At the 36th Academy Awards, the film "July and Ansheng" received 12 nominations for Best Film, Best Actress, Best Director, Best Screenplay, etc., which made me go to see the original book and the movie.
It tells the story of two girls, July and Ansheng, who began to know each other at the age of 13, to fall in love with the sunshine boy Jiaming at the age of 18, to love and kill each other at the age of 26.
People are selfish in their feelings, whether it is love, friendship or affection.
Women will fight for love, men will fight for friendship, and brothers and sisters will resent their parents for favoritism.
From the original book and the movie, two different endings can be seen: selfish women are the most addictive to men.
01 Ambiguity is the highest level of emotional hunters
In the original "July and Ansheng", Ansheng, July, and Jiaming went to the mountain together to celebrate July's birthday, and as a result, July rested in the middle of the mountain because of physical weakness, waiting for Ansheng and Jiaming to go to the temple on the top of the mountain to make a wish.
Screenshot of the movie "July and Ansheng"
As a result, the best friend confessed to her boyfriend, Anderson said that he liked Jiaming's bright eyes, and Jiaming also felt that July was a mysterious flower with a strange fragrance.
Ansheng's boldness and otherness fascinate her, and despite having a quiet and beautiful girlfriend, July, Jiaming still gave Ansheng the amulet he wore with him as a promise.
Ansheng, who received a response from Jiaming, hindered by sisterhood, took the jade pendant with Jiaming's body temperature, away from the city where he had lived for 17 years, and fulfilled July and Jiaming in his own way.
As everyone knows, the more you can't get the love, the more it makes people itch.
This kind of love is not possible, it is torture for Ansheng, it is a test for Jiaming, and the ambiguous actions of these two people have long been a betrayal of July, and the deception makes the feelings collapse in an instant, the love fails, and the cornerstone of friendship collapses.
After July and Jiaming graduated, July took a stable class in her hometown, calmly waiting for the happy wedding with Jiaming, she thought that such a tolerant escape, hiding Jiaming's will, could be as if nothing had happened.
After Jiaming graduated, he went to a foreign country to start a business, met Ansheng by chance, and lived together, and this time the cohabitation was undoubtedly a fierce slap to July.
Turning a blind eye to the rift in love, the more you escape, the more you let the beloved person take a chance without scruples, you can enjoy the blessings of the people, and the hidden forbearance in love will only be exchanged for sympathy and pity.
After Ansheng became pregnant, the Canadian boss did not want to marry him, she contacted July again, and ansheng in distress was only July, and what Ansheng did not know was that this child was a thorn for July.
This child stung July's love nerves, and has always reminded July that her husband once betrayed himself with his girlfriend.
An Sheng used his desire to get the love of Jiaming, and used his children to trap the friendship of July, worthy of being an emotional hunter.
02 Bottomless inclusion is the most pitiful emotional spare tire
The ending in the movie "July and Ansheng" is that July finally waited for Jiaming, realized her dream love ending, and Jiaming spent a night entangled, and then ran away from marriage to live the wandering life before Ansheng.
July was pregnant with Jiaming's child, returned to her hometown before giving birth, found Ansheng, because of difficult childbirth, before the caesarean section, July made an appointment with Ansheng, the child was born and raised by Ansheng, and July continued the wandering life she wanted to live.
Undoubtedly, after the age of 26, the well-behaved and idyllic July and Ansheng exchanged a way of living, and July's girlfriend with Ansheng was a subtle emotional penetration.
At the end of the film, An Sheng and Jia Ming are single, An Sheng raises the child of July, and the love crystallization of this girlfriend and the man he loves most is blocked in front of each other, and An Sheng and Jia Ming have no possibility of being together.
A child born with love, whether it is a child born in July and Jiaming in the film, or a child born in the original work, Ansheng and Jiaming are all expressions of the desire for love, proving that they have loved.
In the end, July or Ansheng both threw their children to each other, and in each other's most dangerous times, they entrusted their favorite love to the most trusted person--- former girlfriend.
It is a proof of selfish love and an ironclad proof of sincere friendship.
When July was sending Ansheng on the train, she saw the jade pendant on Ansheng's neck, which was amulet worn by Jiaming, and instantly understood everything.
Looking at July, whose tears were swirling in his eyes, Ansheng said, "If you want me to stay, I won't leave." ”
July does not have the courage to want Ansheng to stay, she does not want her comfortable life to be disrupted, nor does she want to share her boyfriend with her girlfriend, and she is even less confident, Jiaming will love herself more than choose Ansheng.
Escape makes July choose to give up friendship, tolerance makes July choose to see Jiaming and Ansheng living together, but also give Jiaming a chance to choose, let them all live according to their predetermined ideas.
The bottomless tolerance in love will only make the beloved person more and more indulgent, and the loved one has only a body with different hearts and mouths in addition to receiving sympathy and pity.
03 Selfishness is the safest emotional player
The key person in this love triangle is JiaMing, who loves to work and flowers, which is a reasonable thing, but Jiaming can't stand the attraction of an alternative girl like Ansheng.
July's compromise and forbearance give Jiaming the opportunity to return to a peaceful married life after enjoying Ansheng's body.
Ansheng's self-righteous sacrifice and fulfillment allow Jiaming to give Ansheng the form of love: the jade pendant that is close to the body, the comfort of collapse and despair, and the essence of July's love: marriage and the absence of people.
July is selfish, knowing that Jiaming and Ansheng are in love, but she relies on her sincere friendship with Ansheng, she knows that Ansheng will give up Jiaming to herself, and she understands that love is selfish.
AnSheng is selfish, knowing that he can't do it, bravely and boldly confessing to his girlfriend's boyfriend, and also accepting the promise letter, and carrying it for many years, until he got jiaming's care and loving response, and then let go.
Jiaming's selfishness lies in the fact that emotions wander between July and Ansheng, but in fact, he loves himself more and enjoys the feeling of being able to bring himself full love.
Ansheng and July are two girls with completely different personalities, one is idyllic and the other is promiscuous, which just makes up for the missing side of love.
Indecisiveness in love, ambiguity is the biggest taboo of feelings, and selfishness is the culprit.
Jiaming's choice ruined the lives of 3 people:
July's heart planted a stinger of love, from the pain of betrayal of his best friend and the most loved man.
Ansheng's psychology carries a heavy little three love and the burden of abandoning friendship;
Jiaming's psychology has since lost the judgment of love and the ability to love people.
Dickens said, "One eye shines with love, while the other burns with the fire of selfish desire." ”
True love is the longest love companionship, the most loyal company, the most selfless giving, the most responsible commitment.
All the long-planned infidelity is not enough love, is an excuse for hypocritical love, does not become blind for love, and does not lose the original intention and sincerity for blindness.
Love is selfish, single-minded, unsharpendable, and more importantly, it should be loyal and trusting each other.
Emotional relationships based on forbearance and suspicion are like a sweater that has been stripped off the line, and if it is not repaired in time, as long as there is a small loophole, it is easy to ruin the entire dress.
It is possible to obtain love by any means, but to have a truly lasting love requires wisdom and patience, and all the virgin hearts and careful machines are floating clouds.