In early January 2016, after retiring, Kou Changhe and Cong Hua went to Europe, visiting the United Kingdom, France, Italy and Germany. When he came back home, he was thinking about the renewal of the bridge of his heart.
One day, he asked Cong Hua, "I don't know the 'edge of the copper circle', what is going on now?" ”
The so-called "edge of the copper circle" is like this:
In that year, the WestJet Farm Harvest Production Team had a farmer from Guangzhou Forty-Six Middle School named Tong Chu. He had a writing and propaganda relationship with Qiao Jian, and through Qiao Jian, he met Kou Changhe, and later became a good friend. Tong Chu was the squad leader, and once went to Haikou City to pick up a group of new Shantou young women. It was raining halfway, and when Tong Chu spread out his military canvas awning in the freight car, the copper ring on the side of the canopy touched a young woman who was squatting, and she angrily scolded Tong Chu loudly. Tong Chu thought, I am shielding the rain for everyone, and I did not mean it. I just wanted to fight back a few words, but when I saw that although the woman had a bad temper, she had a good face, so she forced herself not to have a seizure, and lowered her voice to explain. After returning to the harvest team, the woman happened to be assigned to the class of the beginning of her childhood. Every day they worked together, and Tong Chu taught her to work by hand, and the two got better, and the woman later became his girlfriend.
People spread that after Kou Changhe learned of this story, he immediately called it "the fate of the copper (child) circle", and honored them as "copper brother" and "circle sister-in-law". "The copper one, the strong and strong also; the circle one, the marriage is perfect also."
Once, the Kouchang River returned to Guangzhou to visit relatives through Haikou, carrying cash on his body, and because he could not buy a ticket for the day, he had to spend the night in Haikou. But there are many people coming and going, and there are few hotels, and housing is tight. Fortunately, when he met Tong Chu, he had a letter of care written by his father and found the person in charge of the hotel industry to help him, so that Kou Changhe spent a night with cheap rent, clean room and comfortable bed. Later, Kou Changhe often mentioned: "If it weren't for Tong Chu looking for acquaintances, I would really have to sleep on the street that night and become a tramp." And with money, it's not safe. ”
When Zhiqing returned to the city from Hainan Island, Tong Chu was in a dilemma. Guangzhou and Shantou, he had to choose one or the other. He was born and raised in Guangzhou, with many relatives and friends, wide contacts, and geographical advantages. However, the future father-in-law was a prominent figure in Shantou, with a considerable position, and provided favorable conditions for his future struggles. After thinking about it again, Tong Chu believed that "the eldest husband should give priority to his career first", and his decision was also supported by Kou Changhe, wishing him success and early success. And a poem:
Swinging Gedong to reflect the Chaoxia, the entrepreneurial frontier Shang Gu family;
He gathered again in the year to remember Junzhi, and the copper circle was also dangling.
Kou Changhe recalled this, his face worried: "I heard that he has not mixed well in recent years, it is time to visit him." Cong Hua has always been the most considerate and understanding husband, and immediately agreed after listening to it. So Kou Changhe got Tong Chu's telephone contact number through Qiao Jian. In late January 2016, they flew back to Guangzhou from the United States and boarded a train to Shantou. Kou Changhe sat in the carriage, browsing the scenery outside the window, and unconsciously, he had reached his destination. "Comfortable, clean and time-saving. I remember when Qiao Jian was sending off in San Francisco, he said that he used to take a five-and-a-half-hour long-distance bus to Shantou. It's only been three hours now, and I'm not tired at all. ”
"Copper Brother" and "Circle Sister-in-law" entertain old friends who have not been seen for many years with local specialties: the prestigious "Teochew Roast Goose Goose", the chewy beef tendon balls, beef balls, pork balls, and cuttlefish balls. After the meal, they drink kung fu tea and talk to each other on their knees. Tong Chu recounted his experience after "marrying" here.
With the help of his father-in-law, he entered the sugar, tobacco and alcohol monopoly department that everyone envied, rose to an official and a half-position, and was known as a promising young talent in the industry, with high salaries, bonuses, good benefits, and good treatment. He and his wife saved a considerable amount of money and bought a big house in the middle of the city, on a quiet inner street. Later, the sugar, tobacco and liquor company he belonged to, borrowed money to buy a whole lot of land to build a house and open a shop. Tong Chu and several partners borrowed hundreds of thousands of yuan, bought a piece of land from it, and opened a beef hot pot restaurant. Business is good, profitability can be expected. Who knew that the person who came forward to take out the loan suddenly absconded with the money and did not know where to go. The sugar, tobacco and liquor company had to lose money for the land it bought, and Tong Chu and several partners each lost 150,000 yuan. Although he tried to pay off the money he owed, he was injured all over the body and suffered physical and mental injuries. Beef shops also ran out of money and were forced to close. "Moreover, in recent years, the couple's body has deteriorated, 'the copper has rust spots and is not bright, and the circle is crooked and no longer round'." Tong Chu said self-deprecatingly. He was very grateful to the Ginseng brought by Kou Changhe, which was of great benefit to the treatment of his cardiovascular and cerebrovascular diseases, and was also grateful for the nourishing herbs that Cong Hua gave to his wife.
Kou Changhe comforted him: "Life is not satisfactory, it is often eight or nine, we must open our eyes." Your house, two people live, area 220 square meters, three bedrooms, one hall and two bathroom toilets. Warm in winter and cool in summer, well-ventilated and in good location. In the later years, it is rare to have such a quiet and quiet environment. Tong Chu sighed, "It can also be regarded as the only fruit left." Otherwise, it is even more unimaginable to have no shelter. At this time, the "circle sister-in-law" smiled and interjected: "Although the unexpected happened, it also brought benefits." She told her feelings: because of her family's good fortune, from childhood to adulthood, she was a cruel princess. Commanding, arbitrary. On Hainan Island, he was blown by an awning and immediately scolded Tong Chu; after becoming a girlfriend, he often got angry because of small things and used Tong Chu as a pump; after returning to Shantou to get married, because his husband's career relied on his father to lead the way and supported him, he was even more domineering, often looked bad at her husband, and had to concede defeat to the other party every time she quarreled. But after the death of his father, coupled with the failure of her husband's business, the prosperity was difficult to continue. She thought hard for days. Looking back over the years, especially after getting married and having children, everything she did was for her, for the whole family. What he has done in the past is indeed sorry for her husband. Since then, she has gradually changed her cruel temper, and the husband and wife get along harmoniously and have a harmonious relationship.
Tong Chu also said with deep feeling: "My mind is flexible, but I am too anxious to do things." Ill-conceived, repeatedly touching nails. Thanks to her timely reminders, reasonable persuasion, and much smoother handling. When I was in poor health, she ignored her illness and went around looking for acquaintances, doctors, and good prescriptions for me. As he spoke, he threw a grateful look at his wife.
Before bidding farewell, the couple asked Kou Changhe and Cong Hua to come to Shantou more. "The two of us usually take a walk, visit the park, eat oyster porridge together, and play with our grandchildren together, and I would like you to share our happiness."
Back in Guangzhou, I met with Dai Duli, Xu Zhen, Cheng Bantian and others and had dinner. After a free conversation, Kou Changhe took the initiative to mention the heart bridge theory: "After I retired, I had more time, and I often pondered the problem of renewing the code. Of course, I'm not an expert, I'm a volunteer, or a little helper of the 'big truth'. Deutsche interrupted, "Where! where! I'm listening to your insights. ”
Therefore, Kou Changhe reported on the trip to Shantou. "As a friend for many years, I will certainly regret and feel sad to see that my childhood career has not been successful. But the biggest takeaway from this trip was that I saw that the feelings between husband and wife, the run-in between each other, the mutual growth and weakness, so that they corrected their shortcomings and faults for each other. In a sense, it's more important than career success. Deutschray replied excitedly, and the hero saw the same thing. Recently, Qiao Jian also put forward his own views, which are consistent with Kou Changhe's views. Its views are as follows:
"I once drank Shantou Kung Fu tea, and it has three exquisite points: one is to pay attention to water source, the other is to pay attention to fire, and the third is to pay attention to patience. In this way, you can taste the tea flavor and cultivate your temperament. The adaptation of husband and wife is also a long-term patient process, not an overnight achievement. I've been through two things. First, when she was in Central California, Gui's father became addicted to smoking and quarreled with his wife for three or five days. After Larry taught him the dangers of smoking, he did not set a deadline for quitting smoking, but allowed him to gradually reduce the number and time of smoking, and finally quit completely. The second thing, in 2010, when I returned to China to go north, there was a woman in the tour group, a 57-year-old suburban in Guangzhou, who was divorced. Relatives in the same group said that one of the reasons for the divorce was that she 'overeated'. It turned out that she was eating at home, and as soon as she sat down, she didn't pick up the dishes, and she grilled half a bowl of rice on an empty stomach. At least three bowls of white rice at each meal. Her husband set strict rules, allowing her to eat only one bowl of rice, scolding her if she did not obey, and even taking the rice bowl away. I came back from abroad, and at that time I advocated diet to regulate the body, advocating eating more grains, and eating more rice and rice was not good for the body. Out of kindness, whenever there was a meal during the trip, I and other members of the group prevented her from eating three bowls, only one bowl. And once she got angry: 'I don't have enough to eat, and I can't walk around. I understand these big truths, and I have a couple of doctors in my family. Also, my daughter and son-in-law are police officers, each with a gun. Don't lie to me too much! At that time, I was very frightened, and I quickly said that I was well-intentioned and would never care about it again. How many bowls of rice you want to eat, listen to your honor. In hindsight, her ex-husband's requirements were too high, and the members of the group were also in a hurry. If you want her to reduce the amount of rice, you can only do it step by step, cut it as appropriate, how can you force her to eat only one bowl of rice at once? ”
After hearing this, Kou Changhe expressed his appreciation: "Run-in should be patient, allowing the other party to correct the problem has a process, and Qiao Jian adds this well." 'Big truth', guys, I have a feeling, there is an immature idea, looking for a sequel in the future, is it to run into the husband and wife, and not to abandon this point for a lifetime? DaiDulli immediately agreed.
The meal was over.