Everyone knows that pregnancy is a very hard thing to do, but from pregnancy to actual childbirth, is it only one year that you go through? There are some secrets, let me tell you.
Recently, a Korean drama "Postpartum Nursing Home" was a hit, and many people also learned in detail about the things that a woman needs to go through after becoming a mother and a series of psychological changes. Many women who have become mothers have lamented that it is so real. The certification from the mother who has been born has made many young girls look timid, and it turns out that mothers still have to go through so many things?
Recently, China has paid more and more attention to sex education, and many people know that the consequences of impulsive behavior - pregnancy. It's just that every time the popular science knowledge ends here. Without further education, many people do not understand the various costs of raising a child, and impulsively become mothers.
Some time ago, the zhihu hot post foreshadowed such an outcome. There is a mother who, 20 days after giving birth, suddenly finds that she still does not love her daughter, because her daughter has made her lose so many things, even as a mother, she really can't love.
I believe that many people will choose to scold at the beginning, because the mother must love her child and must be selfless, but this mother can say that she does not love the child, and is obviously an unqualified mother.
But let's be honest, who can be indifferent to so many things they have lost? Without personal experience, no one can know what it takes to become a mother.
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First, physical pain
When pregnant
Sometimes we see pregnant women can still go out to work alone, and even do exercise, just think that when pregnant is at most physically heavier, others have not changed, in fact, there are many pregnant women are not as lucky as everyone sees, some of them will have morning sickness, but because they want to provide nutrition for their children, and have to force themselves to eat, pregnancy may also grow hemorrhoids, puffiness, all kinds of physical problems to torture you day after day, and even if there are no symptoms, 10 months with a big belly, not only inconvenient to walk, but also back pain... Even if it's just during pregnancy, it's scary.
During childbirth
The most common thing you hear is how painful it is during childbirth, which is a pain that reaches the highest level of pain. The first thing that comes is contraction pain, which is a pain that is 100 times more painful than dysmenorrhea, and it is a short time that makes people live like a year, and if there is no painless injection, I really dare not imagine how to survive. It is really another kind of pain when it comes to childbirth, it requires surgery at the vaginal opening, and people who have seen the birth process believe that they can feel that pain.
After childbirth:
Postpartum pain is often not known, not only because attention is paid to the child, but also because some mothers are ashamed to talk about it. Because after childbirth, in addition to the tearing of the vagina during the postpartum recovery period, sometimes some mothers will leave the sequelae of urinary leakage because of childbirth, which is not a glorious thing, so mothers do not know who to talk to.
In addition, when breastfeeding, we can often see that the mother's milk is pink, some people think that it is added to what nutrients, in fact, it is not because the mother sucked blood when sucking breast milk, but this is also a thing that is not suitable for saying, so many mothers have been hiding in their hearts, even if the daughter did not tell.
In addition to the all-round pain from pregnancy to childbirth, what is more painful than that is psychological suffering, mothers began to be bound by morality, and had to be the "superhuman mother".
Second, psychological stress
Whether to have a caesarean section or not
Even if you love you again, once you hear that you are pregnant, you want to have a cesarean section, you will be puzzled, why should you have a caesarean section? This is not good for children. Looking at so many mothers who can safely perform surgeries every year that can be safe by caesarean section, but because the husband is resolutely in childbirth outside, and misses the best time for treatment, we are all heartbroken, if we survive in the end, in addition to rejoicing, I think I will have more unspeakable resentment towards my husband.
Breastfeeding or not
The most intuitive thing after childbirth is breastfeeding. Breast milk seems to be a great moment of maternal love, and if there is a mother who does not want to breastfeed, she does not love her child. But there are indeed some mothers who are not suitable for breastfeeding, just to do a good job of everyone's requirements of the "superman mother" must force themselves to breastfeed, and finally mothers will self-doubt that they do not love their children so much, after all, breastfeeding is such a painful thing.
In addition to praising the mother's selflessness, we also want to contribute to the "mother" group, here we call on our country's sex education can be more perfect, let everyone know the cost of having a child, in addition, we also call on every woman to choose to become a mother, can be clear about the cost of their upcoming costs, and then consider whether they want to have children. We want every mother to be willing to give, not to be "morally" carried away, if society makes mothers must become superhuman, then every one of us who celebrates the greatness of maternal love is an accomplice.