In the first episode of "Please Answer 1988", Cheng Dongri greets Deoksan on the street, and then the father and daughter talk in front of the grocery store.
Deoksan takes the lead in breaking the awkward atmosphere and showing off to Sung Dong-il about the items she got at the Olympics.
Cheng Dong-ri tells Deok-sun that he bought a cake for Deok-san to celebrate her 18th birthday.
This day was the first day of the opening of the Olympic Games in South Korea, September 17, 1988. Coincidentally, this day is Deshan's birthday.
In the first episode, we learn that Deshan and Paula's birthdays are 3 days apart, which breaks desan because every year she has to spend her birthday with Paula three days in advance.
At the 18th birthday party, Deshan frantically complained about his parents' eccentricity.
Three days later, Cheng Dongri took the initiative to apologize to Deshan, and we can see that his mind is very clear.
First of all, he proposed that qualified parents should be like this - teach the boss well, care about the second brother, and teach him to be a man.
Secondly, Cheng Dongri believes that the above standard is a rendering, which does not exist in reality.
He thinks the reason for not being there is "Dad, I wasn't born a dad, dad is also the first time to be a dad."
Finally, Cheng Dongri asked Deshan to know how to understand his parents.
Although this passage brought Deshan to tears, I was like a needle in a haystack.
It made me aware of the hypocrisy of ChengDong-il.
The highlight line here is, "Dad, I was not born a dad, dad is also a first time to be a dad."
In fact, Deshan is the second oldest, and there is an older sister named Paula, and for Deshan, Cheng Dongri is already a father for the second time.
Some people may say that Cheng Dongri is not a linguist and cannot express his meaning correctly.
Then I won't bother with that.
But I think Cheng Dongri is still unforgivable. Because there is a shameless emotional logic in his conversation, "I can't be a good father, and you must know how to understand your parents as a child."
In essence, Cheng Dongri's appeal is to make Deshan more sensible, ignored but not wronged, he is not to solve the long-neglected survival dilemma of Deshan.
The most important thing for Cheng Dong-ri is to unite with Li Yihua and inform Paula and Yuhui to give Deshan a birthday of her own.
Obviously, there is no such intention of starting a family.
This shows that Deshan's anger at the birthday party has not changed into the emotional logic of Dongri and Li Yihua. They still think it makes sense for Deshan Paula to celebrate her birthday together.
From here, we can also infer that Cheng Dongri's invitation to Deshan cake on Deshan's birthday is more like an unexpected reward.
It should be known that Deshan appeared at the Olympic Games as a card-raising lady and ushered in the highlight moment of life.
This made Cheng Dongri very excited, and he found that the ugly duckling + scum of deshan was already a big girl. This is also the psychological motivation that he has always emphasized that "virtue has grown up".
This day is the beginning of Cheng Dong ri's high look at Deshan.
Of course, I don't deny Cheng Dongri's guilt for Deshan, but I don't think that guilt can solve the dilemma of Deshan's neglected existence, and Cheng Dongri did not release his love after apologizing.
In the first episode, we can see that Deshan is always a character who does not hurt her uncle and does not love.
In starting a family, Paula enjoys the most love.
Paula is a school bully, a high-achieving student at Seoul National University, and a key figure in making the family achieve a class leap, so she can be loved by thousands of people.
The whole family eats together, Paula and Deshan have a dispute, and Cheng Dongri ignores it and does not mediate at all, which shows that Cheng Dongri believes that It is reasonable for Paula to beat Deshan.
When Deshan fights with Paula, she asks "Mother" for help instead of shouting cheng dong ri, which can be seen that she understands that Cheng Dong Ri will not turn towards her at all.
Worse, Li Yihua's existence did not solve the situation in which Deshan was ignored.
There are details in the play, Li Yihua found that there were only two eggs in the house, she looked at Deshan, that is, she wanted Deshan to carry forward the fine virtue of humility.
Sunset can get more love because he enjoys extremely high gender benefits.
Yu Hui and Deshan are only 1 year old age difference, which shows that after starting a family, they very much hope to have a boy.
Cheng Dong-il would buy Yu Hui World Cup ice cream, which was 100 yuan (won) more expensive than the usual ice cream, which was enough to see his love for his son.
There are thousands of pampered sisters and younger brothers who enjoy gender benefits, and Virtue has been ignored for a long time and is almost an insoluble survival dilemma.
"Please Answer 1988" has a particularly good plot, the night cheng Dongri apologized to Deshan, the gas leaked in Deshan's house, Cheng Dongri carried the afterglow, Li Yihua carried Paula, but Deshan was left behind by them.
Virtue and goodness can survive without tenacious vitality.
This also shows that Cheng Dongri apologized to Deshan, not so much that he recognized his shortcomings, but rather that he was on a whim. The situation in which Virtue was ignored did not change in the slightest.
I like to re-brush "Please Answer 1988" because it is very elaborate.
The director knows very well that the language of the camera implies the long-term marginalization of Deshan's survival status.
The first episode features them eating breakfast, with five people sitting at a round table, their parents flanked by Sunset and Paula, and Deshan sitting on the side, furthest away from their parents.
The Deshan family lives in a semi-basement, and sunlight is a scarce resource.
A family of five eats together, the sun hits Cheng Dongri, Li Yihua and Paula more, and Deshan is in the shadows.
Later, President Kim brought a chicken and instructed Deok-sun to eat the chicken leg.
Li Yihua was skillful in his movements, giving the chicken legs to Yu Hui and Paula respectively, and Deshan could only eat chicken wings.
Because the best food is always not eaten, the taste of Deshan's diet is very puzzling. For example, Deshan accompanied Aze to Guangzhou, China to compete, and saw a table full of chicken, duck and fish meat, and Deshan was very happy to eat duck head and fish tail.
This scene is so sad.
Deshan's unconscious movements had proved that the part she thought was best eaten was between her sister and brother.
Because Cheng Dongri Li Yihua does not know how to give the best love to Deshan, this also shapes deshan's concept of love, who likes me, I like whoever.
But whenever a boy notices him, Deshan will be overjoyed and look forward to this love.
Deshan's hair has four boys, all three of whom have had an emotional relationship with Deshan, and she eventually marries Aze, who knows how to show affection to her and cares about her.
In fact, Aze has a loving heart, but he does not have the hands-on ability to express love to Virtue. The white moonlight of his youth eventually became the rice sticky boy next to Deshan.
Deshan said that he married Aze, presumably inhaling too much gas that year.
When I see the life of Deshan, I always think of a sentence from Adler -
"Lucky people are cured by childhood all their lives; unfortunate people are cured of childhood all their lives".