If someone asks who the closest person in the world is, I will answer that it is a couple; if someone asks who is the most resentful person in the world, I will also answer that it is a couple.
In the sea of people, looking for, life journey, walking and stopping, maybe in the process of seeking and searching, our hearts have already drawn a portrait for the other half, as if they are according to Tu Suoji, as if they are completing the task, all the way, all the way around, hoping to find it as soon as possible, hoping not to miss the good fortune of god because of one of their own blinks.
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However, we think of everything too perfectly, we have learned theoretical knowledge, especially theoretical knowledge about love, several times, if according to the general university graduation standards, as if the love of this major can definitely graduate with a doctorate, you will still feel that you have learned too little, and when it comes to practice, what theory is forgotten. In the face of love, you will feel that your eyebrows are not black enough, your lips are not red enough, your teeth are not white, your mouth is not so clear, and even your walking is somewhat deformed, as if once you are in love, people will no longer be the simple self they once were, without self-confidence, lack of spirit, and less interest.
Think about it, there is no change, ah, how can you not find the feeling of love?
When two people are still friends, both men and women seem to be able to talk about everything, go shopping together, and eat together, but once they cross that hurdle, once they give themselves an agreement, after giving others a promise, it seems that they can never find such a casual.
Boys should pay extra attention to speaking, afraid that which sentence of their own provokes others to be angry, or show the style of a big man, too careful, others will say that you are careful, not careful, will say that you are informal; pay attention to the appearance, will make the girl think that in attracting the attention of others, perhaps the performance of the heart, not trimming, will give people the impression of sloppiness and laziness; say sweet words, will make girls think that you can talk about kung fu, the real chapter is difficult to say, do not say anything, will feel that you are too depressed, and you have nothing to say, In short, it is difficult to master this degree.
Girls will also have various abnormal behaviors when they walk with their crush. Or "women for their own pleasure" to rummage through the boxes and cabinets, but do not know what kind of clothes to wear, too formal may be regarded as old soil, too avant-garde will make people feel too sister, too fancy is not good, too monochromatic is not good; before going out, a little powder may have a wind and dust breath, plain face to the sky and will make people feel that there is no mood of life, there is a saying well: there are no ugly women in this world, only lazy women; after meeting, talking more makes people feel nagging, not talking and cold If you know everything in front of men, ancient and modern, Chinese and foreign, it will make men feel pressure, because this is still a patriarchal society after all, strong women can be their bosses, but being their girlfriends or wives is really unbearable, if they behave like birds and people, they will make men feel that they are not looking for a girlfriend, but this girl wants to find someone to take care of her life.
In fact, under the moon before the flower, when the wild geese pass on the book and the text messages fly frequently, it seems that many of these advantages will be continuously magnified, but the shortcomings will be infinitely reduced, as if this life is only willing to stay with that person, has missed so long, there is no need to torture themselves, torture each other, as if walking through the red carpet is already imminent, it is already the trend of the times, and it has a sharp mind.
When they really get together, many people will exclaim and be deceived, how can it suddenly seem to be a different person, is it really said that the cooked duck will never fly again, or after going through countless hardships, people will become tired and lazy? All of this at the beginning, as if overnight, all forgot, forgot the agreement, forgot the sea oath mountain alliance, forgot that wanting to hold hands for a lifetime requires patience and perseverance, patience and tolerance.
Between husband and wife, there will always be friction, and a person's life suddenly becomes a battle of wits and courage between two people, a person's mind, how can you add other elements. Modern people who are accustomed to freedom and ease will regard marriage as a dividing point in their lives, a watershed, as if they have jumped over this point, and life will become another feeling, another scene.
Therefore, about eating, dressing, traveling, consuming, etc., will become the fuse of war, as if that small living room can become a battlefield at any time, or lips and swords, or dance knives, or fists and feet.
There are differences in diet between the north and the south, and there will be differences between pasta and rice in the east and west, some like sweets, some like Shanxi vinegar, some like the spicy spices of Sichuan, some like the lightness of Guangzhou; there is also the fact that the young people who have just entered the family, many of them have been princes and princesses who have come to stretch out their hands and open their mouths, and really when they can take power and can play their own orders, they find that they have almost no life experience, and the person who can give orders, there is only one other. So the two people began to calculate, whether it is easier to cook, or it is more cost-effective to buy vegetables and wash dishes, in the end these boys are contracted well, or girls are more suitable.
Regarding dressing, there may also be contradictions, because everyone's aesthetic is different, everyone's appreciation level is different, and everyone's preferences are different. There are those who like red enthusiasm, those who like white purity, those who like black and blue solemn, and the colors between black and white, which are really innumerable, so many colors, to coordinate the thinking of two people, it is really difficult for some strong people. Some people like to dress simply, some people like to be complicated and trivial, some people like to be beautiful and moving in winter, and some people are afraid of the cold to make themselves more bloated.
If both people are office workers, if the income level of the two people is the same, or they are at peace, or the contradiction is greater. Because in everyone's heart, there is actually a desire to dominate, but desperately reject the desire to be dominated, everyone wants to dominate the other person's thoughts and behaviors. Some people may even feel that since they are looking for you, you should be absolutely subordinate to me, as if marriage is a kind of handout given by him, or a reluctant thing, and some women, as soon as they get married, the first thing that comes to mind is the financial power, as if they have the financial power, they have everything, just like the chairman said: the power out of the barrel of the gun, here it can be completely changed, who has the final say who has money.
Marriage is the graveyard of love, marriage is a farewell to the free life of the past, marriage is to find an opponent for oneself, to find an enemy. And this person will always be by your side, will go on with you very closely, if two people have the same heart, it is fine, if the same bed and different dreams, then the real war, maybe not so tragic.
If there must be a war between two people in marriage, then I think it is best to agree that this war lasts for 70 years, to see who has more patience, to see who has better physical strength, every day they are trying to think about the next routine, the next plan of war, to a very old age, there is absolutely no possibility of senile dementia; let yourself exercise more every day, so that you can attack and retreat, unconsciously, the body is great, eat Ma Ma Xiang, in the long run without love, the long road, not to support each other , but keep moving forward.
Having seen too many lovers, couples, couples in the red dust, I think it is not easy for people to live, since they have chosen, why should they torture each other and be jealous of each other?
I am reminded of the poem "Eight Solstices" by Li Ye, a famous female Taoist priest of the Tang Dynasty: to the nearest to farther east and west, to the deepest to the shallow Qingxi. From the highest to the moon and the sun, to the closest to the estranged husband and wife. Between husband and wife, they can look good, earburns, respect each other, raise eyebrows, and also cry to the corner, can go in opposite directions, can meet each other, and can be inseparable. Everyone will have a different understanding, and everyone will have their own methods in front of marriage, and they will not find the exact answer.