Author: Li Shaocheng
Old-fashioned? No! Patience to see... Some things may never be told to you.
The problem of marriage and premarital sex has become too serious to be repeated, but most people do not have this awareness, nor do they realize the seriousness and harm of this problem. With more than three decades of psychological work experience, this phenomenon worries me. What is worrying is that the psychological problems of the public will become more and more serious, there will be a shortage of outstanding talents in society, a shortage of mental health talents, and a serious decline in the quality of citizens. Some people do not understand what premarital sex has to do with these problems, simply put, premarital sex is an extension of marital problems, is an extension of family problems, marriage and family status quo is so bad, under the nest, there are eggs!? The overall quality of children born and educated under such a family can be imagined, and women are the main force in educating children, so the overall quality of women basically determines the quality of the country's back population, isn't it worrying!? To this end, this article will first talk about women.
First, premarital sex, girls must not be unaware of the male psychology
These psychology, girls teachers will not talk, parents will not talk, boyfriends will not talk...
In general, the average boy has some slightly dirty psychology:
1. Premarital sex, for boys do not suffer losses, girls are willing, generally boys will be willing (except for high-end boys, afraid of girls dirty).
2. If he treats you like a sex playmate, he will feel that the more debauched the girl, the better, and the more debauched the girl is, the less tied to the boy and the less responsibility needs to be assumed. If the boy wishes to marry the girl, he wants the girl to be as reserved as possible, so as to satisfy the boy's possessiveness and exclusivity. This is the double standard of men - the more debauched the partner, the better, and the more reserved the wife, the better.
3. Any boy has a primitive inferiority complex, and the more low-end boys have inferiority complex, the more serious the inferiority psychology, premarital sex will lead to a seemingly incredible result: after sex, the boy will not only not be grateful and satisfied, but will think "I am such a rotten person she can go to bed at will, and with others must be the same, she must not be a good girl", since then, the girl's status in the heart of such a man has plummeted, and she looks down on such a woman from the bone!
4. Any man can please many women, but from the bones, only respect women who are dignified and dignified! No matter what his external words were.
5. The relationship between men and women is subject to the principle of reciprocity, which is basically the intersection of people of the same level; another principle that may be followed is the principle of complementarity, which will lead to the possibility of people of different cultivations being together. But in general, the principle of reciprocity is greater than the principle of complementarity, that is, knowledge, cognition, ability, conduct, and status are basically equal. This will lead to the fact that it is basically difficult for unequal people to get together, which in turn leads to everyone only contacting people who are similar to themselves, while other people cannot be contacted with Ben, and then leads to a fatal misunderstanding, thinking that men and women all over the world are basically the same as themselves, in fact, the world that does not belong to themselves, many people will not see it in their lifetime, let alone understand it, so that when others tell him that there are other types of people, they think that others are talking nonsense. For example, premarital sex, if this person is in this class of people, when most people have premarital sex, he will think that others will be like this, it is impossible to know that there is another level of people, for chastity is so important, whether male or female.
6. Don't believe that a man asking you to prove your love with chastity is basically a lie, because anyone who truly loves you will not use love to blackmail you. Every time you give your body out, your status is lowered by one notch in that man's mind. Believe it or not. Unless you want to tie a person's heart with your body, but it's often in vain! At this point, men are more practical than women.
Second, the harm of premarital sex to women's physical health
1. Premarital sex is a hotbed of sexually transmitted diseases, especially malignant venereal diseases, for malignant venereal diseases, the risk of women being infected during sexual behavior is eight times that of men. And that doesn't include malicious contagion.
2. Premarital sex is not a burden for men, but for women, the biggest burden is pregnancy, so the probability of being pregnant with a child is very small, and miscarriage is almost an inevitable choice. At present, there are two main methods of abortion, either hormonal induction, or mechanical curettage, I am a doctor, I know what kind of impact this will have on the body, what kind of impact it will have!
The fatal thing is that regular hospitals will retain the details of those who terminate pregnancies, and the medical costs are relatively high, so many men and women who have unexpected pregnancies will choose cheap medical institutions for abortion surgery, and even choose unqualified institutions for surgery, postoperative infection, postoperative rehabilitation are facing great challenges. There is no shortage of lifelong infertility, and their lives and health will be threatened.
Premarital sex is almost self-determined
Due to the limitations of individual cognition, it is impossible to know that in addition to money and power, there are other criteria for dividing human hierarchies, such as spiritual standards, personality standards, and need hierarchy standards. These are the higher standards than money and power. These people do not lack money but do not value money too much, do not lack power but do not value too much power, are a group of people who live with high dignity and pure hearts, and belong to people in the true sense.
When a girl has premature premarital sex, it is basically impossible to meet such a pure person, which is equivalent to drawing a prison, self-confined to a relatively low-level circle, and never having the opportunity to get ahead.
Of course, everyone's cognition of life, the cognition of emotions, the cognition of marriage, the cognition of sex, are different, very different, it is impossible to require every girl to be able to successfully advance, some girls may not have the opportunity to promote personality in a lifetime, what kind of life goals she has, what kind of behavior will there be, premarital sex is her choice, and she will bear the consequences of this choice.
To be honest, in the eyes of some high-level people, the standards for beauty are different, and the following words may hurt the hearts of some people, but this is the truth, people with high personality levels look at the beautiful common words of people with low personality levels are charming, kitsch, and dust. Don't get angry, these words really no one tells you, and never will tell you...
Girls are born to be superior!
Don't spoil yourself in vain! Be sure to keep yourself as close as possible.
Quan Dang is to give yourself a chance to advance.
Men don't mind, really, a good woman, determines the blessing of your life and the blessing of eight generations of children. A scumbag woman, the present generation makes you worse off than dead, unless the scum is together or has collapsed.
Important Note: This text doesn't want to blame anyone! Time relationship, follow-up will be the text "What does a senior girl look like?" "What kind of boys are advanced?" This is the preliminary topic, the topic may change at that time, please don't mind.