In the adult world, tragedies and joys are not the same, and many things and emotions can only be experienced by themselves.
But at the same time, the perception of some things, people's feelings, is always surprisingly consistent, for example, good looks, pleasant music, and feelings about some people and things.
It is easy for most people to be able to distinguish between good and evil, beauty and ugliness, and whether a person has a pattern or not.
In life, we always hear a word, that is, the pattern, for which, Gou said, pattern, layout, pace, how big the heart is, how big the stage is. It can be seen that the pattern is really important for a person.
Come to think of it, everyone is the same, they will hope that they can become a person with a pattern, have a more wonderful life, and if you want to really have a pattern, it is impossible to achieve it overnight.
Pattern, that requires some experience to complete, you need to slowly understand, slowly grow.
In this process, once a person begins to become patterned, it will also emit some obvious signals.
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The more limited our cognition, the easier it is for us to feel that in this world, many things are either black or white, either right or wrong, and instinctively, we feel that we are right and others are wrong.
We often like to judge everything with our own opinions, and there is no way to accept a different point of view from ourselves.
At that time, we were always very stubborn, and what we were in and what we saw was just a small world.
And one day, as we begin to get in touch with the bigger world, see more and more wonderful things, and hear a lot of different voices, we will start to find that the world is big, and our ideas are really limited.
From that moment on, we will no longer always feel that we are right and others are not right, and instead of always trying to get others to identify with us, we will begin to be able to accept some different people and accept some different voices.
For ourselves, we begin to realize more and more of our own shortcomings, and for others, we also begin to know how to appreciate the advantages of others.
Slowly, we began to jump out of our own thinking, and we also began to jump out of our own eyes, with a broader vision, but also with a broader mind.
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No one's life is really how easy it is, in the past, whether it is some choices or not, whether it is facing a relationship, we often have some losses, and we have made some wrong decisions.
And when in the past years, when we always have too many regrets, inevitable, we will always feel lost, and we will always complain about all kinds of complaints, and we have been living in a very bad mood.
It's not just the past that we can't let go, even in the face of the present, we often feel that fate is unfair and we are unfortunate.
We who are always living in self-hatred and self-pity may indeed be our experience, it is really not too good, at the same time, it is also our pattern is too small, always too entangled, do not know how to let go.
When the pattern is small, things are bigger, and when our pattern begins to get bigger, although the past is still the past, although the present is still the current situation, we will not always be dissatisfied.
Because we know that no matter how much we complain, we can't change anything, and since we can't change it, we might as well accept it.
Accept everything that happens, then be calm, and then continue to live in the present, so that the present day can get better and better.
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Interacting with people, for some time, we will always inevitably suffer losses, in a relationship, unconsciously, our efforts, will not get the returns they deserve.
When our pattern is relatively small, of course, we will only feel very uncomfortable for our own losses, and we will not understand why others should treat us like this, and we will also feel sad because of the bad treatment of others.
We will be single-mindedly longing that all the efforts and returns can be more equal, that is what people should look like.
However, even if we pursue fairness, there can never be absolute fairness, and after realizing this truth, if we no longer always force others, no longer always calculate gains and losses, then our pattern will begin to grow.
The real pattern is that in many people and things, we just do it according to our own wishes, and when we do that, if the ending is good, we are valued, and we get what we want, we cherish that result.
If our efforts do not win what we want, just be used by others, but we are treated badly, it is a pity, but we are not too calculating, just choose to bear, and then continue to move forward.
Anyway, I don't always bother with others, but just live my own life according to my inner thoughts
In this life, everyone will meet a lot of people who are not so good, and will experience a lot of things that are not so good.
However, in the face of everything that the years have brought to themselves, different people have made different choices.
Some people, the more they are bullied by life, the more they begin to give up on themselves, all kinds of complaints, and some people, but just put everything under their feet, so that they can stand higher and see farther.
For the pattern, there is a saying that swallowing grievances and feeding the pattern.
Indeed, we always have to be able to endure something in order to be able to become a different version of ourselves.
It is not to say that we must deliberately let ourselves suffer all kinds of grievances, but we must know how to make our minds broader a little, a little bit to make our lives more open, and a little bit to make ourselves more and more careless.
Just live for yourself, and make your world more and more vast.
Text/Tan Meng
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