For the first two years of their marriage, they lived in a rented house, and although they lived in poverty, they lived a happy and sweet, glue-like newlywed life like most newlyweds. However, this happiness did not last long.
Two years later, their living conditions improved, and he bought a house and a car. On the first day they moved into the new house, his wife proposed to him to sleep in separate beds, and all the silent happiness was broken at that moment.
He felt that she didn't love him anymore and began to look for evidence that she didn't love him, why she didn't love him, until she cried hysterically, "I despise you, that's why I don't love you anymore." Only to force him to explore the truth of the marriage crisis.
The story is in the Italian literary world, recognized too late to win the Nobel Prize in Literature by the work of Alberto Moravia's "Contempt". Moravia is to Italy as Lu Xun is to China. Together with Calvino and Xia Xia, he was collectively known in critics as the "Three Masters of Modern Italian Literature". At the age of 22, he published the well-known European existential novel "The Indifferent Man" and became famous in one fell swoop.
Nobel Prize archives reveal that he has been nominated 15 times. In the mid-20th century, he was in the global literary scene, and successively published "Roman Woman", "The Same Stream", "Despise" and other huge works.
"Contempt" was selected as one of the 100 books of the 20th century, and was remade by the famous French New Wave director Godard into "Contempt", which became the benchmark of film history.
Two years after the marriage of the male protagonist Morteni and the female protagonist Emilia, the male protagonist was depressed in the face of work, money and ideals, and all this dissatisfaction was blamed on his wife's desire to want a house.
Marriage is the spiritual union of two people, and the purpose is to overcome all the difficulties and hardships of joining the WTO together, rather than to be alone. As the author says, love is the union of two bodies in an indescribable, almost spiritual way, a union that Morteni had always enjoyed but did not realize.
All the disadvantages and embarrassments in marriage are caused by insufficient ability
When Morteni was exploring the reasons why his wife despised him, in his own words, his wife Emilia came from a poor background, and in addition to beauty, she, like most women, was worldly, materialistic, thoughtless, and shallow, and even thought that Emilia chose to marry him in order to fulfill her long-cherished wish to own a house.
In order to prove that he was a good husband and buy his wife the house of his dreams, he gave up his favorite theatrical work and devoted himself to filmwriting.
Morteni has always had great ambitions in literature. But the development of theatrical creation was not satisfactory, and there was no money earned. Not only are houses rented, but even the economy can be described as poor, and sometimes even the minimum daily necessities cannot be bought.
But in this rented house, Hismelia cleans every object spotlessly, plants flowers on the desk, cleans up Morteni's materials in an orderly manner, and she does everything carefully and delicately.
Yes, although the house is not itself, but life and life are their own, there is no doubt that this is an attitude of loving life. However, all that Emilia did, in Morteni's view, forced him to buy a house. Forced to do so, he gave up his passion for career and devoted himself to the film screenwriting industry.
Lack of ability is a normal part of life, and whether the final "ability" shapes you or overwhelms you is entirely up to you.
Undoubtedly, Morteni belongs to the latter. Just like us in real life, I want to go far away, the bags I like are expensive, and I want to live the life I like.
When the ability does not meet the ideal requirements, it is necessary to find all reasonable explanations that can excuse oneself. If Morteni is indeed capable of theatrical creation, why should he switch to film screenwriting, at least he should not be too poor to buy daily necessities.
Therefore, he can only find a reason for himself to excuse himself, in order to earn money to buy a house for his wife, he has to give up his favorite career.
All discrimination in marriage stems from self-righteous prejudice
When Molteney bought a house, he did not have the joy of buying a house for his wife as a husband, but he was very uneasy and anxious in his heart. This anxiety stems from the fact that the second installment of housing has not yet been settled.
When he meets Batista, who can give him a chance to make money, Batista asks to be alone with Emilia, and the man thinks it's no big deal, and can even pretend to be indifferent when he sees the other person offending his wife.
Emilia felt that her husband knew that Batista was pursuing her, and instead of resisting, he tried to use this to fulfill Batista's good intentions.
However, Morteni believes that Emilia grew up in poverty, and is almost a commoner woman in terms of cultural upbringing and way of thinking, narrow-minded and almost stupid.
It is simply not understood that he is a civilized man, a civilized man who refuses to use violence. In his eyes, his image is the noblest, most natural, and poetic, and he is neither corrupted and devoured by money nor reduced to a yearning for a life purely out of physical and material necessity.
He sees Emilia as a woman who judges him on a pathetic level and despises him, with a limited level of understanding.
As everyone knows, it is this prejudice of his that has brought their marriage to this point. In fact, from the very beginning, he subconsciously looked down on Emilia, thinking that she was despicable, uneducated, uneducated, not thoughtful, the only thing she had was the skin bag, which implied that she was a vase for people to appreciate, and in his heart he did not regard her as his wife at all.
Therefore, no matter what you do in life, you never consider Emilia's feelings and ignore the value of her existence.
Marriage is the union of two souls and two bodies, not just a union of the flesh.
The so-called "east viewer does not see the western wall, south viewer does not see the north", confined to our own vision, we often can not get a complete, true cognition, but also have different judgments, resulting in prejudice and assumptions, but still do not know it, hurt others, destroy ourselves.
The most hypocritical love in marriage, loving yourself in the name of love
Morteni's perception of Emilia is in fact a mask for his inner inferiority. He wasn't as tall as he described, he was just trying to prove to others that he fit that tall image.
Wang Guozhen said: "If you are afraid, you are afraid, and love is also a kind of harm." "Excessive control in the name of love is essentially a wound in the name of love, which ultimately leaves only a lose-lose situation and endless remorse."
After Molteney bought the house, he was anxious because the second phase of the house payment was not settled. He blames all this on Emilia, who thinks that Emilia's eagerness to house the house in the rented house forced him to buy it, and that he was left with this anxiety.
When they moved into the new house, subconsciously they felt that Emilia would appreciate him, ador him, appreciate him, and look! How capable the husband is, and finally has his own home.
What he did not expect was that on the first day of moving into the new home, his wife proposed to sleep in separate beds. For any man, such an offer is probably very harsh!
In searching for reasons why his wife despised him, he felt that kissing the female typist and leaving Emilia and Batista alone in the same car were not big deals.
Even when he saw his wife being offended by Batista, he did not rush out to protect his wife like a man, simply because he could also despise his wife and find a sense of balance in his heart.
During Morteni's discussion of Odyssey with German director Reingold, he reacts too violently when Reingoard inadvertently points out the crisis he and Emilia face.
Man always lacks something, and strives to prove what he wants, and Morteni is not exempt from it.
He reluctantly bought a house without considering his own ability, ostensibly for Emilia and for the sake of the family, but in fact to prove that he is a good husband who loves his wife and takes care of his family.
He blames Emilia for all the unhappiness after buying a house, in order to cover up his incompetence and to maintain his vanity and lead to excessive self-esteem.
He thinks that Emilia despises him for his actions because of her simple thinking and shallow cognition, no doubt in order to show her nobility in a way that degrades the other party.
Therefore, all this he did, did not love Emilia from the heart, from the beginning to the end of the consideration of only himself, so he only loved himself.
Many people in real life are like Morteni, traveling, eating, shopping, shopping with their other half, and when they do these things, they are not happy from the heart, but to play a good husband, a qualified boyfriend should be.
Together, they will only talk about some human trivia of chai rice oil, salt, sauce and vinegar tea, or some superficial topics that do not involve deep thinking, and they will not share with each other what you are hiding deep inside, or fragile, or sensitive emotional topics.
Because they, like Morteni, are not confident, even inferior, subconsciously self-denying, insecure, and think that their true selves are not worthy of love.
Therefore, he strives to create an atmosphere of self-intoxication, deliberately establishes his own tall image, and even does not hesitate to satisfy his vanity as a man by hurting the other party. Such two people are like partners in life, not soul mates who resonate spiritually.
People, not always indifferent, warmth must be gathered by individuals, love, should not be prejudiced, marriage, need to believe in love, but also need to give love from the heart!