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Chinese has had such a traditional concept since ancient times, and it is the mission of starting a family to pass on the generations.
If you are a woman, you may wish to ask yourself, do you want to have your own flesh and bones, and share the family bloodline with your husband?
If you are a man, you might as well ask yourself if you want to have your own offspring, let him inherit the family's kinship, and then continue?
If a dozen or twenty years ago, this concept of "continued blood" was still deeply rooted. But today, this kind of thinking is gradually "declining".
In general, if you want to change ideas that have been ingrained for thousands of years, there are no centuries that cannot be changed. But why, in these short decades or twelves, have we changed the concept of "passing on the generations"?
In fact, this problem is particularly complex, not only related to personal concepts, but also related to changes in the family and the general environment.
A few years ago, most people thought that this idea of "broken incense" was just a temporary "abnormal state". As we all know, today, this concept has become a long-term "norm". It's full of emotions.
Broken incense has become a trend in the future, which may be related to these four points.
02
Broken incense has become the norm, related to the "inability to marry".
If we want to "pass on the generations," then we have to get married first. If we are not married, what about passing on our own bloodline? Unfortunately, "unmarried" has become the norm these days.
I believe that some elders will be particularly puzzled. Marriage is a natural and normal act. Why aren't young people getting married today?
There's an old saying that if you can get married, everyone will get married. But if they don't have the money to get married, they just want to have a little bit of their own life.
The reason is real, not that they don't want to get married, but that some people can't afford to get married at all.
I don't know when, the threshold for marriage has been rising, either today's price or tomorrow's price, just like commodities, as the price rises, they are also constantly raising their own prices.
Take the average man, who has no money or power, let alone touched their marriage, and maybe women won't look down on them either. This is the norm in the "material society".
In fact, no one is wrong. What is wrong is the materialistic world.
03
Incense loss has become the norm, which is related to "high house prices".
No matter how much we talk about "marriage", we can't avoid the theme of "house".
Do you think you have to buy a house when you get married? Is it necessary to buy a house in life? To be honest, it's not an unnecessary issue, it's that you can't get married without a house.
I once met a guy from a village who graduated in 1986. He came to Guangzhou to work hard for ten years. However, the harder he worked in the big city, the more he felt that he was getting farther and farther away from the goal of "buying a house".
I asked him, you are only tens of thousands of months, why can't you afford to buy a house? According to the data of 2020, the salary of 10,000 yuan can already rank in the top 15% of the country.
He replied: "We earn wages that are not as good as inflation, and now prices are rising, so it's good to be able to support ourselves, and buying a house is also a luxury."
Just imagine, even the high-quality students of 985 find it difficult to buy a house. What about ordinary people?
04
Broken incense has become the norm, closely related to "high requirements".
On today's network, we can often see some "mate selection conditions". However, these mate selection conditions seem to be an understatement. In fact, very few people can achieve them.
Chen Xiao in the unit went on a blind date. When the woman first met him, she made her own requirements - to have a house and a car, an annual salary of 300,000 yuan or more, it is best not to take out a loan, and live with her parents.
In fact, the conditions proposed by the woman do not add up to more than 30 words, but they are difficult to complete. Because many of the conditions in it are beyond the reach of ordinary people.
Can a 30-year-old young man complete the task of buying a car and a house? No way. Taking a step back, can he earn more than 300,000 a year? Hardly.
According to statistics, people with monthly salaries of 3,000 to 8,000 account for about 85% of the total number. The average annual salary of 300,000 is at least 25,000 per month. However, people with a monthly salary of 25,000 are already in the top 10% of successful people.
Therefore, getting married and having children, passing on the generations, now feels a bit "unattainable".
05
Incense breakage has become the norm, and it is related to "ideas".
In Zhihu, someone asked the question, is it really meaningful for children to experience their own lives?
95% of people live a similar life.
When I was two years old, I went to kindergarten to study. After graduating from college, I went out to look for a job. When I met my lover, I got married and had children. In middle age, I supported my family. When I got older, I quietly left.
In fact, we are all well aware of what everyone experiences in this world.
In terms of knowledge, someone gave such an answer. They went through 996, and even if they lived in vain for the sake of "reinforced concrete", they really did not want future generations to suffer such pain.
People think the world is good, but they really don't want to come back and they don't want their children to come.
It is these ideas that make most people choose to be single and cut off the incense.
Perhaps, this is not a matter of personal thought, but a matter of the general environment. Everything got out of hand. That's all.