Husband does not make money VS husband is diligent and fast to take care of the family, in the face of temptation, what should I do?

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Both of us are laid-off workers in state-owned enterprises, and for ten years we have opened a small shop to make ends meet, buying a house and a second-hand car in a city outside the fourth tier for a child to study.

After the Epidemic in the Spring Festival of 2019, our business was much worse.

In the second half of 2020, business is not painful, only enough to maintain a basic life.

In 2021, the first half of the year is fine, and since the second half of the year, there has been almost no income, and the expenses rely on the old capital. Now, the old Ben is also getting bottomed out, sad!

My husband and I met each other on a blind date, when we were both workshop workers, both factory children, neither side had higher requirements for each other, and we got married after a year of dating.

When my husband got married, he lived like this now. Bring some food after work, wash your hands and make meals when you go home, be diligent and thrifty, don't spend money indiscriminately, but you are not stingy, and he does not cut the door when he should spend. It was a habit he had developed since he was a child.

When he was three years old, my mother-in-law was not in good health, and she was the kind that had to lie in bed for many years. My father-in-law had to take care of his mother-in-law while he went to work. Therefore, the husband is very sensible, when the father-in-law goes to work, he takes care of the mother-in-law, does some simple things, and cooks at the age of five.

He is now very good to me and responsible for the family, which should stem from the kindness of the father-in-law to the mother-in-law in the original family, and the moisturizer is silent!

Fortunately, after he went to elementary school, his mother-in-law's health slowly recovered.

But the habits he developed since he was a child have not changed, and one of his hobbies is visiting the wet market.

I remember a few years ago in Dujiangyan downtown tourism, passing by a vegetable market, he left us to the vegetable market, at the end told me how much meat there is a pound, how much beef is a pound, than our hometown is expensive or cheaper...

I don't remember it specifically, I only remember this thing, admiring his "I love the kitchen".

I was speechless, not knowing whether to praise him or laugh at his lack of ambition.

We all go to work, have a stable income, our world is so wide, there is no higher vision, in small places, everyone is similar, there is no harm without comparison, our personality is not calculated, if there is no wave of reform, no layoffs, I believe we will always live a plain and happy life.

This good day ended with the layoffs of both of us.

With more than 30,000 yuan of laid-off workers, we went to the neighboring big cities to do small business.

The husband is diligent, but it is limited to diligence.

Business came, asked him to do things, and he had no complaints about being tired and tired. But he doesn't think, doesn't know how to catch customers and develop them.

When he was not working, he was still never lazy when buying vegetables and cooking.

We have a mom-and-pop shop and can't afford to hire people. Old tradition, I guard the shop, he is outside the Lord. The problem is that now doing business depends on publicity, the most basic and most unexpensive is to distribute flyers, but the husband does not go out to publicize, even the WeChat circle of friends do not send, his classmates and friends who have played together since childhood do not know what he is doing?

We are honest and trustworthy, but we are not good at developing customers. Therefore, the business has not been painful, due to the epidemic, but also because of their limited ability, I feel that it will soon close the door.

In life, my husband can actually speak the Tao, be familiar with people, talk about current affairs, talk about history, talk about partial history, talk about geography, talk about military, listen to accents... A man is interested in a topic that he can say one, two or three.

But he can't pull down his face, don't talk about business, where is the business?

If you don't look for something to do, the cost of living will become a problem. I said you go to deliver the courier, I took care of the store alone, maintained, opened for such a long time, it is a pity to close it in a hurry. But he did not agree, nor did he refuse, still buying vegetables and cooking every day, and enjoying it!

I used to see how safe he was cooking, and now I see how upset he is cooking!

When I was upset, I once said fiercely: "Every day I know to buy and buy, to see which day I can't open the pot, what do you buy?" ”

Occasionally the thought of leaving him flashed, thinking, without him, at least it would not be so tight as it is now.

When the mood is slightly better, I often reflect, he does not smoke, only drinks a little wine, does not spend money indiscriminately, has a good temper, when he has money, it is comfortable to live with him, but he does not earn money, what is the use of the province?

Open source and throttling, first of all, open source to save ah! In the 21st century, the concept has changed long ago, and it is to earn money rather than rely on provinces.

Moreover, his grocery shopping, cooking, drying clothes and sweeping the floor, man, is not born to support the family? And we are all running out of water, how can he still be indifferent?

My heart began with an unforeseen encounter.

Before that, despite my complaints, I had never thought of leaving.

Maybe it's predestined! I didn't visit the mall all year round, and that day was extremely boring, so I ran to the glittering mall to go around. According to my income, I can't afford to spend clothes and cosmetics there.

At the mall, I met Jiang Yi. His father went to the location of our factory as the mayor of the town, and he followed the transfer school for a few years. In his third year of high school, he transferred to another school and left, and it turned out that he came here with his father, which was his hometown, and he has been living here ever since.

Bye-bye, he had faded his youthful appearance as a student, dressed as a successful businessman, and slightly resolute.

He recognized me first and then asked me to stop by for dinner. I didn't say yes, pretending to have flashed beforehand.

He asked for my phone.

About two months later, when I was almost oblivious to the incident, he called and said he would invite us to dinner as a couple.

The husband knows him, the factory said that the big is so big, he is a town mayor's son to enroll, do not want people to know are embarrassed.

The meal was over the three of us, and during the meal, he said he wasn't married yet. As I said this, my eyes looked at me. I said you are too demanding, he was busy saying no, but did not meet the heart. He looked at me again and felt a deep look in his eyes.

Forgot to say, we are classmates, and my husband is an alumnus, and my husband is two years older than us.

After that, he came to sit in my shop from time to time, and when he came across a meal, he also sat down to eat unceremoniously. My husband and I often talk about why he is not married in his early thirties, does not ask for answers, just gossip.

From the factory to the city, we don't recognize people except for the business and the neighbors in the store. He deserves to be our first true friend here.

In the first half of this year, he also introduced us to several businesses, which is why the epidemic continued and our business was good in the first half of this year.

The overall economy is sluggish, and there's nothing he can do to help us.

Some time ago, my husband returned to his hometown because he was unwell, and I had to stay at the store to pick up and drop off the children, and I couldn't go back.

One day, he came to the shop, sat from noon to afternoon, and had no intention of leaving. We had a chat and he said he started doing business with his dad's connections and is doing okay now, and I know it's okay.

We chatted like old friends, even though we didn't say a few words when we were classmates.

Suddenly he said: I liked you when I was in high school, and when you got married, I secretly ran to see you. I didn't get married because I always wanted to find someone like you, gentle and kind, do you know that you have a classical beauty...

He said a lot of things at once, and I was completely confused. I don't like to talk, but I love to think, and it is rare to maintain the habit of loving books, and draw nourishment from books to see myself. Although not rich, there is an intellectual beauty.

I summed up his words, that is, he is doing a lot of business now, he still likes me, more than before, if I am not happy, he can give me a happy life, certainly not as tight as now.

My marriage of more than ten years has long since ended in peace.

Husbands and wives must be grateful for long-term. I just read my husband's goodness, thanked him for his daily efforts, and when there was no temptation, I never moved my mind to leave him.

But now, the days are too tight, in addition to eating, a little more expensive fruit do not dare to meow a glance, expensive clothes do not dare to try, mobile phones are used for three years, stuck to death, do not dare to change, I am only in my early thirties, live like sixty or seventy years old, but also a glance to the head.

I know that I don't have any skills, and my age is there, and I can find a job, except for the shopping guide tally clerk and the like, which is the waiter.

Now, such a large pie is placed in front of me, I don't want to eat it, it's fake.

I often get in a dilemma and find excuses for myself.

Husband, in addition to not making money, everything is good. I don't want to be rich and expensive, and now maintaining normal living expenses is a problem, is it wrong for me to think about it? If he could go out now and earn a few thousand dollars a month, and I kept the shop to maintain it, then I would immediately strangle this thought to death in the cradle.

But now, in addition to doing housework and cooking, he is playing with his mobile phone, and he does not bother about how to make money, is this not irresponsible?

But if you really want to leave, and before a knife and two, all kinds of involvement, marriage, especially those with children know, there is no need to say more here.

On the one hand, the husband does not make money, the husband is good; on the other hand, it is a generous day, a new feeling, what should I do?

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