【Original meaning】
Xu Ai, a student, asked Mr. Xu doubtfully: Filial piety, loyalty, faith, benevolence, etc. in the world, there are still many details of reasoning, which is difficult to be careful to detect all?
The gentleman said: Is the principle of filial piety to be found in the father? Is the truth of loyalty to be found in the king? Is the way to friends to be found in friends? Is the way to love to be found in the people?
All these truths are in the heart of man, and the true heart that is not polluted by selfish desires is the heavenly truth. There is no need to look for a point outside the heart. Use it to treat others well, as long as there is no trace of selfish desire in the heart, the behavior is naturally reasonable and respectful. ”
Xu Ai still has doubts, such as serving his parents in life, how should he pay attention to many things and details?
The gentleman replied that the main thing is to get rid of selfish desires and retain the heavenly principles of truth and goodness, and his inner motivation is only filial piety, and there is no trace of other selfish desires, so he can naturally do these things well. For example, when it is hot, I will think that my parents should be cool, and when it is cold, I naturally have to add clothes to keep warm. The heart of sincere filial piety is the root of the tree, and the specific way to do things is the branches and flowers and fruits, and there must be roots before there is fruit.
The Book of Rites says: "The filial piety who loves his parents deeply must be very kind to his parents, have a good attitude, have a pleasant appearance, and have a beautiful expression." ”
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【Learning Experience】
The content of the third part feels very practical, and can guide the thoughts and behaviors in life in great detail whether they are reasonable. Here are some examples.
For example, taking care of the elderly, many elderly people have limited mobility, bad memory, hygiene can not be exquisite, emotions are not good, and even the ears can not hear. With them, there must be many things that cannot meet their own requirements, and it is also normal to cause troubles. If I really love my parents, I will think that when I was a child, I was also dirty and messy, and my parents raised me without complaint. They raised me, I gave them a pension, not to mention that they are not in good health, and they are not intentional, what is the complaint of the children? Even if you have money to hire a nanny to serve the elderly, it is already considered filial piety. Unless you really don't have time, but you don't have time, there are other ways to care.
For example, people in love, boys start mostly from the beginning of liking each other, which has the existence of selfish desires. Because you start to see only the strengths of the other person, rather than including the shortcomings across the board. When the feelings heat up, you see the other person's shortcomings, thoughts and troubles. It can be said that love is selfish, and both men and women will desire the happiness that the other party brings to themselves. Girls like to listen well, like each other to take care of themselves, like to be willful... If the other person can't do it, they will be disappointed.
After experiencing the run-in, the rational two sides will sublimate to true love. With equanimity, normalcy, tolerance. Natural tacit understanding, respect each other as guests, where the other party's feelings are considered in advance, not rebellious, nor blindly conniving. Everything is based on the interests of the other party, taking into account the results of both sides, reasonable and moderate, and achieving each other.
Especially married people, if they do not find the source of contradictions from their own hearts, even if they remarry, they will not be happy. Of course, the best way to get along is that both sides are sensible. If it is a party that tolerates it for a long time, it will be very tiring, unless your cultivation and mental strength are very strong.
Because the pursuit of failure, from love to hate, such cases abound. There is already a clear lust in this. If you can't get a relationship, why can't you thank the other person for having met? I really can't think of any reason to resent others. Also, if a relationship is impossible, then cling to the past, fantasize about the future, never forget, and even be discouraged. This is also the attitude of losing oneself to this "me". If the other person is better off, why aren't you happy? Is it that he belongs to you and that you are happy? Isn't that obviously selfish?
If you have a fate, cherish it and treat it well. If you don't have a chance, just bless it. The love of the other person should never change. Even if you never say goodbye, you will never see each other again in this life, and your heart will always miss gratitude and be warm until you are old. This is true love. Feelings have no idea of gain or loss.
Also in the work or business field, if you treat people from the conscience, you will understand that "suffering losses is a blessing", although ignorant people will laugh at you, but more importantly, you have the respect of most people around you, and a broader network of resources. Villains will take advantage of you, but fate will not treat you badly. Fools have foolish blessings, but this stupid premise is for the sake of others, and if they are foolish to hurt others and be ignorant, it is not right.
My personal understanding and summary: as long as there is something negative in the heart, it is selfish desires.
Such as sadness, pain, resentment, loss, pride, sadness... If you follow the vine to touch the melon, you will definitely find the root of your lust. If you can always keep your heart happy and comfortable before and after doing things, you can always be at ease, and believe that your heart is right. Most of the reasons for a person's unhappiness are their own problems, and there are too many gains and losses, attachments, and calculations. Wang Yangming's psychology can give us a very detailed guide to life, treat heart disease, and return to happiness.
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Heartless Lotus Seed Monday, November 1, 2021