Zhang Ailing once said: "Meeting the right person at the right time is a kind of fate; meeting the wrong person at the right time is a kind of misfortune; meeting the right person at the wrong time is a kind of helplessness; meeting the wrong person at the wrong time is a kind of cruelty." ”
The success of all things in the world requires time, place, people, it can be seen that feelings are no exception, when all the conditions are ripe, a relationship will have satisfactory results.
People's life is extremely long, and there may be people they like at any time, even after marriage, it is impossible to completely avoid this situation.
Around us, there are many people who, after marriage, have encountered the opposite sex that makes them move, how to face, how to choose between lovers and lovers, different from person to person, which also tests people's wisdom.
Two people with families, once they have a relationship, the best destination is nothing more than this.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="6" > examine the authenticity of the relationship and make the right decision</h1>
With the passage of time, the original hot love will eventually be replaced by the trivialities of ordinary life, and the original warm feelings will no longer be the original.
From a psychological point of view, people in marriage will feel lost because of this, love is a process of emotional warming, and marriage tests people's patience.
Marriage gives people more responsibilities and obligations, including fulfilling the promise of fidelity, which is only a behavioral constraint, and it is difficult to prevent a person from liking others from the person's thoughts and emotions.
The very complex things of human emotions will be affected by various factors such as environment and emotions, and they will change.
When a person with a family has a love affair with the opposite sex, we must calm down and analyze the authenticity of this relationship.
Many times, the production of a relationship is stimulated by the freshness of the outside world, or it happens that there is a contradiction in the relationship between yourself and your lover, and you may be too stressed, and you have met someone who can talk to.
In short, there are various reasons for the formation of a relationship outside the marriage, and the first thing we have to do is to consider clearly what the essence of the relationship is, what is its meaning, is it true love, or is it the stimulation of freshness?
With these questions in mind, we probably know what to do.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="15" > in life, the wrong time, meeting the right person, can only be a regret</h1>
If it is said that the loss of love is like a person who gets a cold and fever, then the pain brought by the breakdown of marriage is like a broken bone.
In the TV series "The First Half of My Life", Chen Junsheng's story is well-known, he once liked his wife Luo Zijun so much, when he promised the other party that he would take care of her for a lifetime.
Therefore, Luo Zijun, who had just walked out of everyone's school, became a happy Mrs. Chen with a vision of his future life.
Undoubtedly, Chen Junsheng is a model of a good husband, a good father, and a good son-in-law, and he is dedicated in the workplace, loves his wife and son in every way, even treats his mother-in-law very carefully, and even sponsors Luo Zijun's sister many times.
Luo Zijun's marriage is enviable, she lives a carefree life at home, but she has not escaped her husband's betrayal.
Chen Junsheng alone shoulders the source of life for the family, and his pressure can be imagined, Luo Zijun has never entered the workplace and will not understand him empathetically.
Chen Junsheng and colleague Ling Ling have more common language, because they work in an environment, it is easier to communicate, and they are more able to understand each other, the two have been together for a long time, and it is more like natural things to have feelings.
Chen Junsheng wandered and struggled between his lover and his lover, on one side was his wife with knotted hair, and on the other side was his own confidant.
After repeated consideration, Chen Junsheng still signed a divorce agreement with Luo Zijun and married Ling Ling.
From the plot, it can be seen that Chen Junsheng did not feel relaxed because of his wishes, and he felt guilty thinking about the situation of his ex-wife and son.
After marrying Ling Ling, Ling Ling was not as understanding as before, but like an ordinary housewife, she was working with him for trivial matters.
Believing in the loneliness in Chen Junsheng's heart, perhaps he regretted not being at the beginning, but it was already too late.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="28" > what you need to understand is that true love is the perfect ending</h1>
If there is love between two people who have a family, it must be a disaster, no matter how you choose, it will make you miserable.
Since things have happened, we have to face and solve, although betraying the original feelings is a violation of morality and ethics, but we should also listen to our own inner voice.
Remember not to make impulsive decisions, so as not to make a big mistake and not look back, if it is just a whim, then you should stop the cliff and return to the family.
If the original marriage and family really did not make you feel happy, or it was very painful, even if you want to leave, try to deal with the future things as much as possible to minimize the harm to your lover.
Perhaps, in people's traditional consciousness, feelings outside marriage are immoral, and legally speaking, they are also at fault, but human emotions are indeed a difficult thing to grasp, and many times they are really involuntari.
In short, no matter what, following your true will, making a trade-off between two relationships, and loving two people at the same time, is really immoral.