In the traditional Chinese concept, the inheritance of incense is the most important point. Passing on from generation to generation is the primary duty of any family, no matter which one of the hundred families, the princes and generals, the soldiers, farmers, industrialists, and merchants, there is no difference in this.
But in the new society, whether this kind of thinking is worth continuing to adhere to is a focus of debate among all walks of life.
Some voices believe that passing on the generations is the key to human reproduction and must not be abandoned.
Another part of the population believes that whether or not to choose to have children and what children to have should be the freedom of man, and no other person or concept should be hindered.
In this regard, the famous writer Jia Pingwo made a deafening voice in a speech: How many couples in the world have gone to great lengths to continue the incense, but in fact, it is meaningless!
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Jia Ping's concave speech was amazing, which immediately aroused a huge response in society, and also attracted mixed praise and criticism.
In fact, Jia Pingwa's ability to make this sound is also closely related to his personal experience.
Jia Pingwo was born in a small village in Shaanxi Province to farmers. He was a farmer before he became a writer, but he did not shy away from or hide his identity in the slightest. Farmers, like any other profession, are glorious professions that contribute to society and the people.
However, he was also able to feel and recognize some ideas and concepts that were not widely known in his long-term life experience, which were deeply rooted in the countryside, and many traditional figures in the countryside were already familiar with this, but they were still feudal and backward ideas in the whole society.
In order to write works that truly reflect rural life, Jia Pingwo spent most of his life investigating and experiencing farmers, and also had high achievements.
After years of accumulation, Jia Pingwo found that the countryside attaches great importance to the fertility of boys, and almost any family that fails to give birth to a boy will always face the gossip of neighbors.
The more in-depth the investigation, the more shocking, Jia Pingwa's countryside is beautiful, charming, and constantly changing, but occasionally reveals thoughts on this aspect.
Later, Jia Pingwo became a husband himself, and his feelings in giving birth to children were even deeper. He deeply realized how "bad" it would be if he didn't give birth to a boy in his family. "No filial piety has three, no queen is greater", and in the traditional concept, girls can't do this "after", only boys can be considered "queen".
In Jia Pingwa's works such as "Sandy Land" and "February Apricot", we can fully see his profound criticism of these backward concepts. This is also a profound insight he himself has come up with after experiencing a lot.
Jia Pingwa opposes the painstaking "continuation of incense", and he himself does not value this model, currently has only one daughter, Jia Qianqian, and does not reveal the intention of asking for another boy.
According to the latest census data, China's current male-female ratio shows a slight imbalance, with nearly 30 million more men than women. In fact, more chinese men have always existed, but in recent years they have been alleviated and improved.
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Behind such a sex ratio, many families are obsessed with having boys, and they will not give up until they reach their goals.
Originally, before the fetus was born, it was impossible to know the gender, and many families could not start. Later, with the development of science and technology, the fetus is still in the womb, and the sex can be identified.
This can give many families an incision, they take the pregnant woman a few months after she is pregnant, they take her to the hospital to test the sex of the fetus, if not what they want, just beat it. But I don't know how much of a physical and mental blow this will bring to the wife who is about to become a mother.
This is also not conducive to the regulation of the sex ratio of society as a whole. Therefore, soon after the advent of this technology, the mainland issued relevant laws to prohibit the identification of the sex of the fetus before birth. This is truly a good policy that benefits the country and the people, but many people do not understand it.
But even this can not stop some crazy people, they send pregnant women's blood samples to hospitals in Taiwan and other places, and even drag the family to rush to the identification. Of course, there are still a few who can do this.
But the poor innocent child, before he could experience the swaddling warmth and maternal care, was ruthlessly removed.
Some people only want to have a boy in order to pursue the succession of generations, which brings many troubles and problems to their families and the whole society.
The most serious is drug abuse. Some families and pregnant women lack basic scientific common sense, listen to folk folk "transcarriage pills", "boy water" and other folk remedies, after taking it, cause great stimulation to the fetus, and also bring a great burden to the body of pregnant women.
Taking transsexual pills will cause irreversible damage to the embryo, light male and female bisexual hormone chaos, serious and even lead to fetal death, even if it is born, the child's body, spirit and other aspects can not reach normal levels.
Even families with some basic scientific concepts are only looking for some male hormone drugs for pregnant women to take, and their essence is no different from the transcarnation pill.
In fact, at the moment of embryonic formation, the gender has been determined, which is unchangeable, even if a large number of male factors are mixed, it will only make the child become an "intersex person" and a "deformed person".
Speaking of which, there has always been such a joke in the countryside.
In a village, there has always been a divine doctor, the best of this doctor is the "fetal pill", whether he wants a boy or a girl, go back to eat this pill, you can guarantee the birth of the desired gender, if not, then the medicine money is fully refunded.
Such a joke of gambling probability, but no one can see through. People from four villages and eight counties learned of this news and came to ask for medicine, and after the birth, half of the people gave birth to boys as they wished, while the families who gave birth to girls did not feel that they had suffered losses because they had taken back the medicine money.
In fact, such a simple scam can be easily discovered and exposed, but families who want boys are eager to have children, do not care about any science, and only want to hold a grandchild as they wish.
In addition, there is also the problem of overbirth due to the disadvantages of having boys. There are many families who want a boy at the beginning, and then they have two or three girls in a row, and they have to grit their teeth.
After the birth of a child, raising has become a big problem, and the quality of family life has visibly declined. But at this time, it is too late to repent, so I continue to have children until a boy is born, and the joy in my heart will be washed away by the heavy pressure of life.
