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There are always some people who regard marriage as a perfunctory family and traditional concept of chips, thinking that who they marry in this life may regret it in the end, so they may as well choose a similar person, and also eliminate the pros and cons of those who have been thinking hard.
However, in my opinion, a truly valuable and meaningful marriage must be a romance of two people who have a desire for happiness and a strong union, rather than two people without an emotional foundation who gradually consume each other's enthusiasm and tenderness in front of chai rice oil and salt.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" Data-track="5" > the highest level of emotion, even quarrels with tacit understanding</h1>
Seeing a topic about the cold war between husband and wife is obviously a very serious thing, but the ending makes people can't help but laugh, and I have never seen such a cold war with such a sharp heart.
A few days ago, Ms. Xiao and her husband quarreled, and then there has been a cold war, that day she and her husband went out to buy vegetables, under the premise of no discussion, the dishes bought back were exactly the same, the two looked at the same dishes, instantly laughed, and suddenly reconciled.
This is probably what people say, two people have lived together for a long time, they will gradually assimilate with each other. Of course, this tacit understanding is not something that any couple can have, and if even after a conflict, such a tacit understanding of the same frequency can be achieved, I think the feelings must be particularly deep.
Although it is inevitable that there will be quarrels between husband and wife, it is valuable that some people quarrel to solve problems. In my opinion, after a few days of arguing, they are still in the cold war, but both of them have gone out to buy vegetables together. Presumably, I also have the heart to resolve the contradiction, otherwise with today's convenient living conditions, you can order a takeaway or go to the restaurant, who still cares about cooking!
From the details of their grocery shopping, what I saw was two people who would not perfunctory life even if they quarreled, even if they were in a bad mood.
People who live with their hearts, their luck will not be too bad, be kind to people and things in life, in order to find those hidden light and heat on the dark side of life.
In this matter, buying vegetables is small, and it is the key to deal with the contradictions between husband and wife, which is the key point that they can become husband and wife and maintain the relationship and behavior of husband and wife, they have common living habits and hard work for the family, not wandering ghosts, and will not take money to find fun, alcoholism, and excitement. But for each other's family to pay, angry then go out for a circle, by the way to buy some food, the mood will be better, and then come home, but look at the other party to buy the dish, there are you like, how can you not be happy! No matter how big the contradiction is, it is not a laugh and a vendetta!
In this regard, some of the comments of netizens I like very much: where is the Cold War, it is clearly show love. How many people are like this, even if they have deep feelings, they are eager to cut each other after the contradiction occurs.
Even can't help but take a bite of "don't cook today, see who is starving", and when you go out to forage, you will see the food that the other party likes to eat, and you can't help but pack a copy by the way.
In fact, these trivial human fireworks are the norm for ordinary couples, but unfortunately, there are always some vicious incidents of fighting and killing in society that make people more afraid of marriage.
Marriage is bitter and sweet, not so bad, those bad cases are just a case, because the rare is more eye-catching, after being exaggerated, everyone is afraid, in fact, most of the marriages around us are very normal, very ordinary happiness.
So, if one is yearning for marriage, I don't think you have to be intimidated by those extreme individual cases, after all, most people can find the right partner. Marriage is our right, without being crushed by the sharp sand and gravel in the torrent of society.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="18" > the highest sense of ritual and is to live with the heart</h1>
I remember reading a sentence before: I don't envy those little couples who kiss passionately on the street, but I envy those old husbands and wives who walk side by side under the sunset.
Always believe that after a long time, from the green silk to the twilight years, the couple must have experienced all kinds of ups and downs of life together, maybe there are not too many flowers and surprises of romance, but they must have lived with great enthusiasm.
Although I don't know how old they are, this feeling is like an old husband and wife. In the bits and pieces of life, gradually you become me, I become you, from personality habits to appearance, gradually moving closer to each other.
Even the way of quarreling is also the friction of the right temperature for a long time, and the unique thing is that the quarrel is very serious, but never want to divide. To say that the Cold War is to be cold is to be cold, and to say that there is peace is to be reconciled.
Maybe a relationship that is lucky enough to reach this stage may lose its freshness, but it will reap stability. From body to mind, they have a clear view, they can almost communicate by brain waves, even if the Cold War, the rhythm of life that has long been synchronized will not be chaotic.
As mentioned earlier, not all couples can reach this level, which is why many couples are always noisy when they are young, but the older they are, the less they think about each other.
I used to think that it must have been a few decades ago, and when I was old, I would still have someone around me when I was dying.
In fact, it is not, but the husband and wife who have gone through a long time have lived each other in their own bones, as if that is your own shadow, people to the twilight years, in addition to their own is not the pillow person? No amount of ritual has come true to living with that person's heart!
It is said that "ten years of repair to cross the same boat, a hundred years to repair to sleep together", it is difficult for two people to meet, it is difficult to be together, and it is even more difficult to live a lifetime.
When you encounter quarrels and buy vegetables, you must call the people who eat when you are angry, and you must cherish it.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="29" > cold violence will not hurt yourself, but it will hurt others</h1>
Of course, there are many ways to solve the conflict between husband and wife, and after all, there are also a minority who buy the same kind of cuisine, and they don't mind following suit. If you can say it to solve it, don't use the Cold War to solve it, after all, this kind of ineffective communication hurts feelings the most, and it is not tacit understanding, but hurt.
The two people of the Cold War may not feel anything, but it is not good to hurt the innocent, see a netizen's small story, feel the same:
When I was a child, my parents quarreled and the two people slammed the door and said that they were going to divorce, and I cried at home in the dark thinking that I would not have a home.
An hour later, the two of them came back from the supermarket hand in hand, carrying a bag of delicious food, and I was the only one serious. When I was angry, I was going to live at my grandmother's house, fantasizing that I was angry and wanted my parents to coax me to take me home!
Who knew they probably forgot that there was another child, and when Grandpa sent me home, the two of them were holding watermelons in the bed to watch "I Love My Home".
At that moment, I really felt that I didn't love this home so much, I cried out loud, but they laughed even louder...
In fact, I have had such an experience, when I was a child, my parents quarreled with each other or slammed the door, the Cold War was commonplace, and I often felt that I was going to be an orphan. For the two people of the Cold War, there is no way to understand the trepidation and helplessness of others in their Cold War atmosphere.
It is said that in a relationship, women like to argue, men like to be cold, especially when encountering a relatively large contradiction, the colder the man, the more noisy the woman, in fact, the man does not want to be cold, but he does not know how to say.
Usually, men's three Cold War mentalities are: first, to avoid communication; second, to gamble and want you to be soft first; third, there is no ability to describe love, and you can only do what you can do first.
The couple who bought the same dish obviously belonged to the latter two, so they could go home and look at each other and smile and be as good as ever.
Of all the Cold Wars, the most damaging thing is to evade communication, which is already cold violence, essentially attrition. Quarrels will not make feelings quarrelsome, at least feedback, there is emotional collision. But the more cold violence, the more you may really make yourself and your partner more and more distant.
Don't use cold violence against your loved ones, no matter what, communication is a way to express love and dissatisfaction, communication can solve the problem, in fact, is not a problem; if it can't be solved, then why consume each other, may wish to let go early, give everyone freedom.
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Yu Sheng Weixia: The style is changeable, the preference is single, and I know that you will come, so I am waiting