In recent years, family education TV dramas have always been a fragrant feast for the film and television industry. Whether it is the earlier "Tiger Father Dog", "Tiger Mother and Cat Father", or the later "Little Joy" and "Little Parting", the ratings are very gratifying, and they have also triggered Internet topics many times.
But to be honest, it is not easy to produce a family education TV series with solid drama and explosive reputation.
First, because in recent years, the content of educational TV dramas has been seriously homogenized, and there is no novel entry point; second, the plot trend is easy to exaggerate, except for some pretentious and esoteric golden sentences, it is difficult to accurately cut to the audience's emotional pain points.
On March 28, 2021, Liu Tao's new drama "Grow up with you" took the lead in firing the first shot of the education theme competition, and the current ratings of the start of the broadcast directly broke 4, and half an hour later broke 5, the real-time curve has been rising again, and the potential for explosive models is full.
"Growing Up with You" is an urban family drama starring Liu Tao and Li Guangjie, with the background of the story of four families' children facing "young and rising", telling the story of eight novice parents who experienced various challenges and growth in the process of parenting.
I brushed eight episodes in one breath, and found that this drama really got more and more up, not only the plot is really humorous, making people laugh and have tears, the most prominent thing is the degree of careful polishing of the script, and the content has a strong practical significance.
Although "Growing Up with You" focuses on children's education, its highly realistic restoration of life is far more than that.
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Contemporary novice parents "chicken" baby picture book
The husband and wife combination of Su Xing (played by Liu Tao) and Xi Bin (played by Li Guangjie) is a typical "strict mother and loving father" - one insists on not letting the child lose at the starting line, and the other only hopes that his son will grow up healthy and happy.
Faced with the accident that the child may not be able to enter the ideal school, He woke up and tried his best, including not limited to using relationships, inquiries, petitioning by the Education Bureau, etc., but Xi Bin was like a person who had nothing to do, and felt that he could read anywhere.
Later, when he made a mistake in the workplace, he simply resigned, and when he returned home, he set a KPI for the next three years of learning for his children; Xi Bin disapproved of his wife's approach, emphasizing that parents should help their children reduce their burdens.
Because the two do not agree with each other's educational concepts, the marriage of the past love has gradually cracked, but the baby has not yet cultivated a device.
Li Yunyun (Ying'er) and Gu Jiawei (Li Zonghan) are the traditional "male protagonist outside the female protagonist" family structure. Gu Jiawei has a strong desire for control, advocating cracking down on education, and the requirements for his daughter must be "first".
But he's a cheating parent— absent most of the time, but occasionally comes out to brush up on a wave of presence. In addition to not contributing half a point to the growth of her daughter, she blamed her wife for being lazy without accompanying, not tutoring, and her daughter's poor performance, and did not put her mind on her daughter's education.
He Jinghua (Hu Ke) and Jiang Bo (Jia Jinghui) are two sons, who are representatives of the second-child family. The eldest daughter likes to dance and refuses the college entrance examination, believing that there is more than one way out of contemporary life. The younger son is naughty and funny, loves sports and does not like to learn, and is over-doted on by his grandparents, and his worry index has risen sharply.
In the face of the "difficult" two children, He Jinghua was physically and mentally exhausted, and his life was chicken and dog jump. The most tragic thing is that she also has a young male husband who is not very old, and she can hardly help.
Shen Xiaoyan (Tao Xinran) and Li Xiang (Zhang Ruihan) divorced because they did not separate their families because they had to raise their children. Their children are well-behaved and well-mannered, and their learning is top-notch, so Shen Xiaoyan's parenting problems are different from the above three groups of families.
Because it is a low-level group, their family's education is almost blank, and it is all up to the children to take the initiative to seek jobs and explore. Shen Xiaoyan's biggest parenting problem is that she has no money - she can't give her children better resources, and there is no way to make him go one step faster than his peers.
In general, the four family life models in the play are completely different, each has its own characteristics, and the parenting experience is also different, and every audience who has had the same experience can always see their own shadow from the four families, so as to have a stronger sense of substitution for the work.
What is more worth emphasizing is that the play truly shows the various pits in the parenting of newborn parents, but does not give the audience a standard parenting answer with a lofty posture, but retains the space for the audience to think and examine.
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An exploration of how to deal with intergenerational relationships
As the saying goes, the family is the field of condensing many major social problems, and parenting is also a comprehensive topic. "Growing Up with You" also takes this as the center of the circle when telling the story of how different families raise children, radiating to intergenerational relations, female values, husband and wife feelings and other aspects.
Let's start with intergenerational relationships.
Compared with how the Jinghua family, Ming ming has repeatedly emphasized that children grow up independently, and the grandmother is still full of living rooms around the grandson to feed and eat, excessive doting and not listening to advice.
When the child was taught a lesson for disrespecting the teacher, the grandparents appeared and vigorously defended, and the strict child-rearing scene directly turned into a self-examination meeting.
Compared with how Jinghua and the eldest daughter Zining get along, it is also full of contradictions.
Zi Ning likes dance, failed the college entrance examination, and she wants to learn dance in her heart, forced to listen to her mother's words to go to the cram school at home to prepare for the re-examination, but refuses to communicate with the elders more.
Although she rarely expressed her dissatisfaction, she always thought that her mother was eccentric and gave more attention and love to her brother, so that when her mother asked her to help tutor her brother, she would gamble and say, "My surname is Li, his surname is Jiang, and I have no obligation." ”
Most parents are almost helpless when it comes to dealing with their relationships with their parents and children. They dare not say serious things to their parents and do not communicate with their children, and the contradictions between generations have accumulated deeper and deeper.
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Distinct and different mothers set up group portraits
Su Xing is a typical working mother, well-known in the construction industry, and has won many international awards.
But even if the professional strength is outstanding and the honor is full, as a woman, especially with a family, she cannot escape the situation of being "judged" at all times.
Meet with the big customer Gu Jiawei, because he wants to send his children to school, he is put on the other side's face, and then he is labeled with a vase label of "you can not blame the beauty of the past".
After Liu Tao hit back, he was questioned because of his identity as a "mother" and his professional quality was not up to standard, after all, in the eyes of most men, a woman's family is a minus point for work.
Although Liu Tao also said that "so your success is achieved by sacrificing women", he scared the customer to a short silence, but in the end, he did suffer from workplace discrimination repeatedly at work.
Not only that, Liu Tao was also ridiculed by the full-time mother who was also a woman, believing that she only cared about her career and ignored her children's education, and wanted to be a hand-throwing treasurer, which was an unqualified mother.
Liu Tao's dilemma is actually the epitome of countless working mothers - trying to find a balance between work and family, but it is almost impossible to achieve.
Lin Yunyun is bright on the outside, but inside is a tired "full-time mother", who is also jokingly called "mother circle celebrity part-time worker" by netizens.
Lin Yunyun can be said to be open all year round, including but not limited to undertaking household affairs, such as purchasing, cleaning, cooking, bringing babies, etc. - the husband has hot soup after work, and the children have sparring after school.
But in addition to physical tiredness, the biggest grievance in Lin Yunyun's life should belong to her husband's incomprehension and disrespect.
Their selfless efforts are downplayed or even ignored, and they are also required to know how to be grateful and content. Obviously, he lived a hard and humble life, but in the eyes of his husband, he was a relaxed and elegant rich life.
Shen Xiaoyan, a self-reliant single mother. The ex-husband is not motivated, not only violently asking for money, but also using the transfer of custody as a lure, making her desperately earn 150,000 yuan and running for her livelihood every day.
As for the growth of the child, shen Xiaoyan is almost alone. She has no culture and no background, but she will enter a good school for her children, bear the brunt of complaining to the principal, and do not care about being targeted.
He Jinghua, the only mother with two children in the play, is good at interpersonal relationships and is the best at mixing hands and fishing.
But in the family, she is an incomprehensible, unloved mother - irritable because she is anxious, because she cares but does not meet her words, and there is a huge gap between her two children, unable to enter each other's hearts.
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The greatest sincerity that a TV series can give to the audience is quality. Not only "good-looking", but also "valuable".
From these two dimensions, "Growing Up with You" is undoubtedly successful, and its overall style is humorous and relaxed with a certain reflection.
As for "value", whether it is environment creation, character shaping, or content text, there is an ambition to think about the topic of "parenting" and multi-dimensional thinking.
Audiences who really want to be parents, or who are already parents, will go to see this show and ask themselves what kind of educational philosophy they uphold – "to win at the starting line" or "a light in the distance"?
We always want to give the best to the child, but what is the best for the child?
Looking forward to your answers.
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