Text | Imperfect, Beautiful · Anchor | Bai Lin
- Honey, are you doing well today -
I remember when I was in Wenchuan Rescue,
A father lost his 8-year-old son in an earthquake,
He had tears on his face,
He said: "Whenever I think of my son asking me to accompany him to go fishing, and I refuse him to play mahjong, I have a pain in my heart.
I always thought that when he left home for school on the morning of '5.12', I still attacked him and asked him to study hard. ”
And a mother,
When my daughter was in her third year of high school,
Died of cancer.
She has always been proud of being a strict mother,
Think that girls should learn to be independent,
Let my daughter learn piano, chess, books, painting,
Let my daughter make up for the math, theory, and chemistry in her spare time,
Let the daughter put all her energy
and spare time is spent studying,
Not allowed to play with classmates, not allowed to read extracurricular books,
It is also forbidden to play mobile phones and games,
Even the time to watch movies is very small,
in a word
To get ahead of her daughter, her homework is at the top.
The daughter is very good by her mother's standards,
Piano, chess, books, paintings,
Academic performance is also among the best,
Just depressed,
Not very associated with people,
There are very few words to talk about home,
Of course, there is no time to talk.
When she can't keep up with her studies due to poor physical strength,
Go to the hospital to check on cancer,
He died soon after.
I listened to the mother's grief-stricken cry:
"My daughter, my mother hates herself,
Didn't let you have a happy childhood,
Nor is there a happy youth,
Mom just wants you to learn well, become famous and start a family;
Now, you don't have anybody.
It was your mother who killed you,
Mom I'm sorry for you,
But what's the use of being sorry for you?
If you give mom a chance,
I don't ask you for anything,
Just want to see you every day. ”
Not all goodbyes mean seeing each other again,
Some goodbyes are eternal tips.
How many unfinished feelings, unfinished intentions, unspoken words, undocumented things, future apologies, unspoken love, unspoken gratitude and wishes,
Together, it is painful and unbearable, and I don't know how to resolve it.
Loss is one of the pains of life,
The biggest loss is the loss of loved ones and loved ones.
When we are with our loved ones every day,
I often feel that coming to Japan is long,
I don't feel the need to cherish the time together,
Because they are used to each other, they do not care;
Because there will be contradictions, and they may also hurt each other.
However, life is impermanent, do we really need to remember after an accident and when our loved ones leave that we should treat our relatives and loved ones well?
<h4>Life's accidents are actually the norm</h4>
In fact, there are no accidents in life, and accidents are also the norm.
In a world of change and surprise,
Not everyone can go home safely every day;
Not everybody goes to sleep tonight,
I will still be able to live tomorrow.
Only life and death are great things in the world,
Everything else is really little things.
In the flow of time, we will eventually find that
In fact, life is the most precious,
The most heart-warming and happy
Not fame and fortune, not how glamorous and beautiful,
Instead, I went home at night and lay in bed.
I have been with one by my side for many years
People who still don't change their original intentions
He wishes you well from the bottom of his heart,
Hope you are healthy, hope you are not too tired,
Thou shalt not be sick, resentful or unsent,
He gives you the warmth of his body and mind,
This is the true melody and destination of life.
There may be a lot of unfairness in this world.
But there is one thing that heaven is absolutely fair to everyone,
That's time.
If you don't cherish every inch of time, treat every day as the last day of your life,
Life will be full of regrets, or it will be difficult to regret.
In the end, life may be like a wisp of smoke,
Dissipated without a trace.
<h4>All we really have is the present moment</h4>
Jobs said at Stanford University Graduation,
When he was 17 years old, he read a sentence:
"If you take every day,
As if it were the last day of life,
If you go to life,
So one day,
You will find that you are right. ”
Since then, for 33 years,
Every morning he would look in the mirror and ask himself:
"If today is the last day of your life,
Will you accomplish what you want to do today? ”
When the answer is "No" for many consecutive days,
He knew he needed to change something.
"Remember you're going to die"
It was the most important motto of his life,
All the honors, all the pride,
Fear of embarrassment and failure,
All of this disappears in the face of death.
You're naked,
There is no reason not to listen to your own inner voice.
Now, whether you are a wife or a husband,
Whether you are a child or a parent,
Stop, yes, right now.
When the child says, "Mom, you play with me." Please don't say, "Baby, I'll accompany you when I'm done." "Remember to squat down and give him a kiss and play with him."
When your mother calls and asks you what time it is to come home,
Please stop saying impatiently:
"Don't urge, don't urge, busy!"
Instead, he said softly:
"Mom, I'll be back soon."
Let her worry less.
When a lover wants to be intimate with you,
Stop thinking about your WeChat and email
And those bullshit bills,
Embrace and kiss him warmly,
Gaze at his eyes with affection...
Life is long and short. Everything happens in this moment, and this moment makes up the whole of life. Some people use this moment to regret the past, use this moment to worry about the future, use this moment to compare with people, always think that there is still a lot of future, a lot of endless time, so rarely experience and cherish this moment.
Please in this lifetime, please love yourself and love your Him in this moment.
Now, take a deep breath, calm down, and ask yourself, "If today were the last day of my life, what would I do?" ”
Self-exploration/sharing good night
( Welcome to share your experience in the comments section)
✓ "If today is the last day of my life, what am I going to do?"
✓ Tomorrow, the last day of August, can I help myself fulfill an unfulfilled wish?
Love you/good night
Practice every day and become more and more like yourself
729 ashrams grow with you
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