Is it a good thing or a bad thing to be afraid of your wife?
During the Song Dynasty, it was very popular to have strict wives. Chen Ji, a famous scholar of the Northern Song Dynasty, was often known for being afraid of his wife. His wife Liu Shi was known as the Hedong Lion, and the story of the two of them was also made into the movie "Hedong Lion Roar".
Not only Chen Jichang was afraid of his wife, but also a world-class scientist in the Northern Song Dynasty, Shen Kuo, who was also famous for being afraid of his wife.
When Shen Kuo was in Yangzhou, he was appreciated by his superior Zhang Wei and married his second daughter to Shen Kuo. But Shen Kuo did not expect that this official woman was not virtuous and virtuous at all, but a completely fierce woman, and could even be said to be vicious.
She has an arrogant personality, a fiery temper, and often commits domestic violence against Shen Kuo, beating, humiliating, and being rattanized. This is only to a lesser extent.
Once in a quarrel, she directly aimed at Shen Kuo's beard and desperately grasped it, even the blood and flesh grabbed a full handful and threw it to the ground, still not relieved of hatred, and continued to punch and kick. When the children saw this, they wept bitterly and pleaded, and even knelt down to forgive. The children's pleas for forgiveness did not work, and Zhang Shi did not stop until he was tired.
The Zhang clan was not only cruel to Shen Kuo, but also to the children left behind by Shen Kuo's deceased wife. Shen Kuo's eldest son, Shen Boyi, was born to Shen Kuo's ex-wife, and zhang could not tolerate him, so he drove him out of the house. Shen Kuo himself is difficult to protect, where he can still protect the child, he can only secretly receive help.
However, this matter was known to Zhang Shi again, and he rushed to the official palace to complain to the eldest son for "fierce rebellion and obscurity", so that Shen Boyi could only be "resettled in Xiuzhou".
After that, as long as the Zhang clan had a little unhappiness, it was a small quarrel for three days, a big fight in five days, and the clansmen who made Shen Kuo tremble every day, and could only coax and persuade the Zhang clan.
For the next 25 years, Shen Kuo has been living in the violent shadow of Zhang's family, and he can't mention divorce, "because he is afraid of his wife's beating, so he divorces", which is a reason to say that there is no face.
Not dying in silence, erupting in silence. In Zhang's scolding, Shen Kuo wrote "Mengxi Pen Talk", which was hailed as "a milestone in the history of Chinese science".
Later, Zhang Shi died of a violent illness, and after hearing the news, relatives, friends, and neighbors all celebrated with their hands and came to congratulate Shen Kuo and wish him finally free from the sea of suffering.
But Shen Kuo himself was "in a trance", he was almost like losing his soul. Even when he crossed the Yangtze River by boat a few days later, he was so distraught that he threw himself into the river. If he had not been held by the servants in time, Shen Kuo might have become the only scientist in history to die of martyrdom.
But even though he was rescued from the cabin, he did not show nostalgia for life and died soon after surviving.
We do not know whether Shen Kuo was too sad about the death of his wife or died of illness, but whether the domestic abuser is a man or a woman, the use of violence against his family should be condemned and despised.