences, which will make you reduce a lot of pain.