Nowadays, there are more and more people who are afraid of social terror, and even anime has no shortage of social terrorist characters, such as "I am not popular, how to think is your fault!" Tomoko Kuroki, the widow of "Welcome to NHK".
Neither of these works is very brilliant, but there are many people who can find resonance, because we have also experienced or are in this lonely state of not being able to fit into the group.
Social fear is a bleak presence in the crowd, often the appearance is not outstanding, the sense of existence is weak, it takes a lot of effort to communicate with people, others take the initiative to greet themselves will feel embarrassed and cramped, in order to avoid meeting people they know, you can hide or turn around and walk away, is this like a wise son who meets teachers and classmates?
When a new environment is about to be ushered in, like Tomoko, he will more or less imagine that he can have a peaceful or good life when he goes to school or enters a new company, will encounter some people or some things that can change himself, and also speculates that he may be better than imagined, but the reality often backfires.
Wanting to become popular and changing your hairstyle and dress, but finding that it is not suitable for you; because you care about the opinions of others, you lie that you have a partner or play games and cheat, too much force leads to self-defeating; you become cynical because you find that even if you try hard, you can't change anything and become cynical, and you have the extreme idea of blaming everything on people and things other than yourself.
Tomoko is ridiculed and ostracized because she is out of place with her surroundings, and wants to give up the change and let herself do this, a widow, and unconsciously many people show kindness to her. The teenager who left her an umbrella, the same table that took the initiative to share the textbook with her, the uncle who pulled her a little bit by the river on a rainy day, even if Tomoko didn't realize it, it also affected her little by little.
In the manga, Tomoko, who has a severe communication problem, gradually gets rid of the image of a bereaved woman and slowly becomes popular. In reality, most of the society will not have such extreme ideas and various shameful plays of abuse, and naturally they cannot reach the realm of Tomoko opening a harem, but the bland and realistic appearance of "Welcome to NHK".
The same is social fear, Tomoko is just a widow who is not good at socializing but wants to change, and NHK's Sato actively gives up socializing and allows herself to become a dead house with waste firewood.
Before dropping out of college and becoming a family squat, Sato was an ordinary youth. Good academic performance, although he has not been in love, but there are people he likes who are also liked by others, living a dull life indifferently, although there is no exact explanation of why he has become a waste of firewood, but he has indeed become a social fear, watching him feel sorry for this while he can't make changes.
People who are not good at communication do not necessarily hate communication, and most people who do not like communication are not good at communication, and most of the social fear belongs to the latter. Is it difficult to say hello to others, contact friends more often, communicate with colleagues at work, and don't always stay alone? It is not difficult, after all, when others take the initiative to say hello, social fear can respond.
Going to school, working, or even staying at home, there will be people around you, and it will inevitably need to communicate, and of course it can be done. But if you want to take the initiative to communicate with people who don't have a very good relationship, you are not willing to do so unless necessary. Because I don't like it, I can't do it well, and I don't have to. You can be comfortable alone, and you can have like-minded confidants, which is enough, after all, for social fear, interpersonal communication is really quite laborious.
Social fear will indeed bring trouble at a certain time to become an obstacle, because of the shame of communication and expression and miss the people they like, do not know how to justify when they are misunderstood, do not dare to ask people for help can only complete certain things more difficult, workplace promotion and salary increase is more without social fear of anything, not to be found by others to throw the pot is already lucky, social fear in the inner sense of security and external anxiety is often difficult to find a balance.
Because of the appearance of Cape and the pressure of survival, Sato finally stepped out of the house. He no longer locked himself in the house and indulged in delusions, and he took a part-time job at night to get rid of the family squat. Compared with the rest of NHK and the widow tomoko, his change seems to be like that, neither cheerful nor positive, but in the end it is a change.
So does the social fear need to change? If the severity is like Tomoko and Sato, definitely. If it does not affect daily life, then it depends on the individual's thoughts and pursuits. In terms of reality, probably many social terrorists are like widows joining NHK, jumping back and forth between wanting to change and not having to. #社恐 #