Wei Yongkang's success and failure are inseparable from his mother Zeng Xuemei, who taught a child prodigy, but destroyed a child prodigy.
When his son was persuaded to leave the school, Zeng Xuemei angrily scolded: "Such a good condition is not angry, you go to die."
She had too many expectations of her son, and when the expectations were dashed, disappointment struck like a sea of mountains.
How can a child be raised to be so good? And what kind of behavior will be discouraged by the school?
This all starts with Zeng Xuemei's education of his son.
Wei Yongkang was born in June 1983 in Huarong County, Hunan Province. Wei Yongkang's father, who had participated in the War to Resist US Aggression and Aid Korea, was wounded in battle and remained paralyzed in bed after retiring from the army. The family's large and small affairs are mainly taken care of by his wife Zeng Xuemei, who is a hard-working woman who supports the family with strong willpower.
She works as a sales clerk in a department store near her home, working and caring for her sick husband without complaining. The birth of his son Wei Yongkang added infinite joy to this somewhat sad family.
Zeng Xuemei hopes that her son will be able to honor his ancestors when he grows up and become the pride of her and her husband.
Zeng Xuemei suffered a lot of hardships in life because of her low education. She firmly believes that "knowledge can change destiny".
When Wei Yongkang was 3 months old, Zeng Xuemei began to cultivate his son intentionally, often reading Tang poems in front of his son and teaching his son to recognize words with cards.
The little baby is innocent and ignorant of the guidance of the mother, but the dripping water can penetrate the stone, and the accumulation of infiltration education has no small effect.
One day, Zeng Xuemei brought her one-year-old and 6-month-old son to the company to play, and a colleague was idle and bored, saw the little boy crawling around on the ground, and suddenly asked: "Can you write, I will give you a peanut rice if you write a word." ”
The male colleague raised the peanut in his hand to the baby, he just wanted to make a joke to tease the child, but did not want Wei Yongkang to nod seriously, took the chalk handed by others, Wei Yongkang wrote one word after another on the ground, and he kept getting the peanut, laughing uncontrollably.
Wei Yongkang wrote a total of seventy or eighty words on the ground, and the colleagues who were watching on the sidelines were shocked and closed their mouths.
Wei Yongkang has known thousands of words at the age of 2, jumped directly from the 2nd grade to the 6th grade in the primary school, and entered the county key middle school at the age of 8.
The identity of the prodigy is destined not to be buried, through various media reports, Wei Yongkang's name gradually spread throughout the local county, becoming a typical child of other people's families, is the object of comparison that many parents often quote when criticizing their own children.
In an interview, Zeng Xuemei proudly told her goddaughter method, she will take care of her son's big and small affairs, so that her son can study without hesitation.
After his 8-year-old son entered middle school, Zeng Xuemei began his accompanying career.
Zeng Xuemei, who always firmly believes that "everything is under the quality but the reading is high", does not want her son to be divided by other things, the son brushes his teeth, she squeezes the toothpaste; the son eats, she feeds; the son gets up early, she helps him dress.
Wei Yongkang didn't have to do anything at home, and he reached for food to open his mouth.
Zeng Xuemei believes that this is saving more study time for her son, but invisibly ignores the importance of self-care ability to a child.
Wei Yongkang had no friends, at first, Zeng Xuemei received a call from Wei Yongkang's classmates, inviting Wei Yongkang to go out to play, and she always let her son refuse.
After a long time, no one contacted Wei Yongkang, and people who did not fit in would not be welcome.
While the other children were still having fun, he was already preparing for the college entrance examination.
At the age of 13, Wei Yongkang was admitted to the Department of Physics of Xiangtan University in Hunan Province. His mother did not want him to live in the dormitory, but applied to the school to accompany him. Considering that Wei Yongkang was a rare genius, the school agreed to Zeng Xuemei's request.
The school arranged a part-time job as a handyman for Zeng Xuemei at the school, and allocated a one-bedroom house for her and her son for mother and son to live in.
Wei Yongkang longed for freedom in his heart, but he did not have the courage to rebel against his mother, he was accustomed to being arranged by his mother, and he had lost the ability to choose independently.
Zeng Xuemei's accompanying days lasted until Wei Yongkang graduated at the age of 17.
Wei Yongkang was admitted to the Institute of High Energy Physics of the Chinese Academy of Sciences with the second overall score and became a master's and doctoral student.
When Zeng Xuemei heard this good news, she just smiled faintly, she never had any distrust of her son's strength, and such a result was expected. If the son does not get admitted, it is an accident.
Zeng Xuemei still wanted to continue reading, but Wei Yongkang objected this time. He was 17 years old and longed for independence.
Zeng Xuemei did not insist on his own opinion this time and agreed to his son's request.
She was relieved that her son would be a wonderful adult. Without her company, I believe that Wei Yongkang can still live a very wonderful life.
But the truth made Zeng Xuemei dare not believe it.
After Wei Yongkang moved into the school dormitory, he became a strange person in the eyes of his roommates.
He did not understand the common sense of life at all, and he had no ability to live.
Even when the weather was cold, he wore thick clothes; when the weather was hot, he wore thin clothes; such basic common sense, he could not understand.
In Beijing in winter, the weather was cold and the snow was fluttering, once he wore a single coat and slippers to visit Tiananmen, the tourists next to him looked at him like a monster, Wei Yongkang was unconscious, he only felt very cold, but he did not notice the strange eyes of the people around him.
He has been living in his own world for many years, and he has lost the ability to observe the color.
He spends all his time studying, and although he is separated from his mother, he still lives in the shadow of his mother, and he will not enjoy the joy of university life while studying like other classmates.
He hid in his dormitory all day reading, but he couldn't even remember the exam time, just because in the past, it was always his mother who reminded him of the exam time, and he didn't need to bother to remember this.
Now, he is independent, but he can't completely correct his previous habits.
He was disheveled every day, he rarely washed his clothes, there was a smell on his body, he threw his changed clothes everywhere, and the whole room was smelly and baked.
Three years later, 20-year-old Wei Yongkang was persuaded to resign from school. The school had talked to Wei Yongkang many times, but he had never seen him change if he knew that he was wrong.
When Zeng Xuemei came to pick up her son and take her son home, her mood dropped to the extreme. However, no matter how she insulted her son, his son did not say a word, which made her even more angry.
Zeng Xuemei pointed to the building of the Chinese Academy of Sciences and asked her son: "Why don't you jump off the building", the son did not speak, she pointed to the traffic of the road, asked her son why not crash the car, she scolded her son: "Such good conditions you do not argue, you go to die"
Zeng Xuemei scolded and chattered all the way, until the family still did not calm the anger. Wei Yongkang seemed to be numb, just stupidly allowing his mother to scold.
Zeng Xuemei's husband, who was lying on the bed, could not stop his wife's mouth, and could not help but exhort: "The pressure on the child is already so great, and you still scold him like this, it is adding fuel to the fire!" ”
"He's so angry, he's going to die!" I still care about him! Zeng Xuemei did what she said, she rarely cared about her son anymore, and although the two were under the same roof, they rarely communicated again.
Wei Yongkang shut himself in his room all day playing with the computer, and no one could guess what he was thinking.
His mother, Zeng Xuemei, suffered a lot because her son fell off the altar. In the past, she lived in the envious eyes of her neighbors. Now, she wants to be invisible when she goes out.
Zeng Xuemei later recalled that when her son first dropped out of school, her mental journey
"As soon as I walked out of this house, I felt as if everyone was looking at me with a joke. In our small county, Wei Yongkang's name has always been a household name. I used to be most relieved to be talked about how my son was, but now I'm most afraid of people talking to me about him. ”
Once full of joy and laughter, the family of three is now full of sorrow and the atmosphere is depressing.
Zeng Xuemei was in pain in his heart, Wei Yongkang was not, he could not get his mother's understanding, he decided to break the jar and break it.
Wei Yongkang often ran away from home, the longest time, he was away from home for 39 days, and he only used more than 500 yuan to travel to 16 provinces and cities. Wei Yongkang carried out the spirit of the poor wanderers to the fullest, and if he had not reached the point where he was exhausted and penniless, he could continue to swim.
A penny overwhelmed the hero and the good man, and Wei Yongkang finally returned home with the help of the police.
He thought that his mother was going to scold him again, but he did not expect that Zeng Xuemei would not scold this time, Zeng Xuemei could not forget the situation of her son leaving that day, it was precisely because she hated iron and steel that she beat her son, so that her son left angrily.
In the 39 days since her son left, she was worried that she would not be able to sleep well.
She was afraid that Wei Yongkang would really die, and Zeng Xuemei realized that no matter what kind of failure her son experienced, he was her dearest and dearest person, not to mention that she had an unshirkable responsibility for her son's failure.
Zeng Xuemei changed, no longer violent and angry. With her encouragement, Wei Yongkang regained his courage in life.
Zeng Xuemei was like teaching a child, once again patiently teaching his son how to be a normal person. Wei Yongkang gradually learned to wash his own clothes, clean up, cut fruits, etc.
His father was paralyzed in bed, and he would bring tea and water every day and chat with his father.
His mother asked him to buy vegetables, he knew that the family was in financial difficulties now, and he also knew how to shop around, only choosing the cheapest one to buy, which can be described as a small expert in saving money.
He knew that the lotus tip of a supermarket was the cheapest, 3 pieces of 4 mao 5 a pound, just bought there a few times, one day rose to 3 pieces of 8 mao 4 a pound, he ran to several other supermarkets, found more expensive than here, and then simply did not buy, only bought 5 cents a piece of tofu back. Buying rice is also the cheapest rice to buy 1 piece of 04 cents. ”
When the reporter comes to the house for an interview, he will greet him warmly and send the cut watermelon to the driver waiting in the car: "The driver's uncle is hard, please eat a piece of watermelon!" ”
Zeng Xuemei looked at her son's transformation in her eyes, and she was very pleased that "Yongkang is really grown up now and knows how to care about others!" ”
In 2005, Wei Yongkang was invited to work at an aerospace research institute in Shanghai, and he also gained love during his time in Shanghai. A girl named Fu Bi came into his life. In 2008, the two went to Shenzhen to develop together.
After Wei Yongkang became a family, he and his wife had a son and a daughter, and the family of four lived a happy and happy life.
In 2009, Wei Yongkang was admitted as a graduate student at Beijing University of Technology. He later worked on software development.
Wei Yongkang's future is still very long, but he is no longer confused.
Life is like a marathon, and the winner is the winner who runs to the end.