"Life is constantly injured and restored, and it is better to forget about it than to recover."
In 1984, the writer Li Bihua wrote this sentence in the novel "Rouge Buckle", which led to a woman's life of obsession with love.
In Hong Kong in the 1930s, the head card of the Red House was like a flower and a brother of the boy at first sight.
In the face of love, such as flowers and lonely courage, in order to resist the obstacles of the world, about twelve martyrdom to death.
But unexpectedly, she created people, so that a magnificent and beautiful love became a one-man show in which she died alone.
50 years later, a wisp of a ghost like a flower returned to the human world, struggling to find it.
But the twelve teenagers disappointed her again, and the long years of exhaustion finally dissipated with her sigh into clouds.
Dong Qing once said: "Love should not be like a flame, but like flowing water, in order to be long-lasting." ”
Love like a flower, too hard, burns others like fire, and burns itself.
Love is beautiful, but if you use too much force, it will become too hot and heavy.
And people will also be lost in this kind of love, carrying emotional shackles, blindly completing the ritual of "love".
The hard love is too passionate and makes people lose
Ruhua was sold to the Qinglou since childhood, and after the strict training of "guessing, drinking, singing, and beautiful", she became the top card of the Red Building in her early twenties.
She was extremely popular, and she was very "flamboyant" with her hands and feet.
If you don't like it, even if you scatter all the money, it is difficult to become a guest of honor.
However, after she met the twelve young Chen Zhenbang, her "reservedness" disappeared.
Chen Zhenbang, the shaodong family of the north-south seafood Chinese medicine shop, is famous and has a family fortune.
One of them is a veteran of the wind and moon field, and the other is a famous flowerer, who first saw them in life, and when they looked at each other, they were wrapped up in the huge waves set off by the sea of hearts.
Although it is said that it is a love that does not know what to do, it is deep and deep, but the love that is as warm as fire ignites layers of smoke in life, making people lose themselves in it.
Twelve young people showed their love in a high profile, and first sent a couplet card with deep affection and honey.
Then all kinds of gifts came: embroidered shoes, placket beads, rouge boxes, jewelry and jade...
The family ran out of money, and then lent money to Ruhua to buy a valuable copper bed.
He lingered day and night in the Red Chamber, his relationship with his parents fell to a freezing point, and he left his cousin who was married to his fingers behind.
The enthusiasm of the twelve young people was deeply touched by Ruhua, and she refused all the benefactors, and she was eager to marry into the Chen Mansion as a young grandmother.
One day, dressed plainly, without fat powder, she went to the Chen mansion alone, and begged the Parents of the Chen family to allow them to complete the marriage.
Before she could finish speaking, Mother Chen picked up the broomstick, cursed the "Evil Flower Entry", and beat her out.
Shakespeare said:
"A love that is not too passionate will last forever, too fast and too slow, and the result will not be complete."
Fiery love makes people lose their minds, can't see the actual situation, and recklessly insist on going their own way.
In the end, in the illusion of "sentient drinking water", he was tormented.
In order to run away from home and leave the protection of his father's shadow, the twelve young people had no money and no power, and could only live in the Red Chamber.
In order to provide for the expenses of the twelve less, such as spending money to return to the old business, and the twelve young people can only swallow bitter water.
Later, the twelve youngsters went to the Taiping Theater to learn art from a teacher.
However, a well-bred and well-behaved clumsy disciple can eat the suffering of the drama garden.
The hard work and humiliation made the twelve young men's temperament change greatly, and he used the topic to argue and scold, but later, he fell into self-blame and remorse.
Slowly, the two described the withered mallet, three meals did not continue, and after countless times of hugging and crying, they finally became a resentful couple.
Twelve youngsters began to weigh whether it was worth it to be obsessed with a woman to this point. But Ruhua was still obsessed, clinging to this hot love, completely ignorant of the twelve young people's different hearts.
As Li Bihua said: "The stronger the love, the more fierce the discord, because love is not an easy task." ”
Love too hard, love becomes too enthusiastic, making people lose their reason and original intention.
Love is also in eager anticipation, changing its appearance, becoming a control and shackles, and finally it is rare to complete.
Hard love is too heavy and is a lifelong shackle
In the first month of the New Year, when the drama gong and drum were at its most lively, the twelve teenagers proposed to Ruhua to break up.
On this day, the mother of the twelve young people came to the Taiping Theater to watch the play, crying and saying, "It is a shame that there are few people in the hall!" ”
Many relatives and friends also advised him: "You are only 24 years old, and when you go back, you are still a big family serving you." ”
In the persuasion of "not blaming the past, reborn", the twelve young people are undecided.
It wasn't until he saw his haggard face that he made up his mind to leave Ruhua.
Grief-stricken like a flower, all thoughts are gray, the days are difficult to continue after all, rather than living, it is better to die together.
"Zhenbang, you don't want me?" A question, the twelve less speechless.
She told the past and counted the romantic years, and finally persuaded the twelve teenagers to be martyred with her.
Three days later, on March 8, 1932, the two devoured opium and met to see each other again.
A dramatic scene appears, such as the life of the flower being frozen, and the twelve young people timidly choose to steal life.
He staggered out the door and survived with the help of his family.
Li Bihua wrote in the book: "The greatest inferiority of people is that they cannot break the world's feelings, cannot let go of their hearts, and torture themselves until the last second of their lives." ”
Their love, with life and death as a footnote, is no longer love, but a heavy heart.
This shackle of love makes them restless before and after death.
Like a flower wandering on Huangquan Road, the first wait is 50 years.
But her lover did not appear, and 50 years later, she reappeared in the world like a ghost.
After eight days of searching, I finally found the twelve young people who were dying of old age.
Half a century of infatuation, only in exchange for a sentence of "please forgive."
Ruhua returned the promise letter rouge buckle to him and turned to dissipate.
A good play of Liang Zhuhua Butterfly was not sung after all.
In fact, heavy love is not only bound by flowers, but also the rest of the twelve lives, but also absurd.
At that time, when he regained a life, he lost his soul and despaired, and the guilt in his heart made him unable to face life.
After the outbreak of war, his family fell into the middle of the road, he abandoned his wife and children, his business withered, and he wandered around all his life.
Later, he went to a studio in Clearwater Bay and worked as an extra for more than twenty years.
In his later years, his children and grandchildren did not associate with him because of resentment, and the twelve young men became rough and stubborn old men in loneliness.
When Ruhua saw the twelve teenagers spitting everywhere and grabbing things with a group of people in the garbage heap, she finally died.
"It's like a fish that dies in the water."
Zhang Guorong said after acting in the movie "Rouge Buckle":
"A person who has never really been in love, who is still a child emotionally, will not understand the complex and contradictory feelings. Love is never as simple as A+B=C. ”
Love is complex, and once "you must not" becomes an obsession, it is no longer simply a comfort between two hearts.
Do your best to bet your life and life's happiness on love, and love becomes a big gamble.
Whether you win or lose, this heavy love will be a lifelong bondage, and no one can retreat completely.
The best love, no need to push too hard
When The flower first arrived in the human world, she went to the newspaper to publish a notice of searching for someone.
By this opportunity, she met the couple of editor Yuan Yongding and reporter Achu.
Yuan Yongding's mind is delicate, calm in the face of things, Achu's thinking is agile, and the wind and fire are fierce.
Although the two often quarreled, and even had a cold war, they eventually cultivated love into a positive result, and lived in both places.
Compared with Ruhua and Twelve, they get along casually, and love is also very plain, without the waves of wind and waves.
Whether it is Yuan Yongding or Achu, they have never regarded love as the whole of life.
They have their own things to love, Yuan Yongding likes to explore the antique city, and Achu is a complete workaholic.
The pace of life is different, but it does not affect their perception of love.
They believe that love should make people comfortable, live for themselves, and give others a little freedom.
Once, in order to track down the inside story of the unsuccessful Hong Kong sister, Achu chased after Jianshan Tsui and stayed for a few days.
In the meantime, he occasionally received a phone call from Yuan Yongding, and he could only say a sentence or two in a hurry.
At first, Yuan Yongding felt that Achu did not put himself in his heart and was sullen and unhappy.
However, when he explored the secrets of the Twelve Youngsters, he was immersed in the old paper pile and could not extricate himself.
He felt that it was also very good, he did not have to bother to look at each other, each doing his own thing, each with his own life.
Someone said, "If you want to hold a handful of sand tightly, there will always be excess flowing out of your fingers, but if you only take eight points, you will hold it all in your hand." ”
Love, too, is like sand in your hand, don't push too hard to hold it.
Get along easily, and the enthusiasm of life will naturally continue to emerge.
Just like Yuan Yongding, he never asked Achu to do anything for him, but Achu was always willing to be by his side.
On this day, Yuan Yongding found the March 1932 newspaper in an old newsstand.
The vigorous love of the flowers is just a string of small characters on the lace tabloids: "Famous prostitutes are obsessed, their souls are broken and red; Kuo Shao dreams awake, and the medicine is scattered and secretly born."
The disappointment was palpable, and Achu, who was a fellow traveler, encouraged him to buy the newspaper, which was also an explanation to Ruhua.
Later, with the help of Achu, he found the son of the twelve youngsters and learned of his current situation.
After Ruhua left, Yuan Yongding asked Achu, "Will you die for me?" ”
Achu said, "No. What about you? ”
Yongding smiled and said, "Neither." ”
Lu Xun once said: "The first meaning of life is life, people must live, love is attached to beauty." ”
It is true that love is too strong to put it above life, and love loses its foundation of existence.
Only with just the right amount of liking and investing can we find a balance between love and life, that is, not to lose ourselves and to take care of others.
The best love never needs to be pushed too hard.
Someone asked: Is the valley without response worth a jump?
One of the high praises replied: "Silence is also a response, without the voice you want, then change the valley." ”
In the love of Ru hua and twelve young people, after walking through the confusion of hot love, only Ru Hua, an infatuated species, loves hard.
In the end, her heavy love made the cowardly Twelve Lesser unable to respond.
She leapt for love, and it was a feat to die, but in exchange for the rest of her life, she could only be crushed to pieces and the hatred of her lover.
Writer Su Qian said: "Really good love is effortless. There is no need to deliberately please, two people are naturally comfortable. ”
It is not difficult to fall in love with someone, but it is difficult to grasp the power of love.
Just like Yongding and Achu, they live casually in the plain, and feel the true love in the light wind of the clouds.
The story of "Rouge Buckle" is over, but in life, the drama of love and hate entanglement will never end.
May you have less obsession and more calmness in love; less bondage and more freedom.
Encourage with the King.
Author | Jin Shanyue should have nothing to dwell in, but to be born with his heart.
Image | Stills from "Rouge Buckle"