Text/Daji Relief Hall
Everyone has problems, and in the world, we have our own troubles. Among them, there are both interpersonal problems in the workplace and contradictions from the family. Regardless of age or gender, everyone has times when they are trapped by troubles.
"Worth it in the world" is a philosophical book written by 90-year-old Japanese psychologist Tsuneko Nakamura, which tells us how to face the troubles of work and life, how to release the pressures in daily life, so that we can go on smoothly in life.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" >01 Work for money, rightfully so</h1>
Working for money is not a shameful thing, it's a matter of course, and I think it's very remarkable.
Grandma Nakamura is a psychologist who went from 20 to 90 years old and stayed on the clinic and made rounds of clinics for 70 years.
But the reason why she became a doctor is not because of how ambitious her ideals are, but because at that time she had no choice but to work, and choosing to study medicine seemed better than other jobs.
When it comes to work, we may often feel confused and troubled, not knowing what the future of our work is, and not knowing the significance of our work.
Well, we can first tell ourselves that work is to make money, to survive, to raise a family and raise children to grow up.
When we see the purpose of our work as simple and clear, maybe we will have a lot less trouble and complaints.
Even Grandma Hengzi, who has worked for 70 years, has never said whether she likes her job or not.
In her early years, she had to work to make a living, and then she worked because work had become a part of her life, and work was already a natural thing for her.
Although, Grandma Hengzi advised us not to blindly decide whether we like a job or not, just do it.
And in the face of a job that has always made us make great sacrifices, her advice is to leave decisively, because your life should be decided by yourself.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" >02 Don't expect too much and be grateful for the little things in life</h1>
Whether it is money or lifestyle, it is good for yourself to be moderate. The life that stands out, the life without success, the life with children, the life without children, if you only compare with others, there will never be a correct answer.
Many of life's troubles stem from comparing with others or demanding too much from others.
We often compare with the people around us, whose house is big, whose children have good grades, who are beautiful,......, and it is the constant comparison that makes us ignore the happiness around us.
However, everyone is a unique individual, and everyone's growth environment and development opportunities are different.
If we use other people's standards to demand ourselves, we will cause trouble to ourselves and hit our own confidence; and if we use our own standards to demand others, we will also cause trouble to others and affect our relationship with others.
Grandma Hengzi said: Don't try to get happiness by changing others, but think about "how to be happy about what you do" or "how to try to make yourself happy here", I think this is the key that should be considered.
Whether we are with colleagues or with family or friends, if we want to be in a good mood, we should try our best to coordinate the most peaceful way to get along, accept the imperfections of ourselves and others, and perhaps be happier.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" >03 have just the right amount of relationships</h1>
Spiritual communication is actually putting yourself in an equal position with the other party and listening to the inner world of the other party.
Put yourself in the shoes of others and put yourself in an equal position with the other person, but don't be overly sympathetic to others.
Listening to other people's secrets and ensuring that you can keep them is the basic moral bottom line of being a human being.
People are mutually helpful, people help others within their own ability, and they also appropriately ask for help from others when they need it.
Don't make yourself sad because you want to help others, don't force others to help you, giving both sides the right space is the way to get along for a long time.
Make friends according to their own inner feelings to choose, rather than looking at each other's money, status and whether they can bring benefits to themselves, real friends can bring inner peace to each other.
If a person affects their own inner peace, then it is possible to intentionally maintain distance, and if one has to deal with it for work reasons, then it is also possible to maintain appropriate psychological distance.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" >04 Don't think too much about it, just live in the moment</h1>
In any case, don't ignore what's in front of you, that's the most important thing. Whether it is your own work, children, or housework, no matter what, you can't let the life in front of you live in a messy and depressed way.
People are always uneasy about the unpredictable future, always worried about what should be done in the future, worried that there will be bad situations in the future.
In life, there are always all kinds of accidental times, and it is impossible to plan everything into each stage of life.
As long as we live every day with our hearts, do a good job in the present, eat when we should eat, sleep when we should sleep, even if we encounter any difficulties, we will always solve it.
Difficulties, contradictions and suffering are the norm in life, there are various difficulties in life, every difficulty is a tribulation of life, experiencing difficulties will grow, and every difficulty is the wealth of life.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" >05 Life doesn't have to work too hard and accept every day frankly</h1>
In short, as long as you live, there will always be a way in life. It must be okay to be able to eat enough, to sleep well, to have a job that maintains a minimum life. Even if something goes wrong, don't care too much.
Many people always have all kinds of troubles in their lives at work.
Their own ideals cannot be realized, things cannot meet their expectations, children cannot meet their own requirements, and so on.
People will always think that it is not okay to do things better than others.
In fact, we don't have to strive for perfection in everything, and no one can do everything to the best, we just need to do what we can.
When your own ability and actual situation are not enough to do things to the extreme, as long as you do to avoid failure is also very good, rather than the pursuit of perfection and frustration, it is better to stick to it in a clumsy way.
< h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > concluding remarks</h1>
Others may give you all kinds of advice, but in the end you have to rely on yourself. At the end of the day, it's all about figuring out how you live and what you want to do.
90-year-old Hengzi grandma, with her own life told us that life does not have to be too hard, frankly accept every day, life is their own, we only need to explain to ourselves, how to live, what kind of life to live.
Her life is neither dashing nor efficient, but at any time, she will do what is in front of her
Life doesn't have to be vigorous, and it's good to live every day plainly.
I am @ Dalu Relief Museum, trying to live in the way I like, firmly believe that reading is wise, most of the world's problems can be solved by reading, I wish everything is beautiful!
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