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Everyone will encounter pain in life, and many people encounter pain is constant complaining, constant confrontation, and I don't know that the more you fight, the more intense your pain is.
When a person is in pain, when we fall into the mood of complaining and accusing, this will only create a vicious circle, it will make us more and more unintelligent, because all of our body and mind are controlled by emotions, and if we want to be free from suffering, the best way is to follow these three steps, and we can return to the present moment and have full growth and wisdom.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" > learn to be aware of your own suffering </h1>
If we want to get rid of physical pain, the most important thing is to learn to be aware of our own suffering. We need to go back to the present and think about where the pain comes from and why it causes it.
In fact, when we perceive suffering, we recognize suffering, and we recognize suffering. To be free from suffering, we need to make a specific analysis of what suffering looks like.
The more you see it, the more you can perceive what the truth behind the pain is. For example, someone who divorces and never comes out of this shadow for the rest of his life is essentially because he has lived in the past.
If we can perceive how the divorce process happens, our own behavior behind the process and the behavior of the other party, we will find that any relationship destruction is actually caused by two aspects.
For example, once a friend of mine divorced, he always thought that the woman caused his own pain, but when he was willing to observe the pain, he found that there was also a part of his own responsibility.
He never helped his wife, much less did he give her autonomy over the family, which was the key to divorcing each other.
Being aware of suffering can help us to be free from painful emotions, but to recognize this fact, to see this fact, and to feel the experience of things and the lessons needed for self-growth.
Everyone may understand that if we want to be free from suffering, we need to recognize what the pain behind it is, and the more profoundly you know, the more we can come out of the illusion of pain and find the lesson of self-growth.
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<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" > accept the impermanence of life and free from the shackles of relationships </h1>
In the second step, we need to understand that no relationship is constant. The most important thing for us to get rid of the relationship is to understand that no one is completely subordinate to us.
Whether it is their husband, wife, or child, they all have their own specific growth trajectory and life. Most of life's pain and troubles come from our troubles in relationships.
We are troubled by relationships, mostly from our inner subconscious, and you will think that this relationship, you are subordinate to me, which will cause conflict with each other.
If we can look at it from the source of life, the essence of any relationship is not actually subordinate to itself, everyone is a red stripe, a red stripe goes.
Then we can truly understand that no one in the world has ever belonged to me, they have only passed through our lives, and we are still free from each other.
When you have this consciousness, you will find that the real relationship is to find that the relationship with one another is never subordinate, nor is it an adjunct, but a free individual, and we can be freed from bondage, but free from our own mind.
Learning to accept impermanence is the same, which requires us to understand that our relationship with anyone will eventually be lost. For example, friendship, some people pass through our lives, but in the end we lose them because we have each other's way to go.
The same is true of the relationship between husband and wife, you can love each other and walk hand in hand for a lifetime, but there is really a day when both parties can no longer go on, and we still need to return each other's freedom.
Accept the impermanence of life, accept that each other's lives are independent individuals, our greatest responsibility is to be responsible for ourselves, we can be freed from the relationship and find the best way to get along with each other.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" > treat each pain as a growth lesson and experience the kung fu of self-improvement </h1>
When faced with pain, most people are very resistant in their hearts, and they will think in their hearts why this pain happens to them.
But when you understand that every pain is our own life lesson, we can appreciate where we strive for ourselves. In essence, perseverance is the lesson of perceiving one's own need for growth through the connection and awareness of all things.
The more extensively we connect, the less confrontational we are inside, and the greater wisdom and courage you can gain from the present moment. In essence, a person is actually mostly unwilling to face pain, which is actually an escape.
But when you are willing to face your own pain, you will find that pain happens to be the most important gift for you to grow.
This gift is to tell you what you need to grow and improve. For example, when we are willing to face up to what the self-growth of the relationship between the sexes is, we can harvest a new life in the relationship with each other.
Pain, in a way, is just a reminder of what you need to work on, and as you continue to iterate on yourself with this idea, your charm will grow stronger and stronger.
So anyone who encounters a problem can think about the pain from the perspective of a gift, keep writing it down, don't be controlled by emotions, and naturally get the growth wisdom and answers you need.
Whenever we encounter uncomfortable problems in our hearts, we can change our perspective, not to criticize ourselves, but from the perspective of self-growth to think about what the opportunities for self-improvement are, what a good state of life, when you are willing to continue to do this, the more we can become strong and wise inside.
Today's topic: What do you think is the best way to get out of pain, welcome to discuss and communicate.