A good marriage makes people more and more like children, but a bad marriage will not only force people into neuropathy, but also make people into incomprehensible madmen.
Is the husband and wife will quarrel, even if very loving to the white head and old age, this life will also experience many crises, so the key to survive what? It is hope, but also the obsession of hand in hand, which has never been shaken, and then after arguing again and again, I can laugh and say "I am still willing" again and again.
See no hope in life, no hope in your partner, which is more disheartening than not loving.
In the case of a dead heart, the two people are unwilling to make any more efforts and changes, and then barely maintain the formal marriage. Yes, it doesn't have to be divorce to mean that the marriage has come to an end.
As I heard from a married woman:
"I don't want to care about him anymore, I don't want him to take care of me anymore, as long as I can pay home on time, I can be a person without him." 」
Happy marriages are the same, unhappy marriages have their own misfortunes, but all this is not determined by the marriage itself, but only the result of two people's operation, and everything has traces. So when the marriage comes to an end, what are the signs that will appear?
When there are four signs of marriage, it is also considered to have come to an end!
1, there is no more communication.
Mourning is greater than heart death, silence, is a person's greatest dead heart, no words, unwilling to say, too lazy to say, even quarrels are too lazy to quarrel, such a marriage has only a form left.
It is also because I really don't want to change anything anymore, and I deeply realize that no amount of effort is useless.
The heart has blossomed with the flower called "It Doesn't Matter", and since this is the case, what is there to worry about, to lose the ability to appreciate all good things in the numbness.
This state is not necessarily that you have hurt me in principle, or it may be that when I have expectations, you let me down again and again until I dare not have any hope for you.
Communication is always the best way to maintain feelings, so that two people can better understand each other's ideas, as well as in the exchange to know whether they have not done enough, and then make corresponding changes, through time and time again run-in and communication, so that the feelings are getting better and better, in turn, doomed to gradually drift apart.
2. No longer concerned with the heart.
No longer afraid of what you will lose, anyway, you will not get anything, and you are not afraid of what you will do to hurt me, anyway, a heart has long been hurt by you.
I don't want to ask about anything about you, whether it's your phone, if I don't ask you whereabouts, if I don't check your wallet.
When I have any sadness, I am used to suffering in silence by myself, and I have always been alone anyway. I don't want to pay attention to everything about you anymore, as if I don't need to be noticed by you, cared for by you.
In such a marriage model, in fact, both people will become more and more selfish.
Gradually shift the focus of life to yourself, as long as you take care of yourself.
3, no longer need.
Read a sentence that goes something like this:
"We think of poverty as hunger, lack of clothing and lack of housing. Yet the greatest poverty is not needed, unloved and uncared for. ”
The sadness of this kind of poverty is that I can't find my own value, and when I feel that I can't use you, you are a superfluous existence in me.
When the child is sick, I can take it to the hospital alone, and I can walk five kilometers without a car, in fact, these are not the saddest, the real sadness is that when I need it, the first thing that comes to mind is not you, as if I am used to not counting on you, and never hope for you in any matter.
Even if there are some things you can give me, I would rather fight for them through my own efforts.
When the marriage comes to an end, the most obvious sign is that the husband and wife no longer need each other, and they do not want to waste their time on each other, and each person is busy with their own affairs.
Obviously, it is the life of two people, but it is even more lonely than when one person is.
4, there is no longer tolerance.
In fact, no matter how loving the couple, there is no absolute understanding, the so-called tolerance is more of a beautification of tolerance, behind which is the embodiment of feelings, more still want to live the day, do not want to have so many senseless tosses.
I thought I let you get it, even if I have a stomach full of complaints, I will keep it for myself to digest slowly.
Then when the marriage comes to an end, there will naturally be a broken jar between husband and wife, thinking that it is already like this anyway, even if it is worse, it will not affect anything, and there is no overall situation of family harmony in the heart
Then, in the process of getting along, it is easy to have the tip of the needle to Mai Mang, and if you don't agree with each other, you will argue, and who will let whom.
One side said a harsh word, and the other side was about to return it, and began a process of mutual attack, without a little tolerance.
There is no tolerance between husband and wife, and what follows is a state of incompatibility and tension, killing and destroying each other together.
These are the four points that summarize, the signs that marriage is coming to an end.
Even if the marriage is unfortunate, in fact, we can't say how the marriage is, it is just an objective and fair existence, and it is the husband and wife who affect it well or badly, and we can't let the marriage carry the pot.
People have their own incomprehensible paranoia in their hearts, and few can start from themselves and find their own problems.
Always waiting for the other party to change first, marriage is the two of you, not only belong to each other, if the marriage is running well, you are also the beneficiary, so for your own happiness, you should also have to change your own consciousness first.
There will be no problems in someone's marriage, and until the last step, I advise you not to give up easily.
Think about how difficult it is for two people to go all the way, have experienced so much together, endured so much together, and it is a pity to give up casually? If the fundamental problem is not solved, can such a rigidity change the status quo? Can another person live well again?
Even if you quarrel, don't be afraid, because quarrel is also a crazy way of communicating, proving that two people still think well, afraid that you don't want to work harder.
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