preface
There is a girl who did not go to college after graduating from high school and did not go well in finding a job many times. However, every time her daughter came back from failure, her mother always comforted her and encouraged her...
At first, she was assigned to teach at the primary school in the village. As a result, less than a week after class, he was knocked off the stage by the students and returned home with a gray head. Her mother wiped her tears and comforted her: "Some people can pour out what is full of stomachs, some people can't pour it out, maybe there are more suitable things waiting for you to do."
Later, she went out to work and was bombarded back by her boss because her hands and feet were too slow. The mother said to the daughter, "There are always fast and slow hands and feet, others have been working for many years, and you are studying, how fast?" My daughter has worked as a weaver, a market administrator, and an accountant, but without exception, she has given up halfway. However, every time her daughter came back from failure, her mother always comforted her
Encourage her, never say a word of discouragement and complaint.
In her 30s, her daughter, with her gift for language, worked as a counselor at a school for the deaf. Later, she opened her own school for the disabled. Later, she opened chains of disabled people's supplies in many cities. One day, the successful daughter asked her elderly mother, "Mom, in those years I have failed one after another, and I feel that the future is very slim, but why do you have so much confidence in me?" The mother's answer is simple and simple because you are my child, and I love you no matter what! Whether you make mistakes or you fail, your mother will be your eternal warm harbor. Besides, a piece of land, not suitable for growing wheat, you can try to grow beans; If the beans are not planted well, you can plant melons and fruits; If the melon fruit is not planted well, sprinkle some buckwheat seeds may be able to flower. Because a piece of land, there will always be a seed suitable for it, and there will always be a harvest that belongs to it...
Listening to her mother's words, the daughter burst into tears. She understood, in fact, that her mother's enduring faith and love were the most tenacious seeds. Although this is only a very common and ordinary example of family education, from this small example, we can also see how important maternal love is for a child! Mothers have a natural sense of intimacy with their children due to their mother's loving nature, so in general, children are mainly educated and raised by their mothers in the family, and the relationship between children and mothers is closer. Whether it is to create an environment for children or to teach them by example, the education of mothers for their children is of great significance, which can be described as a long way to go.
Someone once said: "The contest of a nation is the contest of mothers, and some people say: "The hand that pushes the cradle is also the hand that pushes the world." The famous German educator Froeber also said: "The fate of the people is not so much manipulated in the hands of those in power as in the hands of their mothers." It can be seen from this that the meaning of motherhood is great, and the greatness of motherhood education. Why? Because the quality of the mother determines the future of mankind and the nation. Because almost all people receive early education from mothers, in a sense, mother education is the education of the "root", the education of the "source"; Other education is the education of "Miao", the education of "flow".
Human history and contemporary educational science also confirm that the special position of mothers in the education of children is difficult for anyone else, including fathers, to replace, especially early education. Because the relationship between mother and child is a special relationship based on blood relations. The mother is the first perceptual object of the child after birth, the first imitation prototype, the first emotional transmitter, the first teacher, and the mother's words and deeds have a particularly important impact on the child.
Modern education has also found that whether a person can receive a good family education in childhood will directly determine whether he can achieve himself when he grows up, and almost all educators agree with this. We all know that almost all children live with their mothers almost inextricably during the time before they go to school. This stage is precisely the key moment in the development of children's IQ, emotional intelligence, personality and psychology. Therefore, some education experts have put forward the view that a good mother is better than a good teacher.
So, how should moms take responsibility for themselves? We believe that the child's mother not only simply plays the role of a "protector" who cares for the child, but also plays the role of a "teacher" who teaches the child to understand the world, stimulates the child's physical and mental development, and helps the child grow up healthily. As the mother of the child, if you can fully realize your role as a special "teacher" in addition to the "mother", then there is no doubt that your child will be lucky; Under your guidance and education, children will surely be able to obtain a good enlightenment education.
Of course, with the development of society, with the improvement of mothers' own quality, many mothers have paid great attention to the early enlightenment education of their children, realized their "heavy responsibility" as the child's first teacher, and realized that their influence on their children as a mother is huge - directly determining the future development of their children. However, unfortunately, there are many mothers who do not know how to play the "role" of their children's first teacher in life, do not know how to influence their children, and do not know what kind of enlightenment education to give their children. Indeed, as they say, children are still young, mental, psychological, comprehensible, verbal expression... They are still in an early stage of development, and it is very difficult to communicate with them, so how to cultivate them? Such troubles have really stumped many new mothers.
The experience of successful mothers and the lessons of failed mothers are integrated, in the form of proposing cases, analyzing cases, and proposing solutions, in plain language, deeply and simply introduce how to establish a parent-child relationship, how to effectively communicate with children, how to cultivate children's positive mentality and excellent qualities, how to solve children's small problems, how to make children have self-reliance, how to help children improve their academic performance, How to face it with your child...