This is like a person drinking water, cold and warm self-knowledge. But presumably, after a few years, more such families will regret that they were obsessed with having a boy.
In Mo Yan's novel "Fat Buttocks", the heroine Shangguan Lu's in-laws actually let Shangguan Lu have nine children in order to be able to hold a grandson, which can be regarded as a wish.
Eight daughters and a son, a family that could have been maintained normally, fell apart in such an encounter, and the eight daughters also died tragically, without a good ending.
The drama in the novel is sufficient, and in reality there is no case of having eight daughters in a row to get a son. But this is still enough to make people think deeply, how many people have been harmed by the concept of succession?
Finally, the birth rate in our country is currently declining and has fallen to a low level. This is different from the well-known concept of "having a child hard, having a boy is a pull down".
In fact, this is the negative effect caused by the concept of continuing incense. How expensive is it to raise a child today?
Milk powder money, kindergartens, interest classes, tutoring classes, all expenses are astronomical, if you want to raise a child in a first-tier city, there is no nearly a million is not down.
The cost of childbearing is so high that young couples naturally have to think carefully. And the most headache for them is the urging of parents, delaying the birth of children is a sin, and not being able to give birth to boys is even more stressful. Although the husband and wife do not mind, if they give birth to a girl, the gossip caused by it is also extremely annoying.
In order not to bring pain to innocent children, simply did not have children, and built a Dink family. Whenever a parent or relative asks, he prevaricates on the grounds that his life is not yet stable, and in fact he has no intention of having children in the short term.
Under the influence of economic problems and conflict of ideas, the fertility rate is getting lower and lower. This also exacerbates the aging of the population, and when people reach the middle and old age, the more they attach importance to the succession of generations, and the more urgently they urge their children to have children as soon as possible, so the aging has exacerbated the problems of the Dink family.
This becomes a knot that cannot be opened. It plagues the older and younger generations and the unborn children for three generations.
How do you resolve these issues? Jia Pingwo also gave some reference opinions.
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First of all, if we want to fundamentally reverse this situation, it lies in the change of concepts and the progress of thinking.
From the traditional point of view, in the ancient social system dominated by agriculture, men had a higher status in production because of their stronger physical strength and higher status in production, and a family of men thriving was able to plant more land and eat enough food.
But in today's development of productive forces, mechanized agriculture has replaced the male labor force in large quantities, and the idea that there is no gap between the labor force between men and women in modern society can make the same contribution, and this idea is even more unnecessary.
In addition to the concept of "raising children and preventing the elderly" circulated before, people have always believed that boys are their own family members and are responsible for supporting the elderly, but daughters can also assume this responsibility, and no one stipulates that daughters cannot provide for their parents.
The girl's filial piety and ability will not be weaker than the boy's, the key is to accept this situation. If you think about it, they are all their own flesh and bones, what is the difference?
In fact, it is also relieved, and the issue of boys and girls is no longer entangled.
The new pension model that has emerged today is actually not to stay at home and let your children serve, but to accumulate a pension, live the life you want, travel, and experience new things.
If you abandon the happiness of a family just to pursue the transmission of a surname, you will be the end of the book and regret it.
Jia Pingwo pointed out in a clear way that the continuation of incense is far less important than the education of children. This is also the second solution, focusing on the educational approach.
Having a child is not to make him a tool for his own old-age care, but to do something of supreme significance in itself. For their own children, they can't let him do what they want to do, suppress their nature, and can't release themselves.
The correct guidance of children can make children grow up freely and healthily, which is also the most important thing for parents to consider carefully. Their future belongs to them, and parents don't have to be too harsh.
But family education is an important part of testing a family, as long as the child is properly educated, both boys and girls can make themselves proud and let their children grow into truly meaningful people.
If the education is not proper, even if it is not a boy or a girl, it is selfish and arbitrary, so that parents will have a headache when they bring it up. Even a valued son may not be able to fulfill filial piety, and even chew on the old.
A child is not only the continuation of the bloodline, but also the inheritance of the entire nation and civilization. When every parent considers having a child, they should not only focus on the issue of giving and providing for the elderly with a surname, but also let them shoulder the important mission of inheriting the spirit of Chinese civilization.
And this mission, obviously, has nothing to do with gender. Generations of Chinese sons and daughters have sacrificed everything for national liberation and great rejuvenation, and their greatness has long exceeded the limits of gender and so on.
What's more, there are by no means a few heroines in China's modern and contemporary history, and it is precisely this meaning that the scarf does not allow the eyebrows to be shaved.
Of course, it is not that they want to have a boy is a feudal backward concept, and every parent has the right to envision their own children in the future, not to mention that today's young couples are more and more fond of girls and want to have a little girl. This is their subjective choice, and no one can interfere with it.
But whether a boy or a girl is born in the end, we must not be prejudiced and biased towards our children because of our own dissatisfaction, which is what we try to avoid. And those children with utilitarian and backward concepts are also what we must resist.
Children are the crystallization of love, the testimony of happiness, and the final puzzle of a complete family. Couples can choose not to have children, but raising a child will definitely be a happy life experience.
For children, having parents who love them is also a real thing to be proud of.
Raising children is a natural thing that requires the accumulation of materials, feelings, and thoughts, as well as breaking through some obstacles and ignoring some unkind eyes.
Children are not the private property of their parents and elders, and it is the responsibility of parents to give their children equal love so that they can grow up freely and correctly. These children are the most beautiful treasures of every family and the whole nation.