When we are provoked by the words and deeds of the other party, we must also recognize that the other party is provoking a "power struggle" and wants to prove our strength by winning. When we and our friends are in a heated discussion, each other does not give in to each other, the other party rises to personality attack, scolding you as a big fool and so on, in this case, the other party's purpose is to rebuke and provoke you, through the power struggle to achieve the purpose of making you submit.
Suppose we suppress the argument and the other side withdraws from the argument, but the power struggle does not end there, and the other side will soon enter the "revenge" stage. The other side will plan revenge in other forms and wait for revenge in other places.
Some children who have been abused by their parents will go astray, skip school, and even self-harm behaviors such as wrist cutting, if according to the theory of causes, it will be boiled down to "because parents educate in this way, it will lead to children becoming like this", but the teleology believes that this is the child in order to "retaliate against the parents", thinking that they have bad behavior, truancy, or even wrist cutting, then the parents will be troubled, and the parents will panic and be in pain. It is precisely because the child knows this that the problem behavior will occur.
Once interpersonal relationships develop to the stage of revenge, it is almost impossible to reconcile between the parties, and in order to avoid this, it is absolutely impossible to be provoked by the struggle for power.
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