Encounter loss, how to regroup

Friends always like to make fun of me, saying that my life experience is enough to write a novel. Also, looking back at the road of the times, although I have not made great achievements so far, as an ordinary ordinary person, it can be regarded as a twist and turn, and the experience is rich.

Ignore the first thirty years, and talk about the last ten years. Although I don't want to serve the old, I have to say that after women reach their thirties, both physically and energetically are gradually declining, and even the society has begun to have a lot more restrictions on women above this age, becoming less friendly, such as when looking for a job, the age limit is set.

And it was at this time that I experienced one of the most important changes in my life, from food and clothing to nothing, and from emotional double blows. There was more than one moment, I felt that life is really not interesting, or give up!

How did that journey come about? I remember that time, shut myself at home, and did not go out of the house for a month. At that time, the special dislike of oneself, the denial of oneself, has also reached the point where one wants to give up one's life.

I can perceive that this state of myself is not right, but I can't do anything about how to change my emotions and cognition, and I don't know how to change the status quo.

Until one day I saw Wu Zhihong's psychology course and saw a word "accept myself", which became an opportunity for me to start self-change.

I enrolled in psychology courses, learned the relevant knowledge to self-regulate myself, and began to find a lot of positive and positive books to read, from other people's stories to find the energy to heal myself; at the same time, I asked myself to step out of the house, go out to travel, go wherever you want, even if the mood is not high, but also go out for a walk, see different landscapes.

Until the people and hearts slowly settled down, they began to work hard. Spend more than a dozen hours of the day at work, fill all your time, and don't give yourself a chance to think wildly.

So, three years have passed. I don't know from what moment on, life has quietly changed, the road of life has turned unconsciously, from the downhill road to the uphill road.

The trough of life, in the consciousness of self-awareness and the will to change myself, became the past in my ensuing actions and persistence.

Time is really a good medicine that can cure all pain, and most importantly, you have to grit your teeth and don't let yourself fall down when the effect is not fully effective. As long as you can hold on, don't fall, even if it is the pain of tearing your heart and lungs, it will one day become a cloud of smoke.

Reading thousands of books and walking thousands of miles are things that are worth adhering to for a lifetime, because they not only bring joy and pleasure to life, but also at some point, become good medicine and salvation.

A smooth life, after all, is only a minority. More life, there will always be all kinds of obstacles and setbacks, when we fall into the current predicament, we must look farther away, but also firmly believe that "life is not only the immediate and the present, but also poetry and far away."

And I have walked through the trough of my life, crossed the hardships of life, and seen my own "poetry and distance"!