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A few days ago, @Ping An Beijing Chaoyang officially reported that someone was engaged in prostitution in a community in Chaoyang, and then the illegal person suspected of prostitution on the Internet was Li Yundi, the "piano prince".
On this incident, let's talk to everyone, why do people go to prostitution?
Many people will think that there is a stereotype, as if it is lustful and greasy people will go to prostitution, but often we will find a lot of very clean-looking and very well-behaved men, they will also do this behavior, there are several reasons:
First, there is no way to enter into a long-term intimate relationship. Each of us wants to have an intimate relationship, so it can't last long, we will choose a short-term intimate relationship, prostitution is a short-term intimate relationship, because at least the body is close, with constantly changing sexual objects to obtain temporary false sexual intimacy;
Second, when we are such a person who is very well-behaved, very obedient, very obedient, we will have a rebellious desire within us to do something immoral, like a child kicking a trash can on the road, this immoral thing may be a rebellious act, a feeling that I want to be autonomous;
Third, for a child who grows up around a mother who is slightly strong or takes care of herself, this child may become a tool for her mother, and we are not willing to do tools, so in the process of prostitution, the other party is this tool person, and it seems that I have a more sense of control;
Fourth, the sacrificial mother gives the child the emotional substance, and the child gets it with a sense of guilt. Using the other party as a tool person in prostitution also produces guilt. Paying money can compensate for such guilt.
So to meet these points, a lot of people will go to the risk of doing something like this can be explained. It's just that some people do it, some people want to do it, and some people choose not to do it.
Again, of course: prostitution is again.
About the author
Hu Shenzhi is a relationship psychologist.
Founder of Sunflower Papa.
One of the 50 most influential psychologists in China.
Founder of Sunflower Psychological Counseling.
Vice Chairman of the China Psychological Service Institutions Alliance.
Consultant of CCTV "Psychological Interview".
20 years of consulting practice, 15,000 hours of case experience.