Universities and workplaces are different, universities focus on individual learning, the pursuit of personal achievements, and entering the title is more often teamwork learning, learning from competitors, and the pursuit of team performance, team competitiveness.
Therefore, after college students enter the workplace, they must shift from the closed thinking of "self" to the "competitive" thinking of "openness" and "cooperation".
The "competition" thinking I am talking about here means that there must be a "sense of competition", we must understand "cooperation", and even learn to "cooperate" with competitors, although competitors are "enemies", but sometimes they can also be "friends", it can be said that competitors are "intimate enemies".
College students are able to learn to get along with "intimate enemies," which is one of the manifestations of maturity. I hope that this article can give some enlightenment to college students who have just entered the workplace or friends who are still confused in the workplace!
Young people who are new to the workplace are often slighted or excluded. If your personal ability is very weak, others will despise you, and if you are strong and too good, you will be excluded. This is a universal phenomenon, which can be said to be the animal instinct of man.
This is a process that many times have to go through, at this time, we must not be too sensitive to confrontation, or completely lose ourselves to submit. What we need is patience, the middle way, the way of flexibility, in short, to remember that when the other party is not very familiar with us, we have not yet established a certain intimate relationship, and naturally from the heart will either reject or despise us.
Let me give you an example!
There is also such a phenomenon in the animal kingdom, such as frogs, summer will gather in a pond, here is their market, or the place where they go to work, here they sing freely, cooperate with each other and sing, is to attract female frogs to join, at this time, the singing male frogs are both collaborators and competitors, they common staggered peak chirping, more attractive, but after the arrival of magnetic frogs, they will only choose one of them, often choose the safest and most convenient geographical location. For example, this location may be close to pools, grass, etc.
Often, the first frog to arrive at dark occupies the best position, and then comes the second, and the two sides will decide the winner through confrontation and fighting, and then the winner occupies the best position, and the loser retreats. At this time, they formed a situation of confrontation and cooperation. Then the third frog joins, the first two frogs will face each other and fight and cry together, the third will also choose another position, and then the fourth, the fifth... Frogs who join this team, if they want to take a better position, will be attacked by all the frogs, and they naturally form an order.
From this natural story, we can see that the two parties that were originally in a competitive relationship, once they formed a cooperative relationship, will show close cooperation and work together against the other party. They have learned how to work with "competitors" to maintain order together, ultimately forming team strength and effectiveness.
For the workplace in our human society, there is competition and cooperation everywhere, and we must learn to cooperate in competition and compete in cooperation. Treat competitors as "intimate enemies", learn to coexist peacefully with competitors, and achieve a win-win situation.
For college students who have just entered the workplace, it is important to remember that after joining the new workplace, if our position is very unremarkable, it will certainly be despised for a while; and if our position is more popular, there must be a period of time when we may be excluded, because we may occupy the position that others want. At this time, we cannot show weakness and concessions, nor can we confront and confront each other head-on. We must understand that there is a process of letting others accept, so we should communicate, communicate, and share more, show your enthusiasm and willingness to take the initiative to cooperate, show your ability colleagues, and show your modesty.
After we integrate into the team, we must also understand that we must learn to get along with the "competitors" around us, remember that colleagues who have a competitive relationship with themselves are equivalent to "intimate enemies", you are both intimate cooperative relations, but there is also a competitive relationship, learn to cooperate in competition, and compete with external competitors in cooperation.
"Intimate enemies" tell us that in the highly competitive workplace, we must know how to cooperate with colleagues around us and competing enterprises, and we must have "competitive" thinking, cooperate in competition, and compete in cooperation. In the workplace, we must gradually establish our "open", "rational" and "dialectical" thinking, so that we can be regarded as a professional who is gradually moving towards maturity